December 2010 Moms

What do you miss most?

What do you miss most from your life before kids?

DH and I were talking about this over the weekend and we agreed it was sleep. You know, sleeping all night, sleeping in, taking naps when you want.

There are lots of things but sleep was the biggest since I can usually find a way to read a book or meet a friend for dinner.

What about you?
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Re: What do you miss most?

  • That I used to go out after work all the time  (I get out of work at 3, H doesn't get home until 7). Happy hour, shopping with friends, getting my nails done...now I rush home to relieve my mom or MIL from their duties, and it would take hours of planning to do any one of those things I used to do in a heartbeat.
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  • Sleep is definitely the biggest one for me. 
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  • Eating with 2 hands.  j/k...sort of

    Actually H & I were talking yesterday about how on Sundays in the fall we used to just lounge around, make a really yummy lunch/dinner and watch football.  Now it's like our only day to catch up so we are constantly going.  Cleaning the yard, house, laundry, grocery shopping, fixing whatever seemed to break that week (this week was the fan in the bathroom that would scream like a banshee whenever the light turned on).  There's just never a day off anymore.


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  • Sleep is by far the biggie for me too.  DH would probably say "down time" to just laze around and do nothing, which I also miss too.  But he has 3 other children, so none of this is new stuff for him.  But oh, what I wouldn't give to be able to sleep longer and uninterrupted!!!  I am always tired.

     

  • We really miss the freedom to do things in the evenings, even small things like go for a walk around the neighborhood.
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  • I miss all the mini trips we used to take. We wouldn't think anything of flying to our parents vacation home or going to visit a friend for a weekend. We've traveled with Ava...but it's so much more of a production.
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  • Just being able to focus on doing one thing without being interrupted 1,000 times!

    Being able to sleep, shower and have alone time whenever I wanted was also nice. Too bad I didn't appreciate it at the time!

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  • With H sleep has never been a problem, she likes her sleep. I am kinda worried when I have this baby though.

    I miss just being able to just run into a store for something fast.  

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  • My husband and I were just talking about what we missed most about NYC. It turns out that the things we missed going out all the time, meeting up with friends at restaurants and bars, etc, were all things that we missed about our prebaby lives and not specific to NYC. I also miss sex. I hardly ever make time for that anymore.
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  • sleep, running into a gas station really quick, being completely lazy, taking a shower whenever I want, not having to decide what someone else is going to eat.
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    sleep, running into a gas station really quick, being completely lazy, taking a shower whenever I want, not having to decide what someone else is going to eat.

    hahahaha I was JUST thinking about this!  Since A has food allergies, and eats much earlier, I'm always making him a separate dinner PLUS breakfast and lunch. I want to be just lazy and eat for myself instead!

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  • I miss not having to schedule my day around someone else's.  I want to go to the store but we can't go now because DD has to eat in 40 minutes and then it's nap time... but oh, she wants to happily play in her crib for an hour... well I guess she's not going to go to sleep I'll just get her... wait, she just passed out, I guess I'll let her nap... yay!  she woke up, oh it's snack time.... and now she refuses to on shoes... and now it's time for dinner.  (Can you tell we had a difficult weekend)
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  • Sleep is a pretty big one, but DH and I were just talking about how 3 years ago Sundays in the fall were awesome.

    We would sleep in a bit, one or both of us would take the dog for a nice walk. Then we'd pretty much just watch football all day long. We had two couples that we were friends with and we would casually rotate which house we would go to and spend the whole day just hanging out and watching football.

    Well - now we have 2 kids, one of the couples has since gotten a divorce and the other couple moved out of state. So none of that happens anymore. But it was a really fun football season 3 years ago!

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  • International travel - yes, we could with C now but we don't have any money for it with DC.  Oh well, someday though.  And it will be awesome to show him all of our favorite places.
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  • I think I miss the freedom I used to have to just do whatever whenever.  Now everything is so scheduled there is no time for spontaniety.  If I want to go to the gym it has to be scheduled and child care arranged.  If I want to go out with friends, or stop on the way home from work, I have to make sure CCP can stay late and that O isnt in a terrible mood, etc.

    It was nice to have my time to me.

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  • Sleep has become pretty normal again now that T. has gotten into a sleeping routine but I'm definitely going to be missing that again in a few months! When you're not getting regular sleep, that is definitely ALL you want out of life!

    Other than that, pre-kid things I miss the most:

    1. How clean and cute my house was.  Now I just don't have the time or energy to put into it and there is so much more day-to-day to keep up with, baby chore-wise.

