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a&s05
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No surprises anymore?
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Am i the only one who's family refuses to give me any details on my shower because they want it to be a surprise? I've always grown up with baby/bridal showers being surprises and seems like everyone else on here knows the exact day of their shower. I am jealous! Lol I hate surprises but my mom insists. Now I have to keep checking my registries to see when stuff gets bought to judge when invites went out :
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Re: No surprises anymore?
Are you in NY/NJ/PA, or nearby? I had never heard of a "surprise shower" before coming to The Knot. As best as I can tell, it's predominantly in those states.
Personally, I'm glad there here in Georgia and everywhere else I've lived, the guest of honor is consulted about the date.
PA outside Philly here too and we (family friends etc) are all about surprise showers.. I HATE THEM.
I used to think how fun! BUT for my bridal shower DH had plans to take me to his dads farm that night to check out the camp ground for his Bachelor party that weekend WELL he kept saying get a shower I'm like NO I'm an about to walk through mud and trees to see this place I will shower AFTER the camp ground. (not to sound horribly dirty but I had showered the morning before threw my hair in a wet bun and I was done) Turns out I showed up to my shower at my parents in jean shorts and a Junky sports shirt - I was pissed! I told DH during the planning that the only thing I wanted was for my hair to be done... all he had to do is say he was taking me to dinner that night or something not a farm.. ugh still makes me upset
My family wants to do a surprise baby shower - I am really not happy about this
They will not take no for an answer. I told DH if it's a surprise I will just walk out and leave...
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Im from Maryland and surprise showers are big here too. My bridal shower was a surprise, and my baby shower is a surprise too. I know I am having one, but I have no idea when it is, where it is, or any details at all. There are a lot of parties planned in November, I am sure that one of those parties is my shower. I LOVE surprise showers, it makes it so much more exciting in my opinion. I love attending them too, its fun to see like look on the guest of honors face.
I know surprise showers are not for everyone though.
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I'm from CT, they love surprise showers here. My bridal shower was a surprise, and because DH is horrible at lying and/or coming up with cover stories, I wore the crappiest outfit and looked like a hot mess at my bridal shower. Therefore, I requested my baby shower not be a surprise. If I'm going to be as big as a house, I'd like to at least wear something cute and get a blowout.
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the only things I knew about my shower was the date, location, the guest list and the flavor of the cake. Everything else (theme, games, time, presents) was a suprise and I loved it! I usually hate suprises but there are so few left in life and bc I dont know my babies gender I decided to continue the theme of "suprise baby" let my mom and bestie have fun planning suprises for my shower. I really believe it wouldnt have been as special to me if I knew every detail about everything.
I only peeked at my registry once after I finished it and that was bc my bestie said I was missing a lot of things. When I went to add what she suggested I thought I had forgotten to add my stroller but when I looked at the bottom of the page it was already purchased. Even though I didnt know who purchased it I wish I hadnt seen that bc it ruined the suprise.I purposely sent all of my presents to my dad's house so I wouldnt know what I was being gifted so I could be suprised at my shower.
Try to embrace the unknown.. it can actually be fun
Thats just mean! I'm suprised you didnt slug him lol!! Did they at least have a change of clothes at your parents house?
I'm indifferent about surprise showers. On the one hand, it's so nice that my family went out of their way to make my day special. But on the other hand, I want to know, so I can dress appropriately. That said, I did have one for my Bridal shower. It was sweet that my mom had put it all together. But I was really flustered having shown up to my shower in a Chicago White Sox shirt and jeans.
But this time around, I know when I am having my shower as my mom and MIL are planning it together.
But in the end, if I do get a surprise shower/party, I would probably still love it.
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I'm from NY, and surprise showers are the norm here. I personally loved mine, even more so because it was a surprise. My only fear (knowing one was coming) was that I would show up in sweatpants or something. I guess if you know you're having a baby or getting married, you just don't dress like a scrub for those last few months!
None of my showers have been a surprise. Well, the details about the shower such as decorations, etc was unknown to me, but that's only because I left it all up to the hostesses.
