Different Take on a Push Present

rinascita · October 2012

Is anyone getting something special for their DH or SO?

When TTC I used to think I would really want or expect a push present but now that I am pregnant I almost feel like DH should have something special from the LO's... I actually would rather not get a push present now so its not about being 'equal' for gifts...

Anyone doing something special for DH?

Any ideas??

sbevmc09 · October 2012

I'm giving him a baby Wink

abelch2 · October 2012

I don't expect a single thing. But I agree with the previous post, I'm giving him a baby...

rinascita · October 2012

sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby

True, and I doubt my husband would even think about wanting anything else Smile

Brummy14 · October 2012

sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby

This x2.

Heck, if I make it through the next however many weeks on bed rest without losing my sanity and making his life a living hell, then I consider that to be gift enough. I am NOT wired for this bedrest thing -- in fact, I'd say I'm wired for the exact opposite of bedrest. Lol.

EAMommy · October 2012

Brummy14:
sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby
This x2.
Heck, if I make it through the next however many weeks on bed rest without losing my sanity and making his life a living hell, then I consider that to be gift enough. I am NOT wired for this bedrest thing -- in fact, I'd say I'm wired for the exact opposite of bedrest. Lol.

Yep. I enjoyed it for the first week but now it's getting old and I have, oh, about 12 weeks to go... It's a miracle I have bitten DH's head off yet. Ha! No special gifts for us from each other... Just the baby we've wanted and tried for for 4 years...

jobiann · October 2012

sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby

Ha, this!

I am packing a few special things for his hospital bag...but nothing big. Just some of his favorite things to make being away from home for a few days easier. With His birthday being the end of November, my birthday mid-December and Christmas in there too we just won't spend any more money on "extra" gifts.

I greatly dislike the term "push present" just as much as I hate the term "prego". I think it just screams tacky..."GIVE ME A PRESENT!!!". I'm just not that type of person. I don't even expect gifts on my birthday or anniversary. I just want my DH to acknowledge the special day.

akating · October 2012

After the pain and emotional struggles I went through and only got a baby from DH (only... as if that is not much of anything lol) I think I would be offended if DH even thought of wanting a push present. The point is that mommy just went through hell and back and might like to have something frilly to keep her mind off of what just happened to her body (at least that is how I have always seen it). The only thing DH experienced was seeing me go through it. And while that can be an emotional toll it is nothing compared to the pain that a women goes through to deliver her baby. So no I wouldn't think about getting DH anything. He gets a baby. And I am hoping that my mental status is better this time and that I can enjoy her in the beginning just as much as he does.

eponine7682 · October 2012

I think we are going to get each other a crap load of our favorite K-Cups to survive having a NB. lol

Kay1029 · October 2012

I asked for him to NOT get me a push present. He's all about getting me gifts for any reason at all. But I actually asked him not to get me one for this. As for getting something special for DH I'm giving him a "hospital survival bag" filled with things for him to do at the hospital but no specific gift after the baby is born

drpayne · October 2012

sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby

This. Wait until after you've actually given birth to decide if he is the one who deserves a present.

mrsodonnell12 · October 2012

I got DH a Willow Tree "New Dad" figurine. I collect them, and I thought it would be special for DH.

happyasjustkim · October 2012

When DD was born, I had a baby quilt made (really for her, but I gave it to DH) out of some of his dad's shirts (his father passed away the year before we got married). He loved it and got teary eyed.

This time around, he gets to be a Daddy to his son Seriously, I haven't gotten him anything and doubt I will. I loved seeing his reaction to the blanket last time, but can't really think of anything like that again.

bearkatjen · October 2012

I comically call it a push present, but DH has asked for a pack of B sci if movies as a Christmas or Late-nights-with-Leo present. It's just something fun for him to watch when he has the late night feeding shift with the baby. He is definitely getting it.

Goldsgirl9 · October 2012

I am getting a push present and do not feel bad about it one bit.

As far as DH I want to get him something so I will get the baby something that has his favorite team on it along with the baby sling that he really wants. I honestly think he believe he will look like this since he decided he wanted it after seeing this pic, lol: (hopefully link works)

ChynaDholl · October 2012

sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby

This! He's also getting the baby named after him, even though I don't like his name which is obviously a boy, so he also gets his "basketball prot?g? lol.

chefsteph · October 2012

One day when I was lurking the Dad to Be page they were talking about this and basically all of them said they did not want a present, that the baby was enough and how silly the men thought it was. It changed my perspective.

pghctwife · October 2012

Um yeah team 'he gets a new son or daughter.' While I wont be getting a push present myself, I def think it is different for moms/dads. Yes, there is stress and whatnot for the dad too but they dont go through ANYTHING like late-term pregnancy discomfort (whcih can be prettttty bad) and L&D. And recovery.

That said, I am very thankful to be a woman and get to experience pregnancy and birth myself - even for all the pain and discomfort it is an experience I wouldnt want to trade anyone for. But it still isnt all puppies and rainbows!

JennV514 · October 2012

drpayne:
sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby
 
This.  Wait until after you've actually given birth to decide if he is the one who deserves a present.  

Drpayne is wise.

lulamagoo · October 2012

MH loves nice watches, the man loves watches like I love over priced jeans and purses.

I am getting him a new watch and having it engraved with our son's birthdate.

Nikki262 · October 2012

sbevmc09:
I'm giving him a baby

this!! Yes

this decaf life · October 2012

I didn't think I'd want anything but I would really like a necklace with her initials and I've already found some I like on Etsy. I doubt I'll give DH anything, not to sound selfish but I'm definitely doing more work than he is. My pregnancy has been very easy so his life hasn't been affected at all while I have the minor aches and pains [only to get worse in the next 11 weeks.]