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Beth.1212
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My shower is at noon on Saturday. (Yay!) My DH just talked to the host, who suggested that I arrive between 12:20 and 12:30. I could understand if it was a surprise shower - you'd want to give guests a chance to arrive and get settled - but I'm not sure why I wouldn't arrive at noon since I know about it. I was thinking it would be nice to greet people as they arrived. That'd make it easier to make sure that I spoke with everyone for at least a little while.
If you knew about your shower, did you arrive before your guests? At the same time? After?
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Re: Plan to arrive late?
"Don't marry a man unless you would be PROUD to have a son exactly like him." ~ Unknown
This. It would be very awkward for a guest to arrive and the only person she knows is the guest of honor. You should be there to greet the guests as they come.
I've only been to a couple of showers where the MTB was not there and they were surprise showers.
I think it would be very rude to arrive late. No one really cares if you "make an entrance".
I made sure I was the first to arrive at all my showers. It was nice to be able to greet each guest as they arrived. If I had arrived late, I would have felt like I spent the entire time running around and playing catch up.
I would plan to arrive 15-20 minutes before the scheduled start time. You want to stay out of your hostesses way, but it will give you a chance to snap a few pictures of all the decorations and tables before guests arrive and you can sit for a few minutes and prepare for the festivities to begin.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
So glad someone asked this - I just asked my host (mom and sis) what time they want me there and they said on time or a little early-
So its doesnt seem rude if you are there to greet the guests? I guess my thoughts is would it look like I was throwing the shower if i was the one there to greet?
My plan was to arrive on time.
Me and DH - 26years old; IF DX: PCOS, Hypothyroid/Hashimotos(me)
IVF #1 April 2012- 15 ER (4/13), 13 Fertilized, 1 transfered (4/16), 3 frozen
Beta #1(4/28)-127 Beta #2(4/30)-301 Beta #3(5/7)-5570!!
First ultrasound showed 1 strong little heart beat! (5/25) 7/16.. ITS A BOY!
Brayden Nicholas Born Dec 29 2012 - 7 lbs 10 oz 20 in
Thanks for your responses! They helped confirm for me that I shouldn't get there late, and I'm not being crazy/unreasonable by wanting to be there on time.
I've spoken with the host myself, and she's used to surprise showers so she just assumed the guest of honor always showed up after the other guests. She was a little resistant at first, but overall she's ok with me coming at noon. It turns out that she can only get into the venue at 11:30 and was concerned about having everything set up and really didn't want me there early, so I'll try to arrive at the restaurant a few minutes early and then walk into the event room promptly at noon.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
good to know!
Thanks Ladies
Me and DH - 26years old; IF DX: PCOS, Hypothyroid/Hashimotos(me)
IVF #1 April 2012- 15 ER (4/13), 13 Fertilized, 1 transfered (4/16), 3 frozen
Beta #1(4/28)-127 Beta #2(4/30)-301 Beta #3(5/7)-5570!!
First ultrasound showed 1 strong little heart beat! (5/25) 7/16.. ITS A BOY!
Brayden Nicholas Born Dec 29 2012 - 7 lbs 10 oz 20 in
That is rude to your guests. They would have to sit around for 20 - 30 minutes twiddling their thumbs waiting for you to show up. After 15 minutes I'd probably take off and go home. My time is valuable to me even if it isn't valuable to the guest of honor. Do YOU like sitting/standing around waiting 30 minutes for something to start, happen, like weddings, doctor's appointments, movies, dinners, birthday parties, etc. I would hate that.
It's what the hostess specifically requested that I do. There was an issue with the venue not getting opened for her until 15 minutes before the shower was supposed to start. I didn't think it was rude and no one else did either. It's not like they were just sitting around doing nothing. There were other people to chat with, food to eat, drinks to have, etc.
Very poor excuse. Just because the hostess "doesn't have a clue" doesn't make it OK for the guest of honor to be rude. If she is OK with guests getting there and her not having everything set up she should be OK with YOU getting there and not having everything set up. That is my opinion...but maybe your friends/family have a lot of time on their hands and don't mind. BTW...do you really think the guests would have pointed out how rude it was? I doubt anyone would say anything to you or your hostess at the time...but I would bet plenty was said after the shower. Seriously, if you were more than 15 minutes late...I would have been MIA when you did finally show up. Maybe I'm overly sensitive because I have a friend who is ALWAYS late (with no good excuse). We used to wait for her...but not any more. She misses a lot of fun stuff because she is always late. We've even left without her if we were meeting up and going to another venue. We just call and tell her the new place to meet us.
Thanks for your input. I'm so glad I have someone to point out my and my hostess' lack of good graces.
I agree the guest of honor should be early to the shower, so I would confirm the request to be late and evaluate from there.
My shower was going to be a surprise but I went into labor 3 days before it was scheduled. I came home from the hospital the day of the shower. And the shower was held at my house. So I had no control of what time I arrived since it was based on when I was discharged. There were a few guests at the house when I arrived, but many of them had stayed at my house for the weekend (out of town family). I showered and got dressed and then joined the party. By that point, a few more guests had arrived. So technically, I arrived after the guests although I was physically at the house before them. I circulated the room, but it was definitely more difficult to catch everyone versus greeting them as they arrived.
I would ask your hostess if there is a special reason she'd like you to arrive late and let her know you'd be more comfortable arriving at the start time of the shower.
I arrived about 15 minutes before the other guests.