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cole2144
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No one else will ever know the strength of my love for you. After all, you are the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside.
It is stuff like this that makes me crazy
cole2144
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As most of you know, my husband asked to have SD to take her trick or treating for Halloween and BM said no but she did agree that we could come see SD for a few minutes in her costume. So for the past two days my husband has asked her what time she was taking her out (BM takes her out at her sisters which is only a 5 min drive from our new home) but BM was not sure or did not answer. He asked her yesterday morning over email with no reply from her all day. Then she finally texts DH about it to say, "We are leaving my sisters to go out in 20 minutes so if you want to see her get there before then." Really BM! My husband was just leaving work but had he had been given notice he would have left early to get there at whatever time she said. So we did not get to see her at all.
DH then asked if he could have SD after trick or treating overnight since he let BM pick her up a day early on his last weekend and because SD has off school the next two days. She said no, her boyfriend is watching her. Yet just last week she had an issue with me watching her while DH is at work. We are married, they are not. SD has a brother at our house and no siblings at her mom`s.DH emailed her about both situations and she said stop emailing me.
Our custody court date was cancelled Tuesday due to the storm, all I want is for this bs to be over.
No one else will ever know the strength of my love for you. After all, you are the only one who knows what my heart sounds like from the inside.This discussion has been closed.
Re: It is stuff like this that makes me crazy
It sounds like she is very bitter and resentful.
The bolded part I would be raging about. BUT if you ask for ROFR in court it will work both ways. For that reason I don't see what you can do about it.
I feel for your DH, I can't imagine sitting home wanting to spend time with your child and knowing she is home alone with another man.
I have to say, although it says a lot about her mother it also says a lot about the bf. If DH was working and BM wanted to take SS for a couple of hours I would absolutely hand him over.
It?s sad that she absolutely cannot put her anger and resentment aside for the sake of her DD.
DH and I both get along well with her boyfriend, he is very friendly. My husband is thankful that he is very good to SD. My husband introduced himself to him as soon as they started dating while BM refused to meet me until DH and I had been together for going on 2 years, and that was only because we both attended SD`s school function (her boyfriend was also there).
I am so sad for my husband as BM tries so hard to push him out of SD`s life. I feel awful for my SD. BM should be glad that SD has a dad who loves her.
First thought: What a b!tch.
Second: That woman is going to hate life when you guys finally get a CO in place...
Lol
Seriously! BM thinks she's in control, and she's going to HATE it when the CO is in place and she cannot make you guys follow her rules.
I definitely agree that a SP should take priority over a BF/GF - the SP is a much more permanent fixture in the child's life. Although, I don't think it's fair for you to play the "SD has a sibling here and not at your house" card. Who cares? Just because DH decided to procreate again and BM did not does mean that you should automatically get more time with SD. When you are weighing SD hanging out with just BM's BF versus SD hanging out with SM & brother, then that should win out.
I am just saying that I think it is better for SD to spend the day off hanging with her brother that she loves but only gets to see for three days out of 14 rather than her mom`s bf who she lives with and sees everyday. DH and I do take issue with the fact she does not want her with me when I am married to her father and I am her step parent.
It probably drives her crazy. If your DH was a crappy father at least she could play the 'wow is me' card.
Roll on the day the CO is in hand.
^^ This. It seems that when the BD is loving, caring and wanting to be as involved as possible, there are BM's that are extra co-dependent on the child and bitter and controlling. It makes little to no sense why the BM is so angry and unwilling to co-parent.
Yet those BM's that are dealing with craptastic BD's (myself included) have just kind of resigned ourselves to the fact that we have a child with a complete DC. We hope that one day the DC's will come to their senses and start doing right by their children, but ultimately know it's not going to happen. And we would kill for the DC's to act like the loving, caring BD's that other children seem to have.
OP - I cannot wait for your husband to finally have his day in Court and to finally have a resolution in this nonsense. I am hoping and praying that all of BM's games and manipulations come to light and bite her hard in the you-know-what.
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