Does anybody else feel like this?

christielovesnathan · October 2012

Has anybody else who had a failed match just wonder about where that baby is, how they're doing, etc? I'm still so hurt and angry over how she was taken away from us. We held her, loved her, and I was her mother for two whole days, and then her birth mother took one look at her and took her away from us. I thought I was going to be taking home our baby later that day. We have everything ready, just waiting for our baby to come and use it. I really don't know how I would handle it if this match were to fall through.

MrsMcC.10409 · October 2012

I've never been through anything that even compares to that, so I have no words of comfort. I am sending you big e-stranger hugs though.

IRR · October 2012

I am thrilled you are matched again so quickly. I pray for you this works out and then perhaps you will be able to move on from the first missed-match. I am terrified that our EP's are raping us over the coals asking for things that most would think absolutely unbelieveable and then at the end say "sorry" but thanks for all of the things you paid for us these last 6 months. It's the worst feeling in the world to think we are being scammed and I pray that this is not really going to happen.

jillianmb · October 2012

I cannot even begin to imagine what that would be like. We are doing international adoption and I felt so attached just seeing his picture, let alone actually holding him and mothering him. You are grieving and those feelings of anger are part of the grieving process. I pray this match is successful for you. ((hugs))

lafayettegirl · October 2012

I sort of understand. A BM picked us, but the agency would not give us all the info on her until after she picked. Once we started getting the info, my husband could not get on board with the potential risks and we had to turn it down. Unfortunately, I was already all in. That little boy is due next week and we would be getting ready to go to AZ to pick him up. I was heartbroken.

Not only that, but the situation gave DH such pause that he is no longer sure he can deal with any risk. Evidently despite all the warnings and information we were presented, he seemed to believe that most BMs were healthy high school cheerleaders who didn't drink, smoke or do drugs who would not want any contact after their perfectly healthy baby was born. Now, not only am I missing Baby Boy in AZ, but we're in this tense holding pattern while DH decides whether adoption is really for him.

Not the same situation, but I totally get the emotional roller coaster. Hugs!

IRR · October 2012

Layfayettegirl sending (((HUGS))). DH and I have been fighting more about this adoption thing lately too. We have 8 weeks to go and I am sure if all goes well, this will all go away, but if it doesn't I see myself becoming a banshee. Hang in there. As I have stated other times, I HATE ROLLERCOASTERS!!!

DaisyZH · October 2012

(( Hugs )) I haven't been through this and I can't imagine. Prayers for you, your first match and this new match.

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