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Friday night woes

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Bumping from my phone so excuse mistakes, please.

I live in a really small town and last night I was at a local joint and a lady that I know said "congratulations. I heard you're pregnant". I hadn't told many people I was.. Really close friends and family. And I said no, as I had a glass of wine in my hand and she said "were you". I was so taken back by this comment that I said no. I had no idea what to do or say. I feel bad after the fact that I denied everything. I got worked up and had to excuse myself to the bathroom to cry. Ugh, I hate that people can affect my emotions this much!

I also have no idea how she knew..

Anyway, everyone have a great weekend!

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  • BankerBSNBankerBSN member

    imagemadasm0530:
    Bumping from my phone so excuse mistakes, please. I live in a really small town and last night I was at a local joint and a lady that I know said "congratulations. I heard you're pregnant". I hadn't told many people I was.. Really close friends and family. And I said no, as I had a glass of wine in my hand and she said "were you". I was so taken back by this comment that I said no. I had no idea what to do or say. I feel bad after the fact that I denied everything. I got worked up and had to excuse myself to the bathroom to cry. Ugh, I hate that people can affect my emotions this much! I also have no idea how she knew.. Anyway, everyone have a great weekend!

    I am sorry that this happend to you ((hugs)) 

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  • Twinkie0612Twinkie0612 member

    I'm sorry for your loss.  I'm also sorry that people are rude.  Don't feel bad about denying it, she should have never asked if you were pregnant.  You aren't obligated to share any info you don't want to.  

     

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  • sweetgoosesweetgoose member
    I am so sorry. I probably would have reacted the same way if I were in your situation. Big hugs
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  • jschwind22jschwind22 member
    Ugh.  Some people have no tact.  I'm sorry!
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  • CaliforniaDream87CaliforniaDream87 member
    Geez.

    Sorry this happened to you. You would think after she asked you and you said "no" she would've stopped the questions.

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  • MarriedtoMrSunshineMarriedtoMrSunshine
    I'm sorry. FWIW, that probably would have been my reaction too. The first question was bad enough without a follow up.
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  • coraggiosacoraggiosa member

    I am so sorry this happened to you. I wish people knew better than to open their mouth without thinking. 

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  • pixiedust84pixiedust84 member
    Wow that is terrible! I'm so sorry. Who does that? So sorry that happened!
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  • coleann04coleann04 member

    imageCaliforniaDream87:
    Geez. Sorry this happened to you. You would think after she asked you and you said "no" she would've stopped the questions. HUGS

    This was my thought too.  I'm so sorry that happened to you.  I probably would have done the same thing.

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  • Bakes4uBakes4u member

    imagemadasm0530:
    Bumping from my phone so excuse mistakes, please. I live in a really small town and last night I was at a local joint and a lady that I know said "congratulations. I heard you're pregnant". I hadn't told many people I was.. Really close friends and family. And I said no, as I had a glass of wine in my hand and she said "were you". I was so taken back by this comment that I said no. I had no idea what to do or say. I feel bad after the fact that I denied everything. I got worked up and had to excuse myself to the bathroom to cry. Ugh, I hate that people can affect my emotions this much! I also have no idea how she knew.. Anyway, everyone have a great weekend!

    That really sucks :( That person needs a friggen lesson in manners.

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  • catmagickcatmagick member
    ugh, sorry for that :-(  Some people are just so freakin' clueless.  *hugs*
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  • darjeelingdarjeeling member
    Ugh! I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. ::::hugs:::::

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  • swirl25swirl25 member
    That's terrible....I'm sorry. It's amazing how some people just don't think before they speak. I would've done the same. :(
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  • madasm0530madasm0530 member
    imagecrystaleyes138:

    Oh wow, I am so sorry.  Sometimes people really cannot take a hint.  Although there is no forgiving of that, did she look drunk?  Maybe she wasn't considering your reactions b/c she was drunk. Just a thought.

    I hope your evening wasn't a total wash, things will get better. 

    i don't think she was but that would explain the complete insensitivity! 


    hitched 5/2009 -- Me 34, DH 39

    TTC #1:
    dx with POCS 7/2009
    TTC on & off since 1/2012
    September 2012; Surprise BFP - MC
    June - December 2013; Clomid/Femara + Trigger + TI = BFN x 4
    April - May 2016; Femara + TI = BFN x 2
    July 2016 - December 2016; Gonal-F + Ovidren + IUI = BFN x 3
    May 2018 - IVF #1; 8 snowbabies. transferred 1 embryo - CP
    August 2018 - FET #1 -- Healthy Baby Boy  <3

    TTC #2:
    July 2020 FET; beta 1 310, beta 2 1278

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  • madasm0530madasm0530 member

    imagejschwind22:
    Ugh.  Some people have no tact.  I'm sorry!

     

    yep. Tactless! Exactly the word I was thinking  


    hitched 5/2009 -- Me 34, DH 39

    TTC #1:
    dx with POCS 7/2009
    TTC on & off since 1/2012
    September 2012; Surprise BFP - MC
    June - December 2013; Clomid/Femara + Trigger + TI = BFN x 4
    April - May 2016; Femara + TI = BFN x 2
    July 2016 - December 2016; Gonal-F + Ovidren + IUI = BFN x 3
    May 2018 - IVF #1; 8 snowbabies. transferred 1 embryo - CP
    August 2018 - FET #1 -- Healthy Baby Boy  <3

    TTC #2:
    July 2020 FET; beta 1 310, beta 2 1278

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  • SAHMommieSAHMommie member
    People can be so Friggin clueless! Sorry that happened to you.
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  • MandaPanda518MandaPanda518 member
    Wow she was so rude! I'm sorry you had to deal with that.
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