DH not allowed in for u/s in 1st tri?

No longer the best · October 2012

I just got back from my first u/s and they wouldn't let DH in the room for 1st trimester u/s. I was upset and felt bad that he missed work to sit in the waiting room.

Did anyone else have this? Is it normal?

To be fair they could only see a sac so I had to empty my bladder and had to have a transvaginal done (which then the tech could see something including the heartbeat in the sac - phew) and that's one of the reasons they don't want 'family' in the room with me.

diego299 · October 2012

Each practice is different but I personally have never heard one that doesn't allow the partner in the room. I understand limiting the number and not allowing your entire family in the room.

I had a ton of transvaginal u/s with DS (sono Steve and I got to be good friends) and DH was always allowed in the room.

JaimeCH · October 2012

I've never heard of them not being allowed in the room - that is pretty ridiculous! If there were an issue obviously you would need someone there for you! At my prenatal appointments the OB would have me go in the room first, ask me if I was being physically abused, and after I said no they would allow him in the room. That was annoying enough, but at least he still got to come in!

hjk5000 · October 2012

Hmm really? I've never ever heard of the dad not being allowed to be in the room for an appointment. Does your OB operate out of the back of a van? j/k of course, but that's seriously weird.

No longer the best · October 2012

They asked me after if I wanted a picture since he couldn't come in. It did suck that he wasn't in there :S

I guess I should ask before all future appointments to avoid the let down

caffrin · October 2012

No longer the best:
I just got back from my first u/s and they wouldn't let DH in the room for 1st trimester u/s.nbsp; I was upset and felt bad that he missed work to sit in the waiting room.nbsp;
Did anyone else have this? Is it normal?
To be fair they could only see a sac so I had to empty my bladder and had to have a transvaginal done which then the tech could see something including the heartbeat in the sac phew and that's one of the reasons they don't want 'family' in the room with me.nbsp;

That's weird. I would have demanded that DH come in. I don't see why transvaginal should have been an issue. I mean if I'm pregnant obviously DH knows what's going on down there lol. My last pregnancy, every appointment did start with just me so they could ask if I felt safe at home, which was fine, but then I always asked the nurse to go back out and get DH.

ocho2002 · October 2012

That's weird. You're pregnant, so he's familiar with your vagina and you're covered anyway. Very weird.

I Love my Dave · October 2012

That sucks! I would be mad, I'm sorry that they wouldn't let your DH share that wonderful experience with you.

courty625 · October 2012

I'd be furious and would've demanded he come back as we'll. what's the harm in it?

No longer the best · October 2012

hjk5000:

really? I've never ever heard of the dad not being allowed to be in the room for an appointment. Does your OB operate out of the back of a van? j/k of course, but that's seriously weird.

Ha! No my u/s was done at the hospital I will be delivering in. I don't know if it makes a difference that I am in Canada?

Seeing that no one has encountered this so far makes me even more mad. What would have been the big deal if he was there!?

danieleandwayne · October 2012

I just had my U/S and it had to be transvaginal. MH was there the whole time. Not even a question of it. AND, I didn't have to be asked if I wanted a picture-- the tech just handed me 4 pictures. Because who wouldn't want a picture of their little nugget? Especially if it's the first one?

I'd be livid!

btsrc5 · October 2012

I have never heard of this. DH was allowed at any and all of my appointments when I was pg with DD.

Imbrium101 · October 2012

That seems really strange. I had asked my dr if my husband can come to my appointments. She simply said it was between him and I, they won't stop him from coming.

I'd be so upset if my husband wasn't allowed in with me. I'm sorry that happend to you.

Suzi-G- · October 2012

Oh no, no way, no how. I would have had such an enormous hissy fit they would have let DH in the room, or I would have left without my ultrasound and found a new doctor.

Alliebooberz · October 2012

Never heard of that. My husband was absolutely in the room for all u/s with DS!

minicheezburg · October 2012

I have NEVER heard of this and I would not have been okay with it.

CMH786 · October 2012

When I had my first OB appointment my DH did not come with me (found out later I was very cruel to him because he knew why I was at the doc but I didn't call him afterwards because I wanted to wait until he got home). My doc said that my next appointment would be a transvaginal ultrasound and that it was up to me whether my DH was there for it or not. She said it so matter of factly I thought it was the usual procedure. I don't understand why he WOULDN'T be allowed in, it's not like I'm gonna be showing off something he hasn't seen before! In fact the Dr, nurse, and I were all joking about it, talking sarcastically about how he'd be seeing all this new stuff because people only get in this condition in the dark lol. I love my doctor and her staff!

I'd ask the doctor about why he wasn't alloed in and tell the doctor that you were uncomfortable NOT having your DH in the room with you. If they keep having a problem with your DH being involved now, it might be worth looking at other doctors. Who knows what kind of stupid rules they will come up with in the next 7 months!!

clarec216 · October 2012

That's ridiculous, my hubs was there for my 1st transvag. u/s. And the whole exam. He made that baby he should get to see it!

JessD24 · October 2012

This is bizarre. When my best friend got pregnant Sept 2011, her husband was out of town for the first appt and they let me come in for the first appt to be there for her. It was a transvaginal u/s and I was in the room the whole time?

Also, I've never heard of an OB asking if you feel safe at home or if you're being abused? This is also my first pregnancy but i've never heard of that! What is the point? Lol just curious. Seems a little bizarre.

homebird · October 2012

I've never heard of that.

I seriously doubt a transvaginal ultrasound would shock him. Seeing as how he helped make the baby and all, lol.

No longer the best · October 2012

My Doctor sent me to the hospital to get the u/s he had nothing to do with it, but it does make me feel a bit weird now about the hospital!! Since it seems like I'm the only one on the planet (exaggerate much I know) that didn't have their dh to share the moment!!

Ktrue85 · October 2012

Eww, what a stupid rule. Honestly, why can't he be in there for an internal ultrasound? I'm pretty sure he's been in that region before, so...

My office won't allow him to go back until the probe is inserted which I think is ridiculous, but then they bring him in. Who the hell comes up with these rules? Since DH's are 50% of the baby equation, I feel they should get all the same respect and u/s viewings that we do as mothers.

behapy2day · October 2012

This is beyond strange, and I would definitely find another OB if it were me.

Stucas · October 2012

Suzi-G-:
Oh no, no way, no how. I would have had such an enormous hissy fit they would have let DH in the room, or I would have left without my ultrasound and found a new doctor.

This 100%. It's his baby too, he should be able to see whatever he wants.

pinktrojanbride120107 · October 2012

Wen I had my loss, I was in Urgent Care and had a transvaginal ultrasound. I don't remember if my DH was asked to leave the room while I changed out my clothes, or if he wasn't allowed for the entire thing, but I do know he had to leave at some point. It was strange.

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