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In-laws coming and highly annoyed

soon2Bclcsoon2Bclc
in October 2012 Moms

I am being induced Friday morning, my in-laws, who live in Ohio, will be here tomorrow night to meet our baby girl.  They stay at a hotel about 5 minutes down the road from us that has a pool/waterslide.  We will be getting out of the hospital on Sunday afternoon (most likely) and my in-laws want to have the whole family (my DH has 2 brothers, and they both have kids) over for a pizza/swim party. My mother in law said she knew I wouldn't want to come with just getting out of the hospital, but expects my husband and daughter to be there.  My husband doesn't think it's a big deal if he's gone for a couple of hours with my daughter and keeps telling me not to stress about it, but I think the whole thing is a bit rude.  apparently I am on my own for dinner that night?  This just makes me want to cry, am I over-reacting or not? What would you do? Just leave it? or say something? and my daughter is not used to my in-laws at all, so I know she would be miserable if they just took her, so that is not an option. 

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  • nealblnealbl member
    I would not want to be left alone all by myself our first night home. Plus I know I will be missing DD#1 like crazy and would def not want her to be gone. 
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  • Mrs.G123Mrs.G123 member
    Yeah, we would not be going. Any of us!!!
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  • nycgirl88nycgirl88 member
    I wouldn't want my DH to go! I didn't want to be alone with DS for almost a week!
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  • danienrossdanienross member
    With E DH left me for a couple of hours our first day home to take a school exam. Not ideal but obviously needed, not just a get together.

    This time I've been left on my own with both girls at least a couple hours a day from the day after I gave birth. Again, not ideal but the other option is my dad being home with us and he's so stressful that I prefer him not being here.

    It's your call to make. I don't think there's anything wrong with you not wanting them to go.
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  • Calabaza78Calabaza78
    That is a horrible idea.  I hope your husband sets her straight.
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  • OlivebeinmammaOlivebeinmamma member
    Why can't you just ask her to do it the night that you're in the hospital like Saturday or something? That's what I would do. Because, personally it's not really like anything is going on in the hospital. And usually there are visiting hours.
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  • MrschicaMrschica member
    DH would get the death stare and an indefinite couch sleeping pass with diaper changing duties if he as much as considered leaving me for the night.

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  • MichelleL1118MichelleL1118 member

    Granted, I had a c/s, but it would be a cold day in h.ell before DH & DS took off to go anywhere & left me alone with a newborn the first night home from the hospital... or anytime that first week, really.  And after spending 3 days in the hospital, I wanted to spend time with DS because I missed him.

    ETA: I like pp's suggestion of asking her to do it Saturday night while you're in the hospital, then you'll at least have nurses around to help out & it'll be a nice distraction for your DD since her routine will be off a bit with you in the hospital. 

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    Um, no. You are not overreacting. I would have a serious Come to Jesus talk with your husband, and let him know that it hurts your feelings that he is willing to leave you at home with a newborn baby the day you get discharged from the hospital. You should not be expected to go anywhere or do pretty much anything, and your DH should expect to stay home and help you out.

    Your MIL sounds coocoo for cocoa puffs! 

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  • soon2Bclcsoon2Bclc
    I just talked to him  - i think we are on the same page now, or is at least going along with what I say.  He got defensive at first, and I put an end to that right away.  The tears came and i think he felt bad about the whole situation.  It's just that he knows my daughter has so much fun at that waterslide/hotel.  I offered a suggestion for everyone to go swimming and then for in-laws (and the whole family if they want to) to come back to our house and order pizza.  that way everyone will still be involved (although my daughter may feel bad that she didn't get to swim). 
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