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StacyJYay · October 2012

My baby boy is 11 months and 1 week and he doesn't wave, clap, point, or give/show objects. I've raised my concerns with his pediatrician, who has referred us to a developmental pediatrician (so we're being very proactive in getting him a formal evaluation and any/all intervention out there), but I guess I'm looking for others' experiences? Were any of you moms in this position? Thanks in advance so much, and to my fellow East Coasters: I hope you're weathering the storm okay.

Karen1998 · October 2012

Am I dreaming that those are 12m or so skills? You're not even there yet. I can see being worried if you have a 15m or 18m old with these things missing, but you're a bit early to be freaking without your LO having other health issues that could be contributing.

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2012

I consider myself to be really proactive with regards to kids development/use of services like early intervention to get them caught up but I think that's a little much imo. I'm actually surprised your pedi would even give you a referral to a developmental pedi before 12 months based on that (unless there's more to the story we're missing).

FWIW, my 2.5 year old didn't do any of those things until 15ish months and at 2.5 is a typically developing toddler (minus an articulation delay). I would try not to be too concerned yet.

dairygirl19 · October 2012

I'm with the pp. I don't think it's a big deal yet either.

My 15 month old didn't wave until 11 months exactly and even then she had to be "forced." At 12 months she took up waving obsessively.

She learned to clap at like 13 months but still doesn't do it with any regularity unless shown first.

At 15 months she points most of the time, but that's a pretty new skill learned when she could say "What's this?"

She's always given and shown objects, but that's her nature...she's just an overly busy curious child.

Do EI if you want, but I wouldn't push anything just yet.

I feel like some of these skills are kind of weird anyway. Like I mean, do we clap regularly in real life? Some of this stuff is not something I would think to practice, until the "list" reminds me.

Anne Mommy · October 2012

I'm with everyone else. I wouldn't worry yet. DS started waving at 15 months and clapping about the same time. He really doesn't point at all- just reaches for stuff. Give it time. Unless you have a bunch of other concerns, I'm sure he will learn them all eventually. Heck, DS didn't have any teeth until 13 months. They all get there eventually.

Blondangel · October 2012

LO started doing these things between 9 and 12 months old, but is crazy early with some milestones. I really wouldn't worry at all. Sounds like your LO is right on track. The evaluation will be good to put your mind at ease.

StacyJYay · October 2012

Thank you for your responses. I really appreciate hearing your experiences. I should have noted in my first post that my LO has mild low muscle tone and motor planning problems, both of which are common in children with ASD. He also flaps his arms (though I know that can be quite common across all babies). His paternal grandfather has (high functioning) autism. Taken together with the no gesturing, these factors are making me quite worried. I should have put all of this in my original post to have avoided sounding totally paranoid. I'm just scared for my LO.

lkm2006 · October 2012

My 12 month old just started waving a couple of weeks ago. He has been clapping but still won't point or identify objects besides the dog!

I'm not worried at all.

shaw · October 2012

I know as parents we are very eager for our children to meet milestones. Sometimes I have to remind myself that the main job for a kid is to play. I wouldn't worry about any of these milestones at 11 months. Things will develop in time. All of a sudden you will see your LO doing things and suddenly be amazed. Put your worry energy in an exciting playtime with LO. GL

NotSharknado · October 2012

StacyJYay:
Thank you for your responses.nbsp; I really appreciate hearing your experiences.nbsp; I should have noted in my first post that my LO has mild low muscle tone and motor planning problems, both of which are common in children with ASD.nbsp;
He also flaps his arms though I know
that can be quite common across all
babies.nbsp; His paternal
grandfather has high functioning
autism.nbsp; Taken together with the
no gesturing, these factors are making
me quite worried.nbsp; I should have
put all of this in my original post to
have avoided sounding totally
paranoid.nbsp; I'm just scared for my
LO.nbsp;

I can totally understand why you would be concerned, but if you keep looking for signs of autism you're going to find them. The arm flapping for example, all babies do that. Stop over analyzing because you will drive yourself nuts.

tmwishful · October 2012

StacyJYay:
My baby boy is 11 months and 1 week and he doesn't wave, clap, point, or give/show objects. I've raised my concerns with his pediatrician, who has referred us to a developmental pediatrician (so we're being very proactive in getting him a formal evaluation and any/all intervention out there), but I guess I'm looking for others' experiences? Were any of you moms in this position? Thanks in advance so much, and to my fellow East Coasters: I hope you're weathering the storm okay.

My 15 month old waves and claps, but still doesn't point or give/show objects. She waved and clapped at around 10 months. I'm not real worried, just try to keep working on it.

I'm in western NJ watching the rain and winds kick up. So far so good, but the worst is coming tonight. Not expecting much good sleep.

StacyJYay · October 2012

Thank you all again -- so much -- for sharing your experiences! This has made me feel better. And my apologies for sounding so alarmist. I'm trying to stay calm.

rosesandpeonies · October 2012

My daughter didn't do many of those things until after 12 months. She now does everything and has 60 + words. She wasn't even speaking at 15 months at all. She is fine. I would take your dr.'s advice, but don't panic.

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2012

StacyJYay:
Thank you for your responses. I really appreciate hearing your experiences. I should have noted in my first post that my LO has mild low muscle tone and motor planning problems, both of which are common in children with ASD. He also flaps his arms (though I know that can be quite common across all babies). His paternal grandfather has (high functioning) autism. Taken together with the no gesturing, these factors are making me quite worried. I should have put all of this in my original post to have avoided sounding totally paranoid. I'm just scared for my LO.

I think that it's reasonable that if you have a family history of autism that you'd find things that can be characteristics of autism to be concerning. There are plenty of kids with low tone, motor planning problems, and who are late to point/wave/clap that are not on the spectrum though. My son had severe motor planning problems on top of other autism markers like poor eye contact/flapping his arms/limited gesturing at 1.5 that were resolved a year later. Some kids really are just late bloomers. I know it's so much easier said than done--believe me--but try not to worry too much.

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