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Helping other children understand loss

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SD is 4.5 and was so excited about baby Isaiah. We tried our best to help her understand that once Isaiah was born, he wouldn't come home with us right away because the doctor had to fix his heart. The other day she asked me if Isaiah was in Heaven with her grandfather. I told her that he was, but not to worry because there were plenty of people there to take care of him and play with him. I said, "He's not sick anymore." Then she asked if we could take him home since he wasn't sick anymore. 

When I said no, she started to cry. I told her that it was okay to be sad & it was okay to miss Isaiah. The next morning she didn't want to eat her breakfast because she was "sad Isaiah's not coming back from Heaven".

I don't know how her mom handles this when SD asks at home, which makes it that much harder. 

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  • starburst0928starburst0928

    I don't have a living child, but my loss group handed out this book to parents who did.

    https://www.amazon.com/Were-Gonna-Have-Angel-Instead/dp/0972424113

    Not sure how helpful it will be for your situation, but wanted to make you aware it existed!  

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    imagestarburst0928:

    I don't have a living child, but my loss group handed out this book to parents who did.

    https://www.amazon.com/Were-Gonna-Have-Angel-Instead/dp/0972424113

    Not sure how helpful it will be for your situation, but wanted to make you aware it existed!  

    A friend of mine gave me this book for my daughter who wasn't quite 4 when we lost Annabelle. She loved it and it is well written. We actually had to put it away because she wanted to read it every night and when we had bad days, it was hard to get through it. 

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    imagestarburst0928:

    I don't have a living child, but my loss group handed out this book to parents who did.

    https://www.amazon.com/Were-Gonna-Have-Angel-Instead/dp/0972424113

    Not sure how helpful it will be for your situation, but wanted to make you aware it existed!  

    I'm on an iPad... Sorry the link didn't work. It's called We Were Gonna Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead

     

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  • mcarter127mcarter127 member
    Ds1 has had a very tough time since we lost Eli. We got 2 books that have been very helpful. The first is called "The Invisible String" by Patrice Karst. it is lighter & talks about how we're always connected to our loved ones no matter where they are. The second one is called "Something happened" by Cathy Blanford. It talks more honestly about infant/neonatal death but in very simple, easy to understand terms. I hope these help you & Im so so sorry for your loss!
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