How is your DH with LO?

drbethc · October 2012

So now that our LOs are all about 4 months old. How has your DH adjusted to LO? It used to drive me nuts when DH would watch DS and then, give him right back to me when he started to fuss. For example, it drove me nuts when DH tries to multi task while holding LO. DH is on his laptop, while holding DS on one lap and the dog on the other, and then when LO fusses, hands him back to me.

But now, it seems DH is finally getting it. I see him putting in the effort now to talk, sing and soothe LO when he is fussy and will even offer to hold him if he sees my hands full. Thank goodness! Now I can see having a second child.

alizabethanne · October 2012

I hate being braggy but I am doing it for this one. My DH is a Super Dad!

I had a crazy labor/c-section experience which lead to a major abdominal infection and I had major nursing issues. I had mastitis more times then I can count. For the first 8 weeks of my DDs life all I could do, or had the strength to do was sleep, pump and get the hospital for more antibiotics. DH did everything for me and for her from her very first minute and when I got better, he taught me the ropes! I don't know how I would have held it together if it wasn't for him.

I am one lucky gal. Don't let me vent about him on here! If I do tell me I am a huge jerk!

abbyhannah8 · October 2012

My DH is AMAZING with her. She absolutely loves him and he loves spending time with her. He currently stays home full time with her and loves it

acbfreire · October 2012

DH does great with her and is proud of being able to soothe her. LO enjoys playing with daddy too.

Today he took her for an hour while I napped - I didn't ask for it, he just did it. It felt so good to catch some extra zzzzzs

AliciaS1411 · October 2012

My experience has been exactly like yours beth. DH has been great though. In the beginning he woke up with me at night for every single nursing session because he felt like it was unfair for him to sleep and me to have to get up, which I really appreciated at the time. I would be fighting trying to nurse and he'd make me a snack or just talk to me, then we'd go back to sleep together. It was a wonderful bonding time for us I think..it strengthened our relationship for him to be so supportive in that.

BUT- it was hard early on because he was so scared of him. He was having trouble figuring out what cries meant what. He would take 20 minutes to change a diaper because he was being so careful and it frustrated me to no end.

but around the 2.5 or 3 month mark he really started to get it. He plays with LO all the time, changes and feeds him happily.. I'm a SAHM and on the weekends he wakes up early with him and lets me sleep in. He really is a rock start dad and husband. I'm extremely lucky to have him.

Samiantha101 · October 2012

He's been great with her since day one. While I spend more time with her, because I currently stay at home during the day, he always takes her once he's off of work. We alternate diaper changes, feedings, etc. Really, I couldn't have asked for a better partner in parenting.

sam19 · October 2012

Much better We had some rough patches at first but he's really found his groove with her. The only issues we have is when he gets up at night with her. He just gets frustrated really easily after he's woken up and can act like a real dicck at night.

strawberrytree · October 2012

He is an amazing daddy and has been from the start. He is great with getting up at night if DS needs a diaper change, or if he needs to be rocked/walked to sleep after I nurse DS in the middle of the night (he usually nurses to sleep, but not always). He loves babywearing and cosleeping, and he has voluntarily stepped up his share of the chores because he knows that taking care of the baby and nursing him takes a lot out of me. Today he cleaned the bathroom, mopped the floors, and vacuumed (while wearing DS in the carrier so I could nap) because he noticed it was getting messy. His favourite thing to do is hang out with DS and we sometimes argue over who gets to carry DS or push the stroller when we're out with him. He has just gone back to school and so is around in the mornings, so he takes DS when he wakes up and lets me have an extra hour or two of sleep (since 90% of the time DH gets to sleep through the night).

Honestly, he is such an amazing and dedicated father that he sometimes makes me feel a bit incompetent. I get tired or want a break sometimes and it seems like he never does.

stanfordt04 · October 2012

alizabethanne:
I hate being braggy but I am doing it for this one. My DH is a Super Dad!I had a crazy labor/csection experience which lead to a major abdominal infection and I had major nursing issues. I had mastitis more times then I can count. For the first 8 weeks of my DDs life all I could do, or had the strength to do was sleep, pump and get the hospital for more antibiotics. DH did everything for me and for her from her very first minute and when I got better, he taught me the ropes! I don't know how I would have held it together if it wasn't for him.I am one lucky gal. Don't let menbsp;vent about him on here! If I do tell me I am a huge jerk!nbsp;

This was my DH... I had an extremely tough delivery and recovery... I had to have surgery eight days after LO was born... He basically did everything the first three weeks with very little help from me because I was bed ridden... And I swear him and DS have an unbelievable bond at only 4.5 months... :

Gismo123 · October 2012

My DH has been amazing from day 1! We had major latch issues, including tongue tie and DS and I got thrush twice! DH was always supportive and always told me what a great mom I was for not giving up bfing when times got tough. He was my 1 supporter!

He also is a great dad when it comes to diaper duty and bath time and he is AMAZING at calming DS down when he's crying....friends have called him the baby whisperer lol

Ya I am bragging about him but he deserves to be bragged about!

jamiah18 · October 2012

Dh is doing great. However, dd is certainly making it tough for him! She is a total mommy's girl- she still won't take a bottle (since two months). But he definitely makes an effort. What I'm most appreciative of is he works overtime everyday so that I can stay home from work a few months longer to be with her. To me, that is an amazing thing to do for your family:)

jasminelorraine20 · October 2012

SO is a very doting dad! He loves taking LO with him to go to the mall or walking around the neighborhood. He's better at putting him to sleep then I am and usually tells me to get out the way lol. He's always been pretty good with DS but he's loving it now that DS is laughing, smiling and reaching for him.

RedRose87 · October 2012

Wow...

I LOVE my DH with all my heart, and I hope this doesn't sound like I don't appreciate what he does do, since he works 50 hours a week and I get to stay home with little one which is a privilege some don't have. But sadly, DS does not take a bottle from me, and if he doesn't immediately take it from DH he just gives up and gives DS back to me, which means I just end up having to nurse him because he screams if I try to offer a bottle. And DH has NEVER gotten little one down for a nap or bedtime. I asked him to try today, but since he's never put DS to sleep our little guy refused to calm down for him. I ended up having to take him and rock him to sleep, only took 15 minutes and put him in his swing. DH is getting better not handing him off every time DS fusses (He used to do it, and be like "oh he's hungry, here.") but now he does great at getting him to stop crying.

I guess it's just hard since I EBF plus my husband works nights and sleeps during the day. So really it's ALL me. Exhausting sometimes, and it's hard since I can't hand him off when I start to get frustrated.

mkflower3000 · October 2012

Like OP, DH used to do the whole 'DD has cried for 2 minutes straight so here ya go', but at least he doesn't anymore! He's also gotten a lot more tolerant and comfortable with her now that they've spent more time together. He's a lot more relaxed and better at soothing her too, which is great!

He has yet to stay home alone with her, though, or let me sleep in... The one time I got upset and asked him to take care of her in the morning, he kept asking me 'where is' questions. He just really loves his sleep, so unfortunately hasn't even come up with the idea of letting me sleep longer in the mornings :-/ Other than those two things, though, he's much better than he used to be!

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