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meeting birthmom..

JodyA118JodyA118
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how far into the process have you met the birth mom? and how long before birth of child? I know there is no standard but just curious what others have done.

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  • firecracker8firecracker8 member
    We got a call on Jan 3rd, met her on Jan 13th, officially matched Jan14th, baby born Feb 8th, brought him home from the hospital on Feb 10th
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  • JodyA118JodyA118
    What was it like meeting her? what kinds of things did you talk about?
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  • MayDayGirlMayDayGirl member
    I met dd's birthmom the morning I picked her up and took her to the hospital! A little unconventional but it worked!
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member
    We met DD's BM when DD was 36 hours old
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  • IRRIRR member
    We met EM at 14 weeks in July.  We were matched before we met her and she is not due until December.
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    Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


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  • firecracker8firecracker8 member

    imageJodyA118:
    What was it like meeting her? what kinds of things did you talk about?

    We met at our agency with a social worker. It helped a lot because the SW was able to help move the conversation along. We had a list of questions that were recommended to ask her. We just asked her what kind of things she enjoyed, what her family was like, what her pregnancy has been like.... etc. She only had one question for us, would we have the baby baptized. The list of questions that the agency had given us really helped a lot! 

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  • steph196steph196 member
    We met LO's birthmother after being certified and waiting for 10 months. We were able to spend 2 months together, getting to know each other, before LO was born.
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  • orangecupcakeorangecupcake member

    imagefirecracker8:
    We got a call on Jan 3rd, met her on Jan 13th, officially matched Jan14th, baby born Feb 8th, brought him home from the hospital on Feb 10th

    so close to this - "the call" came on Jan 12, met her Jan 14, baby born Feb 8, home Feb 11. 

    I became a mother because of adoption. She is the absolute love of my life. Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker formerly known as sw_in_kc
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  • orangecupcakeorangecupcake member

    imageJodyA118:
    What was it like meeting her? what kinds of things did you talk about?

    I was beyond nervous! We met her and her parents at a restaurant of her choice with both social workers present. Our sw prepped me prior with questions to ask her and questions she woul probably ask us. The sw's were tremendously helpful, bringing up topics and stopping a couple that weren't going to go anywhere. We were there for about 2 hours, the whole time she was having BH contractions! 

    I became a mother because of adoption. She is the absolute love of my life. Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker formerly known as sw_in_kc
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  • JodyA118JodyA118
    Is it normal to have your SW with you? what if the BM is from another state etc? What types of questions did you/she ask?
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