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Attachment Parenting
Is it safe
To sleep in my bed with my baby during the night? Thats what I plan to do but my mom told I shouldn't.
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Re: Is it safe
Yes! It can be safe and really wonderful to share your bed with your baby! There are certain precautions you might want to consider to make it even safer. For example, we took away our bed frame and put the mattress on the floor, so that LO can easily crawl on and off, and if he were to fall/roll out, he won't get hurt. Also, we make sure that LO sleeps next to me rather than DH. Check out this link (can't make clicky, sorry) for more info on safe co-sleeping, and enjoy snuggling your little one!
https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/sleep-problems/sleep-safety/safe-co-sleeping-habits
Thanks. So the baby isn't supposed to sleep in between me and my boyfriend?
No, moms have a protection instict and are more in tune with the baby's movements and noises that another family member (dads, grandparents, siblings) doesn't have. If you bring your baby in bed, baby should be between you and the edge of the bed where you would have some kind of railing or wall to prevent baby from falling out.
I don't bedshare all the time, but sometimes I do bring DD in bed with me in the middle of the night. I also had to bedshare when we were on vacation b/c she refused to sleep in the pack-n-play.
Lo is 2 months old.
Also, think about sidecarring your crib to your bed so that you can get the benefits of co-sleeping without actually sharing a bed. I don't know much about your sleeping situation, but if you don't at least have a queen bed, sometimes a tiny baby may not have enough room for air circulation. Read all about bed sharing to decide if it is right for you. It can be done safely (no blankets or pillows, parents FULLY aware and not overly tired or on any medicines or alcohol/drugs, baby full term and not prone to any desaturations, etc.). But there are also heartbreaking accounts of where it was not done safely and babies have ended up suffocating. If you are going to do it, you need to do it full out and with all the precautions in place to make it safe. It shouldn't be an "oh my gosh, I am exhausted and on day three of no sleep, so I am just going to put my little one in bed and crash" decision. Good luck with whatever you choose, but I seriously recommend you look into a snuggle nest or a side-carred crib, and that you DON'T put the baby in between you and your boyfriend to sleep.
I have slept with my baby from day one. When he was first born I'd sleep on my back inclined on pillows and he'd sleep on my chest. As he got a little bigger I would lay down on my side and he would use my arm as a pillow so he was up off the bed. I'd keep the blanket down around my waist. Now he is 4 months he sleeps on his side and I sleep on my side facing him but he just lays flat on the bed (he's also 17 pounds and 27 inches, he puts my arm to sleep if I let him sleep on it lol), and I still keep blankets and pillow well away from him. And as mentioned before I never ever put him between my husband and I.
I encourage to read this book https://www.amazon.com/Sleeping-Your-Baby-Parents-Cosleeping/dp/1930775342 to find out if you meet the criteria to bedshare safely, how to set up your sleep enviornment, and learn how to explain to your mom why this is a healthy option when done correctly.
More Green For Less Green
"Proudteenmommy96", you joined yesterday. Please try a bit harder to troll this board - maybe something like, "can I wrap my baby in big, fluffy blanket, drink heavily and then sleep with them on a waterbed?"
You have quite the roster of trollbait, though:
https://www.thebump.com/profiles/proudteenmommy96/community/forumposts
DS2 - Oct 2010 (my VBAC baby!)