3 year old and still not PT...is this bad?

LBartholomew13080 · October 2012

I know boys take longer than girls and my son has had two successful times at daycare (standing up no less) and once here at home as soon as he woke up. He still wakes up completely soaked every morning but he still is asking for drink (water) at night 2 or 3 times (once in a while 4). Not sure if he's truly "ready" or not. I graduate my master's degree at the end of november, which at that time I'll be able to dedicate time completely to PT (hubby needs help doing it). He drinks SO MUCH during the day and night than I wonder if he'll EVER PT

dragon_chica · October 2012

First of all, no it's not bad.

Secondly, stop giving him so much to drink at night. Consider the possibility that he's just doing that as a stalling technique or to get you in the room. Make sure his last drink is 1.5-2 hours before he's tucked in and have him do a potty check before sleeping. Either establish a no-drinking at night rule or when he asks for water give it to him in a teeny tiny cup.

groovygrl · October 2012

Well then I'm in bad parent camp too but I have chosen not to force the issue as my son has been adamantly anti PTing (he is 3 yrs almost 3 mos)... as in- yelling NO and I can't do it! and stuff like that when I even attempt to have him sit on the potty & try (and I really don't force it, when we do sit & try it is like for 30 sec when he starts yelling that he can't do it). We've tried 2-3 days at home of wearing underwear and sitting and all that and 2 days at daycare on a separate occasion & he just is not interested & doesn't care at all when he has an accident & is playing in wet undies/clothes. The teachers pretty much said they are happy to help but can't force him to sit and obviously none of us can force him to actually go while he is sitting... As so many ppl have told me that often they will just one day ask to go or start wanting to, I have decided to wait for that day (my DD did exactly that but was 2 1/2 and her PTing was done within 2 weeks).

Last night when he got in the tub he started saying he had to go pee and I put him right on the potty & he peed a little and then at the end of the bath he said it again & went even more...it was the first time he ever initiated having the sensation so of course we made a big huge deal out of it, etc. Also only the 2nd time ever he got any pee out while sitting on a toilet/potty. So I'm trying not to get my hopes up but hoping it is the start of progress.

GL & don't beat yourself up!

smerka · October 2012

My older son has a kidney issue, but his urologist is adamant about not potty training until they're ready. At this point he sometimes wakes up dry, but shows absolute no interest in the potty. I asked him the other day if he wanted to wear underwear and he freaked out. At this point I'll be happy if he's out of diapers by four. But I'm not really hopeful. Maybe his brother will learn first and show him the way. I'm not pushing him and if that makes me a bad parent, so be it.

mrsseguin · October 2012

I actually waited to PT DS. I did it a week before his 3rd bday. He was in a wedding, and didn't want him to have an accident in a tux. He was perfectly content in a diaper and had no interest in the potty. I also thought it was going to be a nightmare, so I waited. It took about 2 days to train him. He also drinks a lot. We don't cut off his fluids before bed. He actually has a small drink before he goes to sleep. He wears a pull up to bed, and will be dry 50% of the time. If you wait until they are ready, it's not that bad, really. I'd wait until your done with school and try then. I wouldn't stress over it.