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June 2013 Moms
Emillers
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How many are too many in the delivery room?
Emillers
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Hi,
I was just wondering who all everyone is planning on having in the delivery room. I was thinking my bf, mom, maybe a doula and maybe my sister, but that seems like a lot.
Thoughts?
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Re: How many are too many in the delivery room?
It will be just DH and I. Aside from doctors and nurses of course. It is different for everyone though. I just wouldn't feel comfortable with anyone but DH. I want it to be a special moment between us.
BFP #1: 6.26.12 EDD: 2.11.13 missed m/c: 7.31.12 @ 12 weeks
BFP #2: 10.1.12 EDD: 6.11.13 Born 6.13.13
I think it also depends on the hospital, I could be wrong though. I would love to hear more opinions on this though!
If you talk to your OB/MW and ask I'm sure as long as you aren't trying to have a 15 person party in there they will let you have what you want.
If I do a home birth like I'm hoping to this time, there will probably be five or six people present. (Dh, my mom, MIL, my sister, my doula, MW and MW's attendant)
Little M 6/16/2013
Angel baby 5/17/2014
This is what we did with DD and will do again. I'm very close with my mom, but not interested in having her partake in those very intimate moments.
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It's just me and DH and the medical crew. I had thought about asking a sister but DH didn't feel comfortable with that - it's an emotional time for him as well and I don't think he wanted his SIL infringing on that, even though they do get along. I've heard that it can be helpful to have someone who's been through it in there with you - like your mom. But I know that my mom would be way too stressed out seeing me worried or in pain so I wouldn't want to put her through that.
We're really not even fans of family in the waiting room. Last time if it hadn't been for needing someone to let the dog out we wouldn't have even told anyone we were in labor and planned to just call after they were born. This time someone will have to watch the kids so they'll know - but I don't think they'll sit at the hospital waiting, we'll probably just call for them to drive in after the baby is born.
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My mom ended up having to drive me to meet dh and head to the hospital so she hung out while I labored. When it was time to push, I couldn't have cared less who was there. And the look on my mom's face when she first saw Lucy: priceless.
This time, it will be DH, my mom, my aspiring doula BFF, and possibly my MIL. So yea, a party.
I love my midwives and I trust DH that if all the people get to be too overwhelming, they'll be ushered out.
It will just be DH, me, and medical professionals. We're not planning a doula yet, but I am interested in the idea.
Other family will be welcome after the baby is born.
TTC #1 since October 2010 | Began Testing in January 2012
DH SA - low motility with 0% morph; varicocele (repaired); low T (on Clomid)
IVF w/ICSI (long Lupron w/ Repronex and Follistim) in September 2012
This is me. Last time we told everyone to come after he was born. DH updated his parents when I was getting my epidural and unbeknownst to me they hopped in the car and drove down (about an hour and a half). They figured no one would know they were there. Then I had a csection and when I was in recovery the nurse sing songed "I've got graaaandparents in the waiting room!" I looked at DH and said "when did you call anyone?" He said he hadn't. I couldn't even be upset at that point lol
There are a lot of medical staff coming in and out so you might want to check with your hospital in case they have an opinion on the matter.
Just DH and I and medical professionals. Actually only one nurse, DH, and I were in the room when DS was born, he came so quickly.
OP, that is quite a lot of people! I had my parents come in for 15 min during labor, but I quickly kicked them out because I felt distracted.
It was a crowd but they were quiet and let me do my thing. After baby was born they baked us a cake and we celebrated! It was a lot of fun.
This time I don't know who will be there. Thinking of hiring a doula friend and having DH and photographer. My daughters want to be there but that means someone else has to come and be there for THEM so it increases the number of observers by a bit.
I want alone time with this LO and I also want time with our new family of 4 before anyone comes in. I want to experience DD's reaction to the baby with out lots of people in the way.
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DD 2: 9-15-16
DD 3: 9-16-17
Undecided. It will either be just me and DH or both of us plus my mom. My H is a total wuss when it comes to blood so I'm thinking having my mom there would be a good idea when the going gets tough and there is a lot of blood/etc going on... However, due to the fact that I plan to be team green, it makes me want to just have DH and I in the room so we get to find out first and it's not "unfair" that my mom finds out before the rest of the fam.
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When I was pregnant with my first, I was pretty adamant it would just be my DH and I. As time went on, I saw the value in having my sister and my mom in the room (My sister had 4 babies by that point and is a nurse---my mom was in the room for all 4 deliveries). I ended up being in labor for over 18 hours...and it was such a blessing having them there to encourage me, bring me ice & most of all...to give my husband a break! My sister videotaped so many special moments that would have been missed---like my husband going out to the waiting room to tell his parents the baby was here!
With baby #2 I was in labor for less than 5 hours from start to finish---and the hospital was short on nurses, so I never had an actual delivery nurse with me the entire time. Having my sister be able to advocate for me & know who to talk with came in real handy!
They both leave afterwards to give my husband and I time & honestly, there are SO many strangers that are "up in my business" during labor and delivery---that I don't really care if close family members are there
It's certainly a personal choice---and depends totally on family dynamics.
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This is my first baby, but so far I'm thinking my DH and dr's/nurses (but I definitely do not want "training" people in there watching my stuff during that! I barely want my DH to see me like that!)
But I also want my MIL, my best friend (she's like a sister and mother to me), and my SIL (so she can take pictures of the "happiness") right after the delivery and things are mostly cleaned up (whenever the dr gives the ok basically). Then once they move me into a prettier room the rest of the family and close friends can come.