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Somtimes what people say can really hurt! ***pg and baby mentioned***

 I think I just need to stay off of facebook. I blocked my pregnant friends, but one had her baby today and her husband (who never posts anything) posted pics of their baby that was born today. The same girl that got mad at me for not going to her baby shower and hasn't talked to me since, even when I reached out to her... So, then i see my other pregnant friend wrote on the picture and said "I'm so happy to see all my friends who are having babies today and are due soon. I'm so glad I'm pregnant again or all the newborns would make my baby fever so bad it would kill me."

 The girl who said that is 8 weeks pregnant, and has a 7 month old baby. 

 I was so upset by what she said. I was so close to writing "Yeah, well imagine how it feels to see all the babies and have lost yours and not be able to just have one when you want to."

 The only reason I restrained myself was to not ruin the "happiness" of the couple that just had the baby when they see that.

 I'm so glad that I'm no longer this naive and would NEVER say something like that publicly not knowing who I'm hurting.

 Sorry for the vent ladies. I've just had such a bad day... I've been crying/overwhelmed while trying not to show it at work. I'm glad I can come on here and know you all understand how I feel.

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Re: Somtimes what people say can really hurt! ***pg and baby mentioned***

  • Some days, FB can really really be too much.  Sorry you had to see that.  (hugs)
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  • imageKikiCohen:
    Some days, FB can really really be too much.  Sorry you had to see that.  (hugs)
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  • FB really does suck sometimes...Big (((Hugs))) hunny

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     I think I just need to stay off of facebook. I blocked my pregnant friends, but one had her baby today and her husband (who never posts anything) posted pics of their baby that was born today. The same girl that got mad at me for not going to her baby shower and hasn't talked to me since, even when I reached out to her... So, then i see my other pregnant friend wrote on the picture and said "I'm so happy to see all my friends who are having babies today and are due soon. I'm so glad I'm pregnant again or all the newborns would make my baby fever so bad it would kill me."

     The girl who said that is 8 weeks pregnant, and has a 7 month old baby. 

     I was so upset by what she said. I was so close to writing "Yeah, well imagine how it feels to see all the babies and have lost yours and not be able to just have one when you want to."

     The only reason I restrained myself was to not ruin the "happiness" of the couple that just had the baby when they see that.

     I'm so glad that I'm no longer this naive and would NEVER say something like that publicly not knowing who I'm hurting.

     Sorry for the vent ladies. I've just had such a bad day... I've been crying/overwhelmed while trying not to show it at work. I'm glad I can come on here and know you all understand how I feel.

      Love you guys! 

    to the bolded Indifferent. seriously?! oh. my. goodness. I'm sorry people are dumb. (((hugs)))

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  • FB really does suck sometimes. Sad

    That friend seems a little crazy. She has a 7 month old and wouldn't be able to handle newborn pics b/c of her baby fever? Hmm

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  • Im in the same situation right now and today is not a good day.

    People are so insensitive. Ugh 

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  • Thanks for all the support guys! I just needed some hugs. I know we all have stupid people like this we have to deal with and it's one part of TTCAL that totally sucks.

     Looking forward to getting home from work and having time to catch up on today's posts!

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  • Wow! I am sorry you had to deal with that. And to the girl that is 8 weeks pregnant and has a 7 month old....baby fever? Seriously? Ugh. (((hugs)))

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  • I am so sorry. Some people are so insensitive. They have no idea who they are hurting. Venting is ok, we all need it.
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  • (((hugs))) Sorry you're having a bad day hon!

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  • Sometimes FB can't be a horrible thing. I'm so sorry you're having a rough day. Hope it gets better!

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  • ...and here I was thinking I was the only one dealing with this.  :( People are so insensitive!
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  • You're not alone! I have seen more newborn and baby pictures from friends on FB. I'm truly happy for them, but sometimes I feel hurt inside too. Of course I'm super jealous!

  • I'm sorry ((hugs)) FB can be really horrible sometimes. Try and take a break and do something relaxing for yourself tonight.


  • FB can be so rough. I have considered giving it a break. In the 4 weeks since my D & C, 3 friends have announced that they're pg. One of them announced at only 4 weeks along (wtf), and one of them is having twins. I'm trying to stay away from FB for now. It's so hard to be excited for them right now.
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  • Ugh....I know what you mean...I take breaks at times..sometimes its just too much. Glad I can have a place like this board to go to.
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  • Ugh. What a rough day. I hate FB most of the time!

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  • Ugh! Sorry you saw that. fb sucks when it comes to that. In the past two days, 4 people have announced their pregnancies. Just sad when it is supposed to be you announcing! 

    ((Hugs))! 

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  • I'm so sorry. I hate FB lately for exactly this reason. Today I was blindsided by an 8-week u/s pic and thought, "awesome, another person to hide from my newsfeed." I don't know why I even bother with FB anymore. ((HUGS))
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