So relieved, yet I feel a bit guilty [mc mentioned]

brihall003 · October 2012

I'm not sure if any of you remember, but I posted awhile ago that a student on my caseload was pregnant, and that it was hard for me to handle doing my job [i.e. talking to her about her pregnancy] and my intense feelings of jealousy.

Well today she came to me after being absent all week and informed me that she had a miscarriage and so would be having some more absences this week. As soon as she told me I had the oddest emotion...a mix of great sorrow for her because I wouldn't wish this experience on my worst enemy, but also great relief that I wouldn't have to watch her go through a pregnancy all year.

I'm not really sure how to feel about the whole thing. Am I a bad person for being somewhat pleased?

LLPtobe · October 2012

car seat:
I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling relief that you won't have to hear about pregnancy updates so constantly. It's a very sad thing that's happened to her, and you're in a rough spot given your own situation.

I bet you'll be an amazing support for her from here on out. (((hugs)))

This. And how lucky she is to have you as a source of support. (((hugs)))

MamaWomat · October 2012

For the most part, we don't get to choose how we feel. It's actions, not emotions, that are good or bad. I think you're mix of emotions completely makes sense.and I'm sure your own experience will help you to be of all the more help to your student.

km_md · October 2012

It does not make you a horrible person at all. I can completely understand why you would feel that way. You will be so supportive for her now

LunaBug924 · October 2012

I don't think you're a bad person at all. I feel like there aren't really any rules about what emotions you have as a result of a MC because its not something that's supposed to happen. We all know that you have no ill-will towards this girl, and as someone mentioned, I'm sure you will be a great support.

HayleyBaker1122 · October 2012

I 100% understand. I'd feel the same. Horrible that they're going through it, but relieved that you can be around them and not feel miserable every time. Don't feel bad about it, it's just honest, real feelings.

Laurakat81 · October 2012

LLPtobe:
car seat:
I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling relief that you won't have to hear about pregnancy updates so constantly. It's a very sad thing that's happened to her, and you're in a rough spot given your own situation.

I bet you'll be an amazing support for her from here on out. (((hugs)))
This. And how lucky she is to have you as a source of support. (((hugs)))

All of this. I think your emotions are completely normal. (((hugs)))

EKGibs · October 2012

mdharrison:

I think it's extremely natural that relief followed your feelings of sorrow. That's so sad, yet at the same time, it's relieving for you because it's something you've worried and stressed about.

Definitely not a bad person, I think anyone can attest to this being natural.

this. (((hugs)))

buggirl72 · October 2012

Definitely not a bad person. It was a horrible situation that you were in and must be a great relief to not be in that situation now.

a&aw12707 · October 2012

HayleyBaker1122:
I 100 understand. I'd feel the same. Horrible that they're going through it, but relieved that you can be around them and not feel miserable every time. Don't feel bad about it, it's just honest, real feelings.

This 110.

asglover514 · October 2012

hugs not at all. You can't help how you feel hun.

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