Well, China's out.

ellekae · October 2012

We didn't qualify, based on the net worth requirement. Too much education debt... Bleh.

What's next for us? No idea. We have a meeting with an agency rep tomorrow to discuss other options.

Full details in the blog.

Allie-Jo · October 2012

BOO!!! Was it a large amount? Something that could potentially change during the time it would take you to get ready? Is fundraising an option?

Hopefully you find something that will work out for you!

Foster1Mom · October 2012

DaisyZH · October 2012

I'm sorry, the adoption process can be filled with so many twists and turns. I read your blog and I really do relate to the frustration of thinking you have found the right path and then realizing it's not for you.

(( Hugs )) prayers for you and your DH as you work everything out, and even though it seems like God is silent (from your blog : ) I like a saying I read a while back, which is "if God leads you to it He will lead you through it". A lot of times I have to let go and not rely on my understanding of things but to be patient that things will happen, just not necessarily on my timetable/expectations. That happened for us as we slowly changed from domestic infant to foster adopt, and again when we disagreed on when to start the process.

Anyway I'm rambling, but I'm really sorry about the China program not working out.

srmmm09 · October 2012

I know this is TOTALLY left field, but I know there's a relatively new program with India that's fast-tracked for HIV+ orphans. Don't know if that would interest you, but that's what we would have done if we were close to being 30.

missred75 · October 2012

I'm sorry, hun. ::hugs::

silliestbunny · October 2012

I am sorry for this road block... Loved reading your post and I can relate to the frustration of not knowing "where your baby is"... it's tough. Hang in there and keep searching (and keep your faith!).

MrsMcC.10409 · October 2012

I'm sorry you've hit another road block. And I'm sorry that in the midst of all of this is the added stress of not having a clear direction on how to proceed. I've had a lot of the same feelings lately. I'm not mad at God for the IF, but I'm starting get a little pissy that He's keeping so many secrets. I keep saying that I will jump through whatever flaming hoop He wants me to, but He needs to give me a hint on which one it is, because it seems like I'm jumping through every one but the right one at present! I hope you feel a conviction soon, and I hope it turns into your happy ending. Many prayers to you!

christielovesnathan · October 2012

I'm so sorry!

jillianmb · October 2012

You probably already considered this, but do your life insurance policies contribute to your net worth? Ours counted for our adoption court papers and make our net worth look a lot higher than it would have otherwise.

ellekae · October 2012

Thanks, everyone! I know I was a bit of a downer today... I am so glad that you guys are out there to listen and understand. My friends have no idea what this process is like!

srmmm09:
I know this is TOTALLY left field, but I know there's a relatively new program with India that's fast-tracked for HIV+ orphans. Don't know if that would interest you, but that's what we would have done if we were close to being 30.

Our agency doesn't do adoptions from India anymore, but I'll look into this. Thanks!

jillianmb:
You probably already considered this, but do your life insurance policies contribute to your net worth? Ours counted for our adoption court papers and make our net worth look a lot higher than it would have otherwise.

I wish. We have term life, which has no face value and builds no cash value. And death benefits don't count (as far as I know). But it is something I'll ask the rep tomorrow.

Bellaredhead · October 2012

I'm sorry that you got rejected, Ellekae. That is really sad. Have you considered Guatemala? There is not a long wait for boys and you only have to make 25000/year to qualify. There are always options! My DH and I are considering that if we decide not to foster to adopt from the states.

ellekae · October 2012

Thanks, Bella. We'll check it out.

SoSweet06 · October 2012

Just for the reference--Guatemala is closed to U.S. international adoptions and has been for quite a while (and most likely will be for quite a long time).

I'm not sure if you were looking into the traditional China program or special needs program...the special needs program *frequently* makes allowances for the financial side of things. I wish they would make the same allowances for age!

Edit to Add: I just looked at your blog and saw that you were open to the special needs program. You mentioned checking out China adoption blogs--maybe ask someone who has adopted a child from the SN program about the financial side of things? I know of a couple of people who have adopted children with SN from China and have not met the financial requirements, so I know it's possible. It might vary from agency to agency...

ellekae · October 2012

Thanks for your reply, SoSweet. We just spoke to our social worker this afternoon. She seems pretty confident that we can figure out a way to qualify. Otherwise, she recommended that we wait a year or two to save up and then adopt an older child.

I was just reading that sometimes waivers are granted in special needs situations, but that seems to usually been for specific waiting children. I am definitely going to ask though.

Bellaredhead · October 2012

Oh you're right! My friends adopted from there five years ago and I think they were one of the last to adopt from there. Sorry for the misinfo!

MommaT357 · October 2012

We are in the process of adopting from China. Our renters insurance policy covers a certain amount and we were able to include that amount in our worth. HTH

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