They called me to confirm a date and request a guest list. I provided the guest list and got an invitation in the mail just like everyone else. My only request, when asked, was no games. Other than that, I let them have free reign.
They have been all amazing and I loved everything about them.
I do live in NY and never thought it was something that occurs in my area only. Only thing I was involved with was providing the list of my friends and their addresses. My family knows I work mon-thurs and my fiance will know the info so we don't plan something for the same day. How it works fopr example is theyll tell me I'm invited to lets say a birthday party for another family member and then I show up and it'd really my party. This way I'm dressed appropriately and whatnot. My fear which is very vain and silly is either I wont be dressedup enough or I will show up in my special outfit and its really not my day. Then I'd be mad bc I wouldnt want to rewear the outfit. I'm a huge planner and always have been and I'm also hard to surprise bc I'm always on guard so chances are I will not be surprised. I was just curious why my family seems to be the only one torturing(i'm been extreme, its not that terrible)me with this! lol
I only know the day of my shower, nothing else. Do not know location, decor, etc. I would hate to not be prepared at least on the day of the shower! I want to look good!
My BFF gave me a surprise 30th b-day party one year and it was TERRIBLE!!! My DH was obviously "in on it" since he had to supply her with my family's names/addresses/etc. I was supposed to be going to some kind of jewelry party with my friend (it was at her neighbor's home). I almost cancelled since I was tired, it was hot and I was 36-37 weeks pregnant. I had on shorts and a top. My DH suggested that I put something "nicer" on...which is a good thing!!! I really didn't question it at all. I got to her house and was biitching about some chocolate zuccini bread I made that stuck to the pan because my sister never said to grease the pan, and so on and so on, etc. Well, my friend asked if I'd grab the bag on her diningroom table for her and when I went in everyone yelled Happy Birthday! I was mortified that I had been biitching and swearing about that stupid zuccini bread in front of the pastor's wife plus many other "friends" from church and of course...my sister! Needless to say, I did NOT enjoy myself at all and was uncomfortable ALL evening. I never even wanted to see some of those people again...I was so embarrassed. I HATE SURPRISE ANYTHING! They certainly can backfire.
My bridal was a complete surprise. My mom had it in Aug and I got married in Oct so I was very surprised. My baby shower is a surprise but isn't. I know that I am having one but I don't know when it is other then Jan. I will know that I am going to my shower but not until it is the week of. I don't know the theme or details. I did help her find stuff for a "Daddy Basket" but I don't know what she put it in other then a Big Brother shirt for our boxer as a joke.
My mom says bridal showers are a full surprise but baby showers are only a partial surprise. The mtb should know what she is going to so she actually goes and doesn't back out last minute. It should help the mom have a little boost day of if she knows its her shower since it is later in the pregnancy when we are once again tired.
I am excited about not knowing what is going on with my shower. While I want to know the details it is something to look forward to. I keep thinking about what she is planning and have so many ideas in my head. I trust my mother and know she will plan a very nice shower so I have nothing to worry about.
My shower was a surprise, or at least was supposed to be. I went into labor 3 days prior to the shower so my mom told me about it at the hospital so they could determine whether or not to postpone it.
I like surprise showers. Or at the very least, the mother may know about the shower so she can be prepared and dressed appropriately, but the details are a surprise. I wouldn't expect someone to share the details of a gift they're giving me before I open it, so I wouldn't expect to know shower details in advance either.
I'm not sure about geography, but I think years ago showers were typically a surprise (wedding or baby). My mom's baby shower was a surprise, she thought she was going to my aunt's to babysit my cousin. And my friend's mom walked into her surprise bridal shower after a baseball game- in dirty jeans and a t-shirt!
Nowadays, this is less common since girls like to be able to pick out a special outfit and know when their out-of-town friends are around.
I would definitely want to know the basics about my shower (date, time, location), but the other details could be a surprise.
It's not that I hate surprises-I had a surprise bachelorette party which was pretty awesome- but I don't think they're the best idea for a shower.
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