Babies: 3 - 6 Months
trojas
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I did the thing you're not supposed to do...
trojas
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For the past 2 nights I've put LO to sleep with me in the bed.
He's been extra fussy at night the last couple days- could be the teething, but I don't think it's entirely that. The last 2 nights, every time I'd put him in his crib to sleep (mind you, he was knocked out) he gets fussy and cries.
So...I put him to sleep in my bed and sure enough- he slept! Last night he went down 11:15 pm and didn't wake up til 7 this morning.
Tell me this is ok...or not! Anyone done the same thing?!
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Re: I did the thing you're not supposed to do...
yep, did it last night in fact. This is the second time I've resorted to it, because it at least gets me a couple hours uninterrupted. I think she is either teething or starting to experience separation anxiety.
We already co-sleep, but she's in a bassinette. But lately it's been pretty rough with her up every hour or more - it's like she just can't get in to that deep stage of sleep. Last night for the first time ever I told DH I was going to lose it, so he got up with her, got her back to sleep... and then the next time (20 minutes later) she woke up I just brought her into bed.
It's not ideal, and certainly not a habit I want to encourage, but sometimes you just do what you have to.
We have been bed sharing for months. We tried to transition her to the crib and it didn't go so well. Now I am back to bed sharing. If you do it safely then it is ok. L and I sleep in the guest room so it's just us two.
THIS. Sleeping with your infant of your chest, on a pillow or on the couch is not safe. It only takes one reckless night to end in tragedy.
the short reason is bc there is a biological difference (hormones, arousal, etc) b/n a mom that ff and bf. in the research they found that bf moms were easier to arouse, more prone to sleep in safer positions ad woke more frequently as well as their babies.
Because moms that BF obviously love their kids more. Duh.
Seriously, I hate when I see people on here saying that only BFing moms can cosleep because they are more "in tune" with their babies. That's such bull$hit IMO and only makes FFing moms feel like $hit.
No one is trying to make FF moms feel bad. Obviously FF moms can cosleep if they want to, but it is scientifically proven that BF moms are more biologically in tune with their babies and share similar sleep cycles so they are more easily roused, because of the hormones produced by breastfeeding. Research backs it up: https://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/articles.html.
Bedsharing is perfectly fine if you follow the guidelines for safe bedsharing that a PP posted. We bedshare for part of every night after he wakes to nurse around 2am and love it.
my intent wasn't to make anyone feel bad, but like poster below you posted there is a hormonal response that doesn't happen when FF. obviously you still love your child.
Interesting links - althogh when reading the papers linked there, it does not state that cobed is only safe for breastfed babies, only that breastfed babies feed more at night when sleeping with their mothers - and this may reduce SIDS because of the potential increase in antibodies.
The articles also mention that mothers will have a hormonal response to changes in breathing of baby, potentially also reducing SIDS by waking the mother - but not specifically only in breastfed babies (I doubt there is any research in cobedding with non-breastfeeding mothers to compare to that would demonstrate that ANY mother wouldn't have a similar response, regadless of how baby is fed).
So - I don't see any research in the linked articles that supports the statement that only BFing mothers are going to have the hormonal response. It is easy to jump to conclusions, but at least the link above doesn't support that statement.
I didn't mean to spark a debate- it's just something I've never heard before (bedsharing if breastfeeding only - of course using safe guidlines etc.).
Having coslept with 3 babies, whilst breastfeeding or EPing or FFing - I wake frequently regardless, but it works for us.
dr. Mckennas book goes into more detail if you are interested. https://www.amazon.com/Sleeping-Your-Baby-Parents-Cosleeping/dp/1930775342/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1351652801&sr=8-1&keywords=Dr.+McKenna
in response to the baby's breathing part that is why he advocates co-sleeping for everyone but just bed sharing for bf babies.
Having probs w my iPad so excuse the three separate posts. Perhaps one of these articles would explain:
https://cosleeping.nd.edu/articles-and-presentations/articles-and-essays/
I bed shared with DS and we had a very easy transition to his crib at 8 months, no CIO or big fights. I plan to do the same with DD.
OP as long as you are safe about it it will be fine.