Terrible Tuesday!

adoxyinherear · October 2012

Maybe it should be flame free terrible Tuesday, because I have an awful confession to make. Does anyone else just want to keep their LO all to themselves? I love that we have such doting family and that everyone is excited about her, but whenever someone else is holding DD and soaking up her smiles, I just want to say GIMME and hold her and love her. DH is just about the only person I'm willing to share her with!

I'm a bad, bad person.

CnAnA · October 2012

YES!!! I am the same way! This is awful, but I am that way mostly with my ILs. No real reason, they are all great with her. But she is MY baby and I want her all to myself!

[Deleted User] · October 2012

If you are a bad person, then so am I. Both times that the great grandmas have come over to see C, they have held her the whoooole time (and we're talking like 1-2 hours!) Even when she started crying because she had a dirty diaper, they didn't want to give her up!...I just wanted to snatch her up and run away! I felt like a crazy person.

CnAnA · October 2012

MrsNorry:
If you are a bad person, then so am I. Both times that the great grandmas have come over to see C, they have held her the whoooole time and we're talking like 12 hours! Even when she started crying because she had a dirty diaper, they didn't want to give her up!...I just wanted to snatch her up and run away! I felt like a crazy person.nbsp;

how obnoxious. MIL comments on how she never has socks or a hat on. "She is so cold!!" Oh? Is that why she is sweaty and red? She also bounces A on her knee. It irritates the piss out of me. I know it doesn't hurt her, but I prefer rocking her rather than bouncing.

adoxyinherear · October 2012

MrsNorry:
If you are a bad person, then so am I. Both times that the great grandmas have come over to see C, they have held her the whoooole time (and we're talking like 1-2 hours!) Even when she started crying because she had a dirty diaper, they didn't want to give her up!...I just wanted to snatch her up and run away! I felt like a crazy person.

OMG it makes me CRAZY when people won't give her back to me when I know she needs something. I know when she's starting to crab a little because she's wet or hungry, but they'll insist that she's fine and want to hold her until she's really screaming! It's ridiculous.

I also get nutty about my husband's family. I love them, they're just kind of goofy sometimes and have totally different ideas about what's appropriate than I do.

[Deleted User] · October 2012

mrs.ike:
MrsNorry:
If you are a bad person, then so am I. Both times that the great grandmas have come over to see C, they have held her the whoooole time and we're talking like 12 hours! Even when she started crying because she had a dirty diaper, they didn't want to give her up!...I just wanted to snatch her up and run away! I felt like a crazy person.nbsp;

how obnoxious. MIL comments on how she never has socks or a hat on. "She is so cold!!" Oh? Is that why she is sweaty and red? She also bounces A on her knee. It irritates the piss out of me. I know it doesn't hurt her, but I prefer rocking her rather than bouncing.

I HATE this. People are constantly telling me what temp C is. Like, really?! Pretty sure I can tell if my kid is cold/hot/whatever.

[Deleted User] · October 2012

RusalkaSings:
MrsNorry:
If you are a bad person, then so am I. Both times that the great grandmas have come over to see C, they have held her the whoooole time (and we're talking like 1-2 hours!) Even when she started crying because she had a dirty diaper, they didn't want to give her up!...I just wanted to snatch her up and run away! I felt like a crazy person.

OMG it makes me CRAZY when people won't give her back to me when I know she needs something. I know when she's starting to crab a little because she's wet or hungry, but they'll insist that she's fine and want to hold her until she's really screaming! It's ridiculous.
I also get nutty about my husband's family. I love them, they're just kind of goofy sometimes and have totally different ideas about what's appropriate than I do.

I feel the same way about MH family, especially his grandma. I cringe every time she says "how is MY baby?"...Um, your baby is 50 years old now. This is MY baby, thanks!

LoveOfMikesLife · October 2012

I don't even like to share with DH I'm more than happy to do every feeding, every diaper change and every.... Everything! He's mine mine mine mine mine..

am I a brat or what?!

piedpiper07 · October 2012

shmeell25:
I don't mind when it's certain people - DH, my mom, my sister, my brother (noticing a pattern?) but I cringe with every fiber of my being when I see MIL holding her. I don't have a very good relationship with her, though. However, I adore my FIL but I can't stand it when he holds her either. I don't think you're a bad person, I think it's normal.

this exactly!!

for me, I have been in an awful weaning/not weaning battle for a month now. I get so mad when people weigh in with the "just suck it up and do it" advice. If I could have I would have. It's just sucks being so stuck. Now I think I'm drying up from my weaning attempts and he still won't take a bottle. So whole new problem. Ahhhh!!!

kaleb87 · October 2012

I'm a horrible person. My DD had eczema real bad when she was younger, and my MIL's perfume would make it flame up like crazy. I told my MIL to quit wearing it around DD, but she wouldn't. So my DD would cry around her, and my MIL would walk off with her. So this became our excuse to not see her. This was one less person holding DD.

bmv1980 · October 2012

I'm pretty sure I agree with what everyone already wrote. I feel like a crazy person 90 percent of the time lately! My poor family...

adoxyinherear · October 2012

BandEddie:
MrsNorry:
RusalkaSings:
MrsNorry:
If you are a bad person, then so am I. Both times that the great grandmas have come over to see C, they have held her the whoooole time (and we're talking like 1-2 hours!) Even when she started crying because she had a dirty diaper, they didn't want to give her up!...I just wanted to snatch her up and run away! I felt like a crazy person.

OMG it makes me CRAZY when people won't give her back to me when I know she needs something. I know when she's starting to crab a little because she's wet or hungry, but they'll insist that she's fine and want to hold her until she's really screaming! It's ridiculous.
I also get nutty about my husband's family. I love them, they're just kind of goofy sometimes and have totally different ideas about what's appropriate than I do.
I feel the same way about MH family, especially his grandma. I cringe every time she says "how is MY baby?"...Um, your baby is 50 years old now. This is MY baby, thanks!
Oh man, I have a great relationship with my MIL, but she did call the kids "my babies" one time in an email and it STILL gets my hackles up. I married your baby, and now WE have babies. In honestly, she's tried to be respectful of our space and not being THAT MIL (she sometimes gets really up in peoples shizz but then realizes it and tries to pull up the nose), but yeah it makes me nervous.

My mother did this and I immediately corrected her. The only person who slightly gets away with it is DH's grandma, who's 83 and does pretty much whatever she wants. She calls DD "her little peanut," and I allow it, but I'd jump all over MIL in a heartbeat.

KJsbabe · October 2012

BandEddie:
Even with three, I'm realizing I really don't like it when other people hold/feed them... makes me nervous even when I know they're totally capable people (which my family mostly is, honestly). But I realize as they get closer to coming home - I don't want people around all the time, because I'm having a hard time thinking that someone else will be tending to them and not doing it the right way, even if I'm in the room. I know, in reality, I'll need help both for their physical health and my emotional health, but I find myself struggling with the idea of people coming over to lend a hand. It's weird, I know, but the idea of someone always being around (and I know, this sounds stupid, but "in my hair") is sort of more daunting to me than the idea of tending to the needs of three babies.I know this will probably change 30 seconds after someone comes home, but for now I'm really trying to accept that I'm going to need extra hands around, and that acceptance is coming hard.

This is exactly how I felt for about the first two months. I HATED having company over. Taking care of a new born wasn't overwhelming to me at all. It was having people constantly wanting to come over and "help take care" of L that was overwhelming to me. Constantly making sure that the house was picked up and L and I both looked presentable, that's what was overwhelming. And then having people come over even when I told them that it wasn't a good day to come over, that's what was overwhelming.

So, you're totally not weird for feeling that way!

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