Trying to get pregnant at thirteen.

Raeily · October 2012

I've been cleaning all day and taking breaks to watch old videos from day time tv on you tube. I hate these shows but for some reason I couldn't stop watching them today. >.<

I just watched an episode of The Tyra Banks Show called "The Teen Pregnancy Epidemic". I think it aired around when Jamie Lynn Spears got pregnant but I'm not sure. And EEK! To hear some of these girls. I can't imagine getting pregnant at thirteen! I mean, I know that my whole life I've wanted to be a mom. I was that weird little girl that was looking for my soul mate at six (I was very dramatic). But even though I knew I wanted to have kids someday I never considered having one so young!

I really do respect girls who get pregnant and take responsibility and turn their lives around. I know there are some wonderful teen moms out there and I wish them the best. But to TRY to get pregnant at seventeen, fifteen, THIRTEEN!? *shudder*

And then I wonder what I'll do if my little girl grows up and wants to have a baby when she's still a little girl. What would I do if I found out she was TRYING? Sorry. I think this has all gotten in my head a little bit too much. :P I need to clean more...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V_W6QtmuDMU&feature=relmfu

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · October 2012

I think a lot (most, if not all) of these girls feel like they don't get unconditional love from their parents/famillies, so they want a baby, thinking the baby will love them unconditionally b/c it's a baby. It's so sad.

I don't think you have anything to worry about with your daughter...

Smiley-1980 · October 2012

My father always told me if I thought I was old enough to have a baby then I was old enough to move out on my own. That scared me enough and I didn't even have sex until I was 18. I even asked to be put on the pill at 17 just in case.

Raeily · October 2012

CherylAnn789:
I think a lot (most, if not all) of these girls feel like they don't get unconditional love from their parents/famillies, so they want a baby, thinking the baby will love them unconditionally b/c it's a baby. It's so sad.

I don't think you have anything to worry about with your daughter...

I hope I don't have to worry. :P But I'm sure a lot of these parents don't think that they're lacking in any way. *shrug* It's just scary to think about.

Raeily · October 2012

Smiley-1980:
My father always told me if I thought I was old enough to have a baby then I was old enough to move out on my own. That scared me enough and I didn't even have sex until I was 18. I even asked to be put on the pill at 17 just in case.

I had a really really rocky relationship with my Mother and she kicked me out after I turned 18 and I lived with my boyfriend after that, even through that I didn't start having sex for another year and even then I was so scared that the BC and the condoms weren't going to work and I was going to end up pregnant.

We'd been together for 4 years already and we both had jobs but I still knew we were no where near ready for a kid. One of those girls is thirteen and has been with her boyfriend for 2 months and wants to have a baby!? *facepalm*

It just stresses me out.

Alyssa102 · October 2012

DD had extremely bad colic and cried/screamed for 12 hours straight most days. We video taped her one day and we plan on showing it to her when she is 16 as a form of birth control. lol.

But seriously, I agree with PP, these girls are obviously looking for some sort of unconditional love and feel a baby is the only way to achieve this.

Jbosarge85 · October 2012

One of my childhood friends started having babies at 14, with a Hispanic man that didn't even speak the same language as her. Dunno how you can call that a relationship, but she did. And kept having kids after that, she's now 24 and has 6 kids, only 4 of which she has custody of (her mother took custody of the other 2). Her life was pretty sad when she was younger no idea why she wanted to keep having kids most of her children have different fathers. With her last child she asked the hospital to tie her tubes and they refused because she was only 21, I think that's ridiculous, it should be her choice.

SittinUnderAPalmTree · October 2012

When I was in sixth grade, I remember an eight grader being pregnant. Imagine being 30 years old with a 16/17 year old??

Raeily · October 2012

Alyssa102:
DD had extremely bad colic and cried/screamed for 12 hours straight most days. We video taped her one day and we plan on showing it to her when she is 16 as a form of birth control. lol.

But seriously, I agree with PP, these girls are obviously looking for some sort of unconditional love and feel a baby is the only way to achieve this.

