Pregnant after IF
LaineyPaney
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Help me hold my tongue.
LaineyPaney
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I don't post on this board much, but this is right where I need to be, I think.
I have been doing VERY well to hold my tongue....but sometimes, I just want to say things like:
"I bet you got pregnant without trying, didn't you?"
"If you really don't want the baby, just give it to me."
"Yeah, you totally deserve to be pregnant."
"Yes, we did IVF, and no, I don't care about your opinion for my baby being an 'abomination' because he/she is not the result of sex."
......no, I probably shouldn't always have those thoughts, and certainly wouldn't say those things.....
....and the pregnancies of other women have nothing to do with my journey and my pregnancy. I know that.
I just kind of needed to unload.
Vent over.
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Re: Help me hold my tongue.
First ((hugs)). It sounds like you are having a tough time with the peanut gallery.
My pet peeve is women who b!tch about their kids or symptoms. I want to say, "lady, this is nothing, just imagine bawling your eyes out every month because you got your period and you still aren't pregnant. Everyone keeps asking WHEN you are having kids (sheesh, you've been married 5 YEARS). Then stomach forking out big bucks for a russian roulet chance with an RE". Yeah. It sucks. Hang in there!
Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!!
AMEN!!!
Has someone ever said that to you?! If anyone ever said that to me there would be no tongue-holding (and possibly no fist-holding, LOL)...
Kudos to you for hearing this crap and keeping your cool!
~*~Married 8/31/08~*~
DX: MFI due to Chemo/Stem Cell Transplant for Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. RE said IVF is best option with DH's frozen boys.
IVF #1 April 2012: Menopur and Bravelle; 1 egg retrieved, 0 fertilized. Boo.
IVF #2 August 2012: Gonal-F 300, Menopur 300. Beta #1 9/6: 382... BFPx2!
Our boys couldn't wait to meet us! Colin and Kieran arrived March 26, 2013 at 33w1d.
I'm with fabulouspinkmady -- I hope you have NEVER heard this! Two thumbs up to you for being able to keep your composure after all that! Y]
Married June 2007, TTC since May 2010. Me=40, age-related infertility, DOR, low prog, low AMH. DH=37,low morph.
IUI#1 (Dec. 2011)=BFN, IUI#2=unexpected early O=TI=BFN. Official IUI#2=BFN.
IUI#3=3/17/12=BFN.
Stims for IVF#1 started 7/6/12. ER done 7/15/12. ICSI and AH. Transferred 2 embies 7/17/12. Stick little ones, stick! Beta 7/30/12=BFN HcG less than 2.
Surprise BFP while deciding next steps! EDD: 5/10/13