Getting nervous...

WhitMor12 · October 2012

I haven't been to the dr yet, but I am beginning to think I may need to go soon. My husband and I are going to start ttc in January/February 2013. Lately ALL I can think about it babies, very occupied. We have to wait till I graduate from college, which is the right thing to do for us, but its just so hard to wait. We were married in June, then moved to our new apt in August. Ever since we moved AF has been basically absent. First one, I figured was just stress from moving etc... second one nothing really happened, but now waiting on number 3 I am really starting to get nervous. All I want to do is be a mom. I don't have insurance so I don't really have a lot of options if there really is a problem. Maybe my nerves are just causing me to be completely irregular. I wish there was a way to know right now what is going on, but I'm pretty sure we have to actually be trying without success to actually qualify for fertility stuff. I know its probably a little early to realistically freak out, but I'm a woman, its what I do. I want instant gratification. I want to know right this minute if everything is ok. I want to know right now that in a year we will be preparing a nursery for our new son or daughter.

biomaj5 · October 2012

Take a freaking pregnancy test and don't TTC until you have insurance and graduate college. Once you've accomplished those 2 goals, it can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive, and an RE isn't likely to see you until then. A previous diagnosis of endo or PCOS might cut down that timeline a bit, but until then, finish school, get a job, and then try. In that order.

hesakeeper · October 2012

Graduating is also a goal of mine before TTC. But I would DEFINITELY get insurance if I were you. There are too many "what ifs" to not have insurance. (What if you have multiples? What if there's a complication? What if your baby has special needs? etc.)

mamabisme · October 2012

I'd worry about getting insurance above everything else. Even a prefectly healthy pregnancy and delivery can be very expensive without insurance. If any unexpeted complications should arise you could be looking at a huge financial burden and a lot of unnecessary money stress on your h and you. Figure out how you will be getting coverage (group or private) and start working toward that. If you are planning to enroll in group coverage through an employer you (or h) already have you will probably have to wait for open enrollment to roll around before you can sign up (if it's a totally new policy) or just get h to have you added (if he's already covered through his employer). If you planned to go the private route instead, start researching and pricing plans that offer good maternity coverage. It is nearly impossible to get coverge after you're pregnant so it's something you really should start working on now. Getting coverage can take a while and January is coming fast! Once you get coverage you can get to the doctor and figure out what's going on with you and go from there.

bugandbibs · October 2012

What?!?!!!!.. You haven't had your period in 3 months? POAS already. If it's negative, go see a doctor to get checked out and to have your period jumpstarted. You need to slow your roll.

jenaliat · October 2012

hesakeeper:
Graduating is also a goal of mine before TTC. But I would DEFINITELY get insurance if I were you. There are too many "what ifs" to not have insurance. (What if you have multiples? What if there's a complication? What if your baby has special needs? etc.)

Lurking....

Insurance is a MUST!! We make too much to get any government assistance, so it would be awful to have to pay everything out of pocket.

I had some pre term labor and was bumped into the high risk category, visits every week, bed rest, weekly sonograms to check my cervix, and a test to see if I was at risk for going into labor soon.

ONE test cost $500. I had at LEAST 3 done over the course of 6 weeks.

That is just a smallllllll portion of the cost of pregnancy, not to mention delivery, and then health care for the baby/babies...

It is SO irresponsible to not plan things carefully when it comes to another life.

Twinkie0612 · October 2012

WhitMor12:
I haven't been to the dr yet, but I am beginning to think I may need to go soon. My husband and I are going to start ttc in January/February 2013. Lately ALL I can think about it babies, very occupied. We have to wait till I graduate from college, which is the right thing to do for us, but its just so hard to wait. We were married in June, then moved to our new apt in August. Ever since we moved AF has been basically absent. First one, I figured was just stress from moving etc... second one nothing really happened, but now waiting on number 3 I am really starting to get nervous. All I want to do is be a mom. I don't have insurance so I don't really have a lot of options if there really is a problem. Maybe my nerves are just causing me to be completely irregular. I wish there was a way to know right now what is going on, but I'm pretty sure we have to actually be trying without success to actually qualify for fertility stuff. I know its probably a little early to realistically freak out, but I'm a woman, its what I do. I want instant gratification. I want to know right this minute if everything is ok. I want to know right now that in a year we will be preparing a nursery for our new son or daughter.

This pisses me the fluck off.

You want to go to a fertility specialist? And what do you mean "qualify for fertility stuff?" You sound young and stupid. Infertility is not some cool club that people get to be a part of, Infertility sucks. I don't think anybody wishes that they could go through Infertility testing/treatment. Infertility is emotionally, and sometimes physically, painful. It is also expensive. If you can't afford to go to the doctor without insurance, you probably can't afford infertility testing and treatment since many insurance policies do not cover infertility. I have great insurance, but it doesn't cover any infertility testing or treatment. We have already speant thousands of dollars just for testing and one cycle of treatment.

OP, take a pregnancy test and if it is negative go to the doctor. You are probably having a long annovulatory cycle and just need prometrium to jumpstart your next cycle. Then use birth control until you graduate college and get insurance. Lastly, stop wishing for infertility issues.

BallSox · October 2012

Unless you're charting, which I doubt, you really have no idea what is going on. It's entirely possible to stress yourself into irregularity. Getting married, graduating college and moving are all stressful activities.

Trust me, if you go into a specialist today and say "I'm not really ttc, nor do I have insurance, but I because I've had two weird cycles during a stressful time in my life, I think I have fertility issues" you're going to get that "Well bless her heart look".

I would take a deep hard look into insurance and all of that because even if you get insurance, it's a very likely possibility that infertility treatments will not be covered fully, if at all. If you're that worried (which, unless you're charting, you really have no grounds to be) start stashing money away. If you get pregnant right away, you'll have to spend on a baby, if you have fertility issues, you'll have that for treatments.

Regardless of everything else, I recommend a hobby because if you become any more obsessed, it's going to be a VERY long year for you.

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