I foolishly thought things were getting a little better but got told otherwise last night. He even told me he felt like we were on two separate sides of the room yelling to one another when we were side by side talking quietly about our problems.
Anyone else still have issues with their SO? We talked about making sure we had alone time that was not sexy time and I am talking to my dr tomorrow about my still (really) decreased sex drive. I think we may need more help... And the kicker is that I am a therapist!
Re: Anyone still having problems with DH?
We bicker about things all.the.time. There are days where things are great and we are able to laugh and joke like we used to but the other days are awful. We sometimes have problems like y'all where we are SO not on the same page when I thought we were... that is probably the most frustrating.
We are going out of town this weekend and J will be staying overnight with my mom for the first time without us so maybe that will help... fingers crossed.
This too!
These are the feelings that we are trying desperately to avoid and I don't know if we have already reached that point. It makes me sad and mad at the same time.
This is exactly where I'm at right now. DH is doing much, much better with E now that she's older, but I just can't get over the months and months that he spent acting like she wasn't his problem.
I'm actually going out of town in a few weeks for business, and I'm scared out of my mind about it because DH will be alone with E for two days. He's only given her bottles a handful of times, I don't think he's ever fed her a meal, he may have rocked her to sleep (mostly unsuccessfully) two or three times, and he often gets frustrated when he has to change a poopy diaper and ends up needing help. Most of their 1-on-1 interaction takes place when I'm in the shower, and he spends most of that time yelling at me to hurry up. I guess "sink or swim" time is nigh. I'm just worried that E won't get the level of care that she's used to.
I am still having issues with DH too. We have had sexy time only a couple of times since DS was born. In the meantime, I am sick and tired of being so overwhelmed and exhausted all of the time while trying to manage my joint pain too.
DH does very little next to what I do on a day to day basis. I always have to tell him everything too including yelling at him 3+ times every morning to get up. Last night and this morning I just thought I might have a break down. We need another $400 in our joint account to pay bills so I have to carry the stress of telling him to transfer more money. He has not followed up on his counseling either and he probably won't unless I nag him. There is too many little things to discuss here but I have been out of commission al week due to a flare up of my auto-inflammatory condition topped with the fall down the stairs. DH has done very little while I have been out of commission such as he makes dinner but doesn't do the dishes, He watches DS but I have to tell him to change DS's diaper. Last night he wanted to cook dinner but then had to ask me step by step how to do it and left most of the dishes in the sink. I asked him 3 mos ago to tape up the furnace and change the filter yet it still isn't done. He has borrowed the neighbors ladder for over a month to fix a small part of the roof. Our toilet is running all of the time because the flapper needs to be repaired. I just can't take it anymore! I am thinking of calling a handyman to finish up these tasks...FOR ME!
I'm so sorry that he isn't helping, especially since you are out of commission right now. Mostly I am concerned that he hasn't followed up on his counseling... ((hugs)) to you!
This. We aren't the same couple we were before. I go between mourning the loss of "us" and tryin to establish a new relationship. DH was an asshat when I was pregnant and I am holding a lot of fear and resentment toward him. I've forgiven but can't forget and it's still affecting us.