    2. My relationship with my dogs.  We used to go for long hikes or walks every day and now T. doesn't really enjoy his stroller, plus it's too hard to manage with the leashes.  The dogs mostly just annoy me now.

    3. Having "me" time.  Where I just decided to do whatever I wanted to do.  Like go the gym or take a really long shower whenever I wanted or read a book.  Luckily I love all the kid activity stuff too, like all the Halloween kiddie parties and all that.  Just sometimes I'd love to go work out and not feel guilty that T. is in the daycare or something like that.  Go to the mall without chasing and coaxing and coercing a 2 year old.

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  • Sleep. Definitely sleep.

    A close second would be freedom lol. The other day s friend texted me, asking if I wanted to go shopping. Of course I couldn't cause it was time for feedings and whatever so eh. I could've brought the boys with me but its such a hassle. I miss just being able to pick up and go whenever I feel like it.
    1. a clean house with decor on the walls- we have had to remove most of my decor- I think my house looks like I just moved in- except if you look at the playroom then you definately know there are people living here.
    2. working- not just for the extra "me " money- but for the sense of accomplishment and adult socialization.
    3. having time to cook healthy dinners- it seems that all I have time for are quick easy meals that are not the healthiest.   Yes I am a SAHM but my boys are crazy climbers and are obessed with the TV.  So they need to be supervised in the family room all the time.
    4. my weekly manicures- I did have the opportunity to get them in the summer- but my babysitter went back to college 5 hours away and I can't find someone that I trust enough with the boys. 
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    Eating with 2 hands.  j/k...sort of

    Actually H & I were talking yesterday about how on Sundays in the fall we used to just lounge around, make a really yummy lunch/dinner and watch football.  Now it's like our only day to catch up so we are constantly going.  Cleaning the yard, house, laundry, grocery shopping, fixing whatever seemed to break that week (this week was the fan in the bathroom that would scream like a banshee whenever the light turned on).  There's just never a day off anymore.

    This made me smile b/c this is something I miss, too - I'd make loaded nachos, or we'd order a pizza & wings for the game. And where we used to live, the sun would beam through our big living room window right onto the couch during Sunday football. I would lay on the couch with a soft throw blanket & "bask" in the sun during the game. Every Sunday, I'd joke about how I couldn't wait till the game so I can bask. So my answer to the OP is that I miss basking, lol.

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  • Doing what I wanted whenever I wanted to. I used to take a nap on Sunday afternoons. I could go shopping, get my hair cut, meet friends for dinner and didn't think twice. Now I have to everything. We had a big breakfast late Sunday, so by lunch I wasn't hungry. It want until ds threw a.fit that I realized that he hadn't eaten and was probably hungry. Oh, and yard work with a kid is nearly impossible. I planted some mums this weekend while dh painted a fence. I had to stop every 2 minutes to keep ds in check. Any other day he would be happy picking up leaves, but not when I suggest it.
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  • I miss my pony. I had an awesome Haflinger named Scottie. After DS1 I sent him to a therapeutic riding place where he could live for free and get ridden. And I think I rode him like 5 times after DS1, so I sold him. Crying on the bright side, his original owner bought him back! Easy peasy!

    Now I run for exercise, but its outside in the pitch black after the boys go to bed, or during naptime on the weekends. I wish I could go right after work and then have dinner later... Ugh. Someday!
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  • 1. Sleep. 2. Exercise--I used to run, and I know I could now, but I'm so exhausted after S's bedtime, that I can't imagine running then. Kellina - such an inspiration - but I'm not as motivated! 3. Time to go to talks and lectures in the evening, or conferences for my job without feeling really guilty the whole time. My guy is really clingy and mama-centric, so I get the guilt trip from him and from DH whenever I'm out on my own. 4. Dates with my husband when we talked about non-kid related things....and I had time to be up on things non-kid related!

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  • That fact that I knew that if I for one month came short on money I could just buy cheap food for the rest of the month (ie noodles), but now I think about J need to have varied eating habits.

    Also sleep! I miss to sleep in during the weekend!

    Last but not least I miss my "moistness"! I used to be chronically wet "down under", but ever since my first MC I cannot get stimulated enough to get wet..

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  • I guess right now I miss having alone time with DH. With a toddler in the house and both of us working nights, we never have time to DTD, which means no baby #2. I'll confess that we put DD in front of a movie the other day so we could have a quickie. I feel bad but it had to be done, mommy and daddy are much happier when they get a little. We have had about 4 nights off together in the last 6 weeks (none of which were around my ovulation days), baby making is not going well. =( 

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