XP: Rude to bring DD to a wake?

AndBabyWouldMake5 · October 2012

A former student of mine died earlier this week and although I am on maternity leave I feel that it is appropriate that I go to the wake with my colleagues. My parents and DH are working this afternoon so I will have to take DD with me. She is okay to go out and about and I'll wear her in the sling... is it rude of me to bring her?

A few of my colleagues have not met her yet so I said we'd meet a few minutes early in the parking lot so they can ooohh and ahh there... I just don't want to draw people attention away from the real reason we are there. If she is in the sling she'll probably be out cold and I'll feed her ahead of time so she doesn't get hungry.

Advice?

mben1119 · October 2012

I wouldn't. I would hate for my LO to start crying or have a fit in the middle of an event like that. FTR, I also wouldn't bring him to a wedding either.

mb314 · October 2012

I think it's okay - I think it's important to go to the wake, and bringing the baby along is what you have to do in order to attend.

I think you're handling it in the proper way - meeting people ahead time to see the baby so that the attention can be done outside of the wake. And I think slings/moby wraps are the best way to discretely have a baby with you . I would just try to hang back away from the primary action because inevitably, you will get some attention with the baby. But speaking quietly and keeping any interactions short and sweet is the best way to handle it. If you're quiet and discrete, most people will follow your lead.

Kasi80 · October 2012

I think it would be fine.

mimi_8607 · October 2012

mb314:

I think it's okay - I think it's important to go to the wake, and bringing the baby along is what you have to do in order to attend.

I think you're handling it in the proper way - meeting people ahead time to see the baby so that the attention can be done outside of the wake. And I think slings/moby wraps are the best way to discretely have a baby with you . I would just try to hang back away from the primary action because inevitably, you will get some attention with the baby. But speaking quietly and keeping any interactions short and sweet is the best way to handle it. If you're quiet and discrete, most people will follow your lead.

This.

MississippiCatfish · October 2012

I think it's ok and that you have a good plan.

Neener73 · October 2012

We took DS to a memorial service when he was almost 6 weeks old. We sat in a spot where we could easily leave if he started to fuss, but he slept the whole time. The service was for an elderly relative, so it was a different situation than yours. All of our distant relatives loved seeing Alex.

We found out that a friend from our church was killed in a car accident yesterday, and we plan on taking DS to the visitation and funeral. We'll make sure that he is fed and changed before we go. If he gets fussy, we'll leave. We take DS to church every Sunday and normally he is fine. Our friend always liked seeing DS, since she had a grandson a few months older than DS.

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