TTC After a Loss

Just a bad day (pregnancy/mentioned not mine)

I don't even care if anyone reads this but Ive got to let some of this go. For the most part Ive done really well with the loss and staying positive. My husband took it so super hard I really kept alot in trying to be supportive to him and not wanting to make it worse.

A close friend of mine and I, started trying at the same time. We got our + opks at the same time and our + pregnancy tests on the same day and of course we were due within days of each other. Well they got to find out the sex this weekend and posted beautiful sonigram pictures, seriously some of the clearest Ive ever seen that weren't 3D and all my walls came crashing down. That should be us this week too. I want to be running out this week to buy something pink or blue and announcing a name. I wanted to find out via a sonigram of a healthy, kicking, baby, not at my two week check up without warning because they did chromosome testing. A loss sucks regardless but prior to knowing it was a girl I thought and spoke of it in terms of losing a pregnancy. I was pretty detached to it all, but learning it was a girl meant I had to accept I didn't loose a pregnancy I lost a baby, our daughter. I didnt ask to know, I didn't want to know that I wanted to stay in my little detatched bubble.

Anyways, thank you if you made it through that. Knowing my friend and I should be celebrating together just really hurts today now time to wipe the tears and put on a happy face for work. We have a huge event and its biketoberfest here in FL which means LOTS of business so Ive got a lot to do today.

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  • I'm sorry. I have been thinking a lot about how bad it sucks to leave the hospital empty handed and to have to watch others have joy while we have sorrow. The what ifs, why, and should haves are the worst. I'm glad you are opening up, its ok to have bad days. I wish I could make it better. Just wanted you to know you aren't alone. Hugs!!!!
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  • (((Hugs))) honey.  I'm sorry you had to find out that information that you weren't expecting.  Maybe now that you know, you could give her a name.  It might bring you a little peace.  Sometimes I wish I knew the sex of my babies. 

    More (((hugs))) because I'm sorry you're hurting.

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  • This post made me tear up. I'm super emotional today CD1, and I hate this for you. I know exactly how you feel, and it's just not fair. Yes, I know life isn't fair, but you shouldn't have to feel this way. None of us should. I'm sending you big HUGS.
  • Big hugs :( I am so sorry you are having a hard day,  I am right there with you sister. I hope your day gets better... :( 
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  • So sorry you are going through this. ((Hugs))! Did the dr ask if u wanted to know before telling you? 

     

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  • I'm so sorry. I also have a friend who is due a week after I was. She is constantly complaining about pregnancy symptoms, how she wishes she could drink, and posting pictures of sonograms. She just found out what she is having also. It is extremely hard and each time I see a post from her on Faceboom it's like a slap in the face. Unfortunately nothing will help us with this. I hope you start feeling better and I'm sending hugs your way!
    BFP#1 2nd cycle TTC yay! EDD 4/1/13 ER Visit w/ 1st US 8/6/12 @ 6w5d- Strong HB! 2nd US 9/4/12- 10w2d...MMC only measuring 9w1d. D&C 9/6/12 Hoping the next one is our Rainbow....
  • I'm sending you huge [[hugs]] today! I'm so sorry you're having a bad day. I also have a very close friend who I "planned" with and who is pregnant now. It is so hard to balance my happiness for her with my sadness for me, and most days it's not balanced. I can only hold on to the fact that it will all get better in time.
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    So sorry you are going through this. Hugs!nbsp;Did the dr ask if u wanted to know before telling you?nbsp;nbsp;


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  • I'm so sorry, sending lots of ((HUGS)).
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  • I'm so sorry ((hugs)) 


  • I'm so sorry hon.  Big ((((hugs))))
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    BFP #2: 8/31/12 EDD: 5/18/13 Chemical pregnancy: 9/4/12
    BFP #3:  5/17/13  EDD: 1/24/14 Loss at 5 weeks: 5/29/13

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    Cycle 2: Cancelled due to two cysts =(
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  • I'm sorry. I know it sucks big time. (((hugs)))

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  • *big big hugs* Sorry hun. This while things just really does suck.
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  • So sorry.

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  • I'm so, so sorry.  I think you would be hurting right now, even if you didn't know that your baby was a daughter.  I don't know the sex of any of my babies, and I wish that I did.  It hurts no matter what.  And I hate the fact that you are hurting so deeply, and that everybody here is too.  It's not fair.  (((HUGS)))
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    2012: 3 more IUIs + Clomid = 3 more CPs. One on-our-own pg, also CP
    2013: BTB IUI + Lupron/Follistim/Prometrium/PIO = CP #6
    IF testing, RPL testing, Autoimmune testing = all normal
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  • So sorry! ::: hugs:::
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  • thank you so much ladies. Hugs to all of you that responded you were also having a hard day. I hate this for all of us
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  • So, so sorry you have to deal with this right now.  Big hugs.
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  • I'm so sorry. (((HUGS)))


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    Dec '12 HSG & ultrasound showed abnormalities & more endo. Laproscopic surgery in January '13 showed significant damage & scar tissue from Endo. IVF is our best shot to concieve our rainbow.

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  • I'm so sorry.  This made me tear up too.  (HUGS)

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    BFP #1 5/13/12 * EDD 1/24/13 * MC at 7 wks 4 days on 6/11/12
    BFP #2 5/13/13 * Current EDD 1/23/14

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  • I'm so sorry! It's really hard to have someone in your life who is going through all the stages of pregnancy that you should have been. It's a painful, constant reminder. Cry away. ((HUGS))

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    D&C #2 Chromosome analysis results: Translocation Trisomy 14

    My RPL Testing: Homozygous MTHFR, normal karyotype

    DH's karyotype results: Robertsonian Translocation 13:14

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