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Feel rotten for saying this, but...

Nick StrafellaNick Strafella member
in Babies: 0 - 3 Months

I am getting very bored. While I love being home and taking care of DD, I sort of miss going out to work everyday...getting dressed nice, socializing, etc. When DH comes home, I feel like a knuckle head cause I have nothing to really talk to him about. I get out almost every day with DD, but really...how much can I go to the mall and BRU???

I am torn because I would love to get out and maybe work part time, but I would feel horrible leaving DD in the hands of someone else. It's a double edged sword....any other SAHMs feel this way??

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Re: Feel rotten for saying this, but...

  • goodhartedmommygoodhartedmommy

    Do you have mom friends? I stay sane only because I'm involved in good playgroups and have a good circle of friends to hang out with during the week.

    Don't feel rotten if you want to go back to work, though. A lot of moms feel that way, and it's not bad at all. 

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  • star173star173 member
    I've been home since DD was born. I'm not bored, but that's because I know i have to return to work in a month. If I were home all day every day indefinitely, I would get bored too. Could you join a mommy and me? Do some volunteer work a couple hours a week? Maybe you could get a part time job working one or two evenings- that way you'll leave your baby home with your husband, but you can get out some too. Don't feel bad for saying that! It makes perfect sense to me. From what you wrote, you sound like an amazing mom.
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  • SherriberrySherriberry member

    I can't relate because I'm having the time of my life being on maternity leave for a year.

    I get out a lot though. I have a lot of playdates and go to mom & baby exercise twice a week.  I think that's what is making me really love it. Could you try to find other moms to hang out with and socialize?

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  • SarahTx5701SarahTx5701 member

    I work PT. I didn't want to at first, but now it's nice. This past long weekend, we were trapped in the house for 4 days without daddy (he worked alllll weekend) and I was about to lose my mind. I was so bored! I loved being with him.

    I just know if I was home FT I'd be in playgroups. They even have some in the mornings I'd like to go to before work.

    Getting out for a few hours is nice. Try to find some mommy and me groups, gymboree club or something fun to do with the baby! Then you'll have other mommies to talk to too!

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  • j&j1999j&j1999
    I don't stay home but know that I couldn't for the same reasons you mention.  I honestly think it is perfectly normal to feel a desire for adult conversation. I know that for me having the purpose of a job makes me a better mother for dd.
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  • susie1079susie1079

    This week I finally hit that wall. I was ready to get out of here but I don't want to be away from the baby. My compromise is I am going back only part time. I start next week and am ready.  I will work just 1-5 pm 5 days/week and my Mom will come here to babysit. So it's just enough to get me out but I am not missing much since he sleeps all afternoon usually. I think it is the perfect compromise.

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  • J&A2008J&A2008 member

    Find other moms.  Volunteer at the elementary school your LO will attend.  Ours has programs for math and reading tutors for an hour at a time, from 1-5 days a week, as you can.  I go and DS hangs out in in his carseat or on my lap. 

    Go to the library.  Read parenting books.  Find out if the library has any kid programs you could help with.  You'll meet other parents.

    And, of course, you could always have another kid to help you pass the time. Big Smile

    Stay at home mom to a house of boys: two amazing stepsons, 12 and 9, and our 4 year old.
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