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December 2010 Moms
pitterpatter129
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Daycare of Vampires...
pitterpatter129
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Nate has been bit at daycare 8 times in one month. Twice they caught it and wrote up a report. Four times I pointed out the big bites on his arms and they were surprised. Twice I found bites under his shirt at bathtime. Excessive?? They say he doesn't cry, so they don't notice anything has happened... For what it's worth, he's the oldest in the class and they told me he doesn't take toys or fight with others - bascially isn't instigating the biting. I'm deciding if I should go in all upset or let it go because little kids bite... opinions?
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Re: Daycare of Vampires...
Yes, that's definitely a lot in a short period, particularly if they don't notice who is doing it. C's been bitten a lot but that has definitely slowed down now that he is the 2-year-old room. He's the youngest kid out of 14 so most are totally done with teething and can speak better. Like Letranger said, is it possible he might move up now? In any event, you might speak with the director to see if they can have an extra set of eyes in there for a day or two to figure out what is going on. If nothing else, you can just express your concern over the situation. C is like N (we know this!
) in that he doesn't cry sometimes when he's been bitten and he also doesn't tend to be mean or steal toys in the room so I think he's "easy pickings". Still though, we've only had one time that I found the bite at home and DC didn't know. Also, the bites on the torso bother me a bit more b/c it seems that would take a little longer for another kid to get in position to do that. Bites on the arms or even legs can happen really quickly, but you have to aim and bite hard to get through a shirt. Hugs to N and you both. I know this is hard.
Ask for more info, when is it happening, is it for any reason, is it one kid, is everyone being bit or is he being picked on? Ask, and press, for an action plan of what they are doing to prevent the bites and what they do when it happens. Start with the teachers but a call or email to the director is not out of line. He or she should know what's going on.
Start it out with something like "I know kids bite but this seems excessive, what can we do to keep Nate safe?"
I'd be annoyed too - that's a lot of bites to miss in a month.
Definitely talk with the teachers and the directors about what actions can be implemented to keep Nate and the other kids safe. Another pair of eyes to help figure out who the vamps are could help. That way the teachers will know who to watch.
BFP #2 5/27/12. EDD 2/1/13. m/c and D&C 6/21/12.
Ok, that is a lot of bites in a small amount of time and while I would be upset I could get over it because like you said, kids bite. However, the fact that the staff wasn't aware of most of the bites would be a big deal to me.
It doesn't matter that he rarely cries when he gets bit. If they know there are biters in the room and he is a favorite target then they need to be more vigilant.
I'd be asking them what they are doing to prevent the biting. Where I work here are some of the things we do when we have a biter in the room.
We shadow the biter. Someone stays close to the child all day. It makes more work for the other staff but sometimes it is neccessary.
We keep a log. Which child is doing the biting? Where did the bite occur? What time did the bite take place? What was the reason for the bite? Which child was bitten? Sometimes you are able to find a pattern with the info like the bite is happening at the same time of day or something giving you a better chance of preventing it.
We work on how we react after a bite. The child that was bitten is going to get the majority of the attention not the biter. Sometimes kids bite just to get attention so if you take that away you take away a motive.
We show the biter that it hurts. We have them look at the sad child and sit with them let them know that what they did caused it. Obviously sometimes a child is too young to understand but the point is still there.
I would definitely have a talk with the staff. If they are dismissive again go talk to the director. Biting happens but as a caregiver it's our job to try and keep it to a minimum.
Hopefully Nate has some better bite free days at daycare. Poor guy.
That does sound like a lot of biting. I know biting happens though. My problem is that they are not noticing that he is getting bitten!!! Knowing that so much biting is going on, they should be hyper vigilant to keep an eye out for it. It concerns me that they're not seeing it when it happens or immediately after. Then on top of that, it concerns me that they then don't notice that he has bite marks on his arms!! I mean, come on!
I would definitely say something about and ask them what their plan going forward is. I like what Serendipity does in her classroom. You should bring those points up.