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Another 2nd baby shower question

blu-eyedwifeblu-eyedwife member
in October 2011 Moms

Okay - so one of the women in my moms group is expecting her second in December.  It'll be boy #2 for her, and her first is 18 months.  She does not want another shower.

One of the other women really wants to do something for her, so we have an event planned that she's trying to turn into a shower of sorts.  The pregnant Mamma has expressed that she doesn't want this event to be about her.

The planner is now sending us all emails making it a "surprise" shower, so the pregnant mama can't fight it, and asking us to bring gifts.

WWYD in this situation?  I'm thinking of being "out of town" that weekend just so I don't have to deal with it.

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Re: Another 2nd baby shower question

  • missyisheremissyishere member
    imageblueyedwife:
    Okay so one of thenbsp;women in my moms group is expecting her second in December.nbsp; It'll be boy 2 for her, and her first is 18 months.nbsp; She does not want another shower.
    One of the other women really wants to do something for her, so we have an event planned that she's trying to turn into a shower of sorts.nbsp; The pregnant Mamma has expressed that she doesn't want this event to be about her.
    The planner is now sending us all emails making it a "surprise" shower, so the pregnant mama can't fight it,nbsp;and asking us to bring gifts.
    WWYD in this situation?nbsp; I'm thinking of being "out of town" that weekend just so I don't have to deal with it.


    If she doesn't want it, why does this other person want to do it? Like folks said in my earlier post, maybe suggest a small tea party for the ladies.


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  • joolz17joolz17 member

    Ugh, that sounds annoying.

    With my friends, the few of them who have two, we have booked a morning at a nail salon and had everyone get mani/pedis, and we paid for the mom's. Maybe suggest that? 

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  • blu-eyedwifeblu-eyedwife member
    imagemissyleaferg:
    If she doesn't want it, why does this other person want to do it? Like folks said in my earlier post, maybe suggest a small tea party for the ladies.
    I think she's just cluelessly sweet. Pregnant mama (PM) is a little stressed out. I never asked, since it's not my business, but I get the impression that this may have been unplanned. PM is constantly saying how anxious she is and that she doesn't know what they're going to do when the second arrives. Her first is a little....well, let's just say he's ALL boy - jumping off things, running, screaming, he is full of energy (but he's a great kid). I think she was overwhelmed with the idea of a second to start with, but when she found out it was another boy, I think it became more about having to deal with 2 rambunctious boys. So I think the planner means well, and wants to do something nice, thinking it will help ease the stress/anxiety/worry of PM. But I'm not so sure that it will. She already tried to organize a little something and PM told her she really didn't want it.
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    That's really awkward.  The planner needs to get a clue, but I can see how it would be awkward to do that.

    What about suggesting that the planner organize a schedule for the women to each provide a meal when the new baby arrives?  Like, you give the mama-to-be a schedule of who will be bringing dinner to her family each night for a week once they're home from the hospital?  It's not a party that would stress the mama-to-be out, and instead would really help her out with planning.

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    imagejoolz17:

    Ugh, that sounds annoying.

    With my friends, the few of them who have two, we have booked a morning at a nail salon and had everyone get mani/pedis, and we paid for the mom's. Maybe suggest that? 

     

    I like this idea!

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  • thetheisensthetheisens member

    imageMackalien13:
    I would go and bring diapers and wipes. We just had a sprinkle for my friend having her second and it was just supposed to be diapers and wipes. I think that celebrates the upcoming birth and gives mom something she really needs.

    That's a good idea. It 's something she will really need. I hope the other mom hasn't planned any annoying games. I have a feeling PM wouldn't be into those at her unwanted "surprise baby shower".

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