Too much Stress and Late O

AprilDrew04 · October 2012

I obviously have been under a lot of stress with all that is going on with DH. We meet with the neurologist tomorrow to find out what he wants to do as far as maybe change meds and further testing.

I have been doing OPK's and so far negative. Currently on CD 18 and last month I got my +opk on cd 16. Not too late, but making me anxious. When my Aunt passed away in May, my cycle was an extra week long and I o'd late. So thinking the stress is throwing off my cycle, even though I took clomid.

I told DH on Friday that we would most likely need to do IUI on Monday, based on last cycle stats. He pretty much said that wouldn't work with his schedule. Then Sunday as we were headed to Church we were arguing and he made the comment that we already discussed not doing the IUI this month. I got more upset, because it wasn't a discussion, it was him saying no. He just doesn't understand how hard this is. I already took the meds, even though I probably shouldn't have, and hate that I went through being overly emotional and psycho for nothing. In my defense, at the time the doctors made it sound like he would just get on some meds and be fine. He said we could just try again next month. Yeah right like I am doing this again. I am waiting until I know for sure, or as sure as I can be, that he is back to some semblance of normal. That could be months. He just doesn't understand...I was preparing myself for a big break, but was hoping for this "last" shot at it.

I understand that this makes me seem selfish, and I probably am. I just hate giving up after doing half the steps to maybe have a successful cycle. I'm still testing...partly so I can do the progesterone test to see how I reacted to the increased clomid dose, and partly in hopes that I can change his mind. Not sure if I will even bring it up or not. Do I hold out the hope that he'll change his mind, or should I let it go and move on?

My only solace is prayer. I pray for God to answer my prayers, and for help in accepting His plan for us. Continued prayers are welcome...life is just really getting to me emotionally.

AprilDrew04 · October 2012

Sorry this post is so long. Thanks to those who read it all.

SigmundsGirl · October 2012

Saying lots of prayers for you, April. I understand how disappointed you are and how medicated cycles really put you through a lot emotionally and physically.

As for what you should do, all I can say is what I would do. Personally, we had a really hard first few months with DS (he had horrible reflux and cried all the time and never slept) and I know that you both have to be in the right mind/place to be able to handle that. If we aren't both on board with a cycle, we don't go through with it. We talk about it every single month.

I'm sure your DH is also concerned about his health and what that means long term for himself and as for his role as a husband and father. I'm sure it is hard for him to also rely on you to drive him places. That can really take a toll on you when you can't do something for yourself.

If you don't go through with it at least you can monitor how you respond to the increase in Clomid.

HUGS!

Lauren79 · October 2012

My heart breaks that you are going through all of this. I know you are going through a lot with your DH and his health issues. I do know as do all of us how bad you want another baby. I personally would talk to him about how important this is for you and see if you can come to a compromise and finish this cycle and then take your break.

xo

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