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Seperation Anxiety?

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Just wondering if anyone else is having this issue. It just breaks my heart. Not to sure why she freaks out so much. Any advice would be appreciated!
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Re: Seperation Anxiety?

  • rainstar752rainstar752 member
    Yes, DD has had some bad separation anxiety.  If I'm around, she just wants to cling to me and is shy around everyone.  I have found though that once I leave (she cries when I leave), she actually does fine and warms up to other people.  It sucks though!  I hate daycare drop-offs right now because it breaks my heart when her face just crumples when I leave.  One day she actually didn't cry and said "Bye bye!" when I left and I was so proud of her for being a big girl, but most days that doesn't happen.  I think it is getting better though- I hear it peaks between 10-18 months so hopefully it will be better for us both soon!
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  • SunidazeSunidaze member

    Stella has it bad right now.  I have never had *knock on wood* any issues at all with daycare drop off.  However, other than she wants all mommy all the time.  If I leave her with DH, she has a fit - I mean even if I just run over to the bathroom, she will get mad.  If I'm out of eye site, she is not happy.  DH and I have to stagger our gym time on the weekend because leaving her in the kidzone at the Y is just too traumatic for her.  And so far my mom has been the only one to ever babysit, and that's typically once a month - at most.  Well...Stella has caught on to that.  She no longer likes Grandma.  About a month ago, DH and I were going out to celebrate a friend's birthday...Stella and I ran to the mall because, duh!, I needed at minum a new pair of shoes and a new pair of jeans to go out!  Anyway, she and I returned home and my mom was already at the house.  Holy hell did that kid have a fit!  As soon as we walked in and she saw Grandma, she knew Mommy and Daddy were going away!  It was to the point, where she was so upset which in turn made me so upset that I nearly stayed home I felt so bad for her.  But I went and Mom texted me 20 minutes later that Stella was fine.  However, everytime Stella sees my mom now...whether or not she is babysitting, Stella will have a fit, so I'm working on my mom spending time with her without me leaving so that association becomes a bit blurred.

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    Stella has it bad right now.  I have never had *knock on wood* any issues at all with daycare drop off.  However, other than she wants all mommy all the time.  If I leave her with DH, she has a fit - I mean even if I just run over to the bathroom, she will get mad.  If I'm out of eye site, she is not happy.  DH and I have to stagger our gym time on the weekend because leaving her in the kidzone at the Y is just too traumatic for her.  And so far my mom has been the only one to ever babysit, and that's typically once a month - at most.  Well...Stella has caught on to that.  She no longer likes Grandma.  About a month ago, DH and I were going out to celebrate a friend's birthday...Stella and I ran to the mall because, duh!, I needed at minum a new pair of shoes and a new pair of jeans to go out!  Anyway, she and I returned home and my mom was already at the house.  Holy hell did that kid have a fit!  As soon as we walked in and she saw Grandma, she knew Mommy and Daddy were going away!  It was to the point, where she was so upset which in turn made me so upset that I nearly stayed home I felt so bad for her.  But I went and Mom texted me 20 minutes later that Stella was fine.  However, everytime Stella sees my mom now...whether or not she is babysitting, Stella will have a fit, so I'm working on my mom spending time with her without me leaving so that association becomes a bit blurred.

    DD too has figured out that when Grandmom and Pop come over Mommy and Daddy are leaving.  But she's stops quickly so I just tell her we're leaving and we love her very much and will be back soon (or when she gets up if they'll put her to bed).  They do come over on Sunday's to watch football and we all stay, it takes DD a few minutes to figure out we're not leaving but then she's fine.  I think having your LO spend time with your mom with you not leaving will help a lot. 

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  • WulfgarWulfgar member

    I can't drop my son off at the rec center child care he starts to scream when I drop him off and they call me about 20 minutes later still crying.  His grandmother is our child care provider and he cries at times when we try to pick him up too early.

     

    I don't have any advice to give though except everyone says that this is just temporary and should clear up in a few months.

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