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October 2011 Moms
colliebabe
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Holiday Anxiety (already) :o(
colliebabe
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Anyone have anxiety over the holidays already? For me it's not the shopping at all, it's the figuring out how to split the time between the two families. We usually go away with my whole family (ETA: for Thanksgiving) to this great house about 3 hours away. I always look forward to having Wed-Sun off just to do some relaxing, shopping, hanging by the fire, running, drinking wine, etc. It's like a mini-vacation to me.
This year H can't get the Friday after Thanksgiving off, so we will have to drive up Friday night and come back Sunday. We'll be up there less than 48 hours. His family is coming for the actual T-day, but Wednesday and Friday will just be DD and I hanging out by ourselves at home instead of being up in the mountains doing all the things I enjoy.
I know I'm being a baby about it and marriage is about compromise and now we have a kid and blah blah blah, but the holidays used to be my favorite time of the year and now I dread 50% of them (the time with H's family.)
Ok I will go put my BGP on now.
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Re: Holiday Anxiety (already) :o(
I completely understand! I am from a HUGE family and both of my parents are remarried so that adds more people to try to see. Plus, DH's family. Oh, and did I mention that we live near none of them???? It's a huge PITA but it is what it is. I try to make the best of it every year and enjoy what I can.
I'm sorry you won't get to enjoy doing the things that you usually do. Maybe you can start some special holiday tradition with just you and the LO...
Thanks Ashley! My family is just so large, fun, supportive and helpful - we always have such a great time. Now my Thanksgiving willl be spend with MIL nitpicking me about everything, giving me unhelpful "suggestions" regarding DD and me feeling trapped in my own house.
I do love the idea of doing something with DD - maybe I will try to find a Turkey Trot where I can push her in the stroller or something!
Same, here.
Luckily, DH's family and all of my families live in the same city, but it does mean traveling 5-7 hours to see everyone and no matter what we do or how we split our time, everyone gives us a guilt trip about not seeing us enough. Blah.
We made a rule when we got married that we only do one event a day so that we aren't rushing around and so that we can actually enjoy our time with the people we are visiting. If that means we don't see everyone on December 25, so be it.
Burned by the Bear
Sorry about the anxiety, DH is on call Friday, Sat, and Sun after Thanksgiving, and usually we are at the vacation house in Arizona too. So its a no go at all for us. My parents are also going to leave on Nov. 20th for a trip, so we won't see them for Thanksgiving.
I'm fine with the changes this year, I'm just going with the flow. Whatever...
BTW, how did the flash mob go? Did you get it on video?
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OCT 2011 Moms BlogI love my DHs family. We usually spend the majority of Thanksgiving day at his Great Uncle's farm. The only thing I am anxious about is the drive out there and the fact that there are NO kids. I don't know how we are going to keep E occupied at his Uncle's. They also do really nicely decorated tables and I am afraid of the mess E will make.
If we went to my side's Thanksgiving, on the other hand, there would be sixteen kids. So I am trying to decide if it is worth putting my foot down or if we will see how she does this year and then go from there.
Thanks ladies! I am glad to see others are in the same boat! H actually just emailed and said he is taking Wednesday off so that makes the situation a little better.
Shediva - first I am probably more bummed for you that you can't go to AZ! And yes we did get the flash mob on video - I will post it in case anyone wants to see.
Its OK, we are going earlier in November to make up for it. I just hope Santa will be there that weekend so I can get pics, since there are never any lines to see him.
Yes, post the video!
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OCT 2011 Moms BlogI completely understand! It's so frustrating :-(
My MIL has MAJOR mental health issues and she gets weekly ECT's (electro convulsive therapy) and you never know who she will be from week to week. I'm afraid if we all get together for a holiday, it will set her off and she will have another manic episode. Personally, I would be just fine having the holidays with my family, but I feel bad for DH and my 21 yo SIL.
I hope you find the balance that works for your family!
I'm fine with Thanksgiving, but I'm already dreading Christmas.
My MIL and FIL used to live next door to my BIL and SIL. BIL's house was a teeny-tiny 2 bdrm, and MIL's house was the home everyone grew up in - much larger. But MIL couldn't afford to keep the house, so BIL bought it from her, and she bought his and they did a houseswitch. Now MIL & FIL live in a house with bedrooms just large enough to hold a bed (you basically crawl onto bed from the door) and BIL &SIL live next door in big house.
We always stay with MIL&FIL because BIL is so cheap he won't turn on their heater and SIL is a slob so the place is a dump. And DH promised me that once we have kids, we won't stay with MIL&FIL, since there won't be room. We'll get a hotel. My inlaws are miserable, so I was SO thankful for this.
Well BIL emailed DH and said we should just stay with them and DH accepted, because that way we could save money AND stay longer!!!!! I am so not excited.
Everyone ignores us when we're up there (as in, leaves town or plans activies we're not included in). MIL&FIL do nothing but complain. There is no Christmas cheer. And DH gets really bummed out being there because his expectations are always crushed and everyone is so miserable he starts feeling like its his fault for not being around more.