Combined Shower?

Re: Combined Shower?

• abell77 member

  October 2012

  I would accept the offer from the first person who offered, and then politely decline the other two explaining that you've already accepted an offer.  I say this because I have been in the situation before where it's been suggested that I plan a shower along with others who wanted to be involved, and it kinda ends up being too many cooks in the kitchen, you know what I mean?  Unless the three people came to you together and said they wanted to plan it together for you, then they are already agreeing to work with one another.  Otherwise it may end up being a hassle for your friends to have to work with one another, especially when they may not share the same vision when it comes to a budget, theme, etc.

  

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• 1026pumpkin member

  October 2012

  I think you can just state what you mentioned above to your hostesses- that you have a very modest guest list and feel it would be better to have one shower than 3 separate events, but you have 3 lovely shower offers, and would they be interested in working together to just host one event.

  If you don't feel comfortable asking them that, or think they would be hesitant, I would accept the offer of the hostess you're closest to, and let the other 2 ladies know how much you appreciate their offers, but you're already having a shower on XX date, and would love for them to attend. 

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• SunAndRain member

  October 2012

  I agree with PP.  Chances are they would love to share the work and split the costs.   Good luck!

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• EastCoastBride member

  October 2012

  I would say yes to the first person and no to the other 2, BUT I would let the first know that the others offered and that they might want to help out or even co-host and then I'd tell the other 2 to contact the first host if they want to offer to help or even co-host.

  Then let them work it out.

  "Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
  ~Benjamin Franklin

  
  DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10

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• StarBe member

  October 2012

  I would decline the second 2 offers and accept the first.

   I would then tell the first person that 2 others offered to host as well so if she needs help to maybe ask them, no pressure. This puts no pressure on her to actually ask them for help and then she also doesn't have to feel uncomfortable turning your other 2 friends down if they approach her to help and she wants to do it herself. Make sense?
  

  

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• MrsBernard member

  October 2012

  Thanks everyone!

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