The father of my 2 LO's got into doing heroine this year.
He's been using pills for going on three years altogether, and now it's taken a turn to shooting dope. Our DD is turning 3 the 14th and I don't know if I should wash my hands of him until he changes ... if he changes. We've been apart since February. He went into detox for 5 days then left, and did not stay for the rehabilitation part of it. So he's not ready to change, and I don't know what to do.
There's a CS order already. I just wish I could open his eyes so that he can be a better person for his children.
Re: Is anyone here's XHB or XBF an addict?
My ex-boyfriend is addicted to opiates and I myself am a recovering opiate addict. He went to detox and rehab when I found out I was pregnant and is currently almost 4 months sober and living in a halfway house. We broke up when I found out he was still using right around the time I found out I was pregnant. Even though I am not perfect and had relapsed myself prior to my pregnancy, I know my intentions, but I don't know his. He is trying to get his life straight and if he is still successful at that when our daughter arrives, I will give him a chance as both a partner to myself and a father.
I can't tell you what to do. Only you know. But it sounds like you need to think long and hard about allowing him near your children. He is obviously not serious about or ready for sobriety and this is likely not the best situation for your children. It is tough to way the costs and benefits of such a huge decision. It is important for your children to have their father around, but if his influence is hurtful or detrimental, you may need to draw a line until he can change his ways. I know how hard this is, and can't imagine how tough it is with a 3 year old who knows and will miss him. You will be in my prayers.