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Father of child is SCARY

LorraineBlushLorraineBlush
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The father of my child is a scary scary person. We were only dating a month when I got pregnant. He has bad anger issues and went to jail shortly after I found out I was pregnant for assault on another woman. In short--my radar was way broken when I met this guy and let him into my life. And now this.

I am VERY happy to be pregnant. I am excited (and oh so scared) to become a mother. I DO NOT want the father around me. He is pretty much set in his ways and I don't want to be the next victim of his to be hit. How do I keep him away from me? Is it right to keep him away from the baby?

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  • sweetie0228sweetie0228 member

    I don't normally advocate this but...If you are not married, you don't have to put him on the birth certificate, he probably won't pay CS anyway and it will be a lot of time and resources and struggle to make him...so dont' tell him. Put unknown on the BC.  Disappear into the wind.

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    give the baby up for adoption to a loving family you choose and you can have an open or semi open adoption where you still have photos and updates.

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  • kelleighxnicolekelleighxnicole member

    I am having a similar issue. I have 2 children from a previous relationship, and with this new boyfriend I have become pregnant with a 3rd. I've always wanted 3 children, so the pregnancy I am thrilled for, the partner? Not so much.

    He's angry only when provoked, so if we don't argue, he's not bad at all, but I feel you should be able to argue without a man getting mad to a scary extent, and therefore I am not comfortable raising a child with him.

    I am thinking about the disappearing into the wind sort of theory, myself.

    You don't have to tell him that is what you are going to do if you fear that it will cause a dangerous argument or a lot of tension and stress for you, but just keep it in mind that you can leave and do so being that you are not married.

    Just follow your gut instinct as to what's right for yourself and your baby, I know being pregnant is a tough time to think clear headedly, but give yourself time to think through what's right for the both of you.

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  • Runaway22Runaway22 member
    imagesweetie0228:
    I don't normally advocate this but...If you are not married, you don't have to put him on the birth certificate, he probably won't pay CS anyway and it will be a lot of time and resources and struggle to make him...so dont' tell him. Put unknown on the BC.nbsp; Disappear into the wind.
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    This. My pregnancy is a product of rape, so I plan on putting "unknown" on the BC when the time comes.

    Good luck!!!
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