I think I might still this idea. Lots of video of screaming, crying baby... great idea!

zonagirlie · October 2012

Jbosarge85:
One of my childhood friends started having babies at 14, with a Hispanic man that didn't even speak the same language as her. Dunno how you can call that a relationship, but she did. And kept having kids after that, she's now 24 and has 6 kids, only 4 of which she has custody of her mother took custody of the other 2. Her life was pretty sad when she was younger no idea why she wanted to keep having kids most of her children have different fathers. With her last child she asked the hospital to tie her tubes and they refused because she was only 21, I think that's ridiculous, it should be her choice.

That's sick. I'd show then the six kids and be like "you want them?!"

LaurelBee · October 2012

I was still playing with Barbies at 13. It makes me really sad to hear stories like this and disgusted bc the "men" they are sleeping with are most likely over 17, which is rape.

Jbosarge85 · October 2012

zonagirlie:
Jbosarge85:
One of my childhood friends started having babies at 14, with a Hispanic man that didn't even speak the same language as her. Dunno how you can call that a relationship, but she did. And kept having kids after that, she's now 24 and has 6 kids, only 4 of which she has custody of her mother took custody of the other 2. Her life was pretty sad when she was younger no idea why she wanted to keep having kids most of her children have different fathers. With her last child she asked the hospital to tie her tubes and they refused because she was only 21, I think that's ridiculous, it should be her choice.
That's sick. I'd show then the six kids and be like "you want them?!"

well apparently I had it a little wrong but I think the real reason is worse. She's on medicaid and only 2 of the children she has legal custody of, so medicaid refused to pay for it because she wasn't "maxed out on children." She told them, I have 6, and they said but you are only financially liable for 2. So in order to have the surgery done it would be out of pocket.

brianabrad · October 2012

I hope I don't get flamed but these girls sound so dumb! I mean how can you think that getting pregnant will get you and your ex closer when he clearly says he doesn't want a baby. Someone please smack these girls!

Raeily · October 2012

brianabrad:
I hope I don't get flamed but these girls sound so dumb! I mean how can you think that getting pregnant will get you and your ex closer when he clearly says he doesn't want a baby. Someone please smack these girls!

If you watch the whole thing it was kinda funny because at the end Tyra Banks just tells them that some of them sound flat out stupid. :P

MichelleEZcheck · October 2012

SittinUnderAPalmTree:
When I was in sixth grade, I remember an eight grader being pregnant. Imagine being 30 years old with a 16/17 year old??

^This. I remember when I started 7th grade (back in 1991) and there was an 8th grader who was significantly pregnant. Her friends threw her a baby shower right there where the lockers were. I remember being floored- I couldn't imagine having a 13 year old when I was 26! It didn't scare me off of anything but it definitely opened my eyes to the reality of "what could happen" and made me consider my choices very carefully.

leller00 · November 2012

My heart breaks for these young girls, they have no idea what they are getting themselves into. I will try to keep this short... When I was 12 I was raped by a neighbor and wound up pregnant. My mother would not allow me to have an abortion or give the baby up for adoption and it probably didn't help that I never told anyone about the rape until I was 16. Because of other issues as well as the pregnancy CPS got involved and I was taken away and had to live in a group home. I spent my pregnancy alone, scared, and confused. When my first stretch mark appeared I was convinced I was being torn apart. I also developed a very severe case of preeclampsia (back then they called it toxemia) that went undiagnosed for weeks and we both nearly died. I remember sitting outside the door of the doctors office and hearing her tell my mother "she is a ticking time bomb, if we don't induce they could both die". Labor was terrifying and painful; I kept throwing up and passing out from the pain. The first few weeks of my sons life were confusing and hard; I was still living at the group home and they would not help me at all. He cried all night and I didn't know what to do. He got RSV at six weeks and because I was a child myself I didn't know illness in a NB should be addressed immediately and he almost died, he was airvaced to the ICU and he was on a breathing machine for six weeks. All of that was hard enough and the way people look at you and treat you is very psychologically damaging. My mother regained custody of us both and everyone knew I had a baby and I was dubbed the town whore. I spent my teen years being constantly questioned and tormented by other kids and adults. Long story short (sort of) my mother adopted him when I was 15 and when she died 6 years ago I had no legal right to him and he was adopted by another family. It is an open adoption thank goodness and we talk every week. The point is these girls are kids, they are not ready physically or psychologically for motherhood and it breaks my heart that they want to give up their right to a childhood. Everyone deserves one, it only happens once, and it is fleeting.

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