I want a 3rd... Too soon?

MyBeanieBaby · October 2012

So my youngest is barely 2 months old... and I'm already thinking of a 3rd.

I told myself I HAVE to have three and break the curse of only having two in the family. Everyone in my family only has two children each... like seriously? It's like an unspoken rule.. it's really weird.

I love children. The thought of having a large, tight knit family really excites me.

To me, my family is extremely boring... it's just blahh.

I think it would be alot of fun to have a big family. There would always be things going on.

And the more kids I have... the more grandchildren in the future.. WOOO!!! LOL! :P

I know 3 isn't a huge family.. but it beats only having 2.

And who knows... I may end up with 4... I would never go past 5 though.

wow... 5... that sounds nuts! My mom would have a heart attack! haha! I probably shouldn't laugh about that. I just think it would be hilarious.

And to me nothing is more interesting than watching your child grow up into a little person.

So who's going for a third? Reasons?

Who has 3 or more? Share what your life is like! I wanna know.

caymanbride · October 2012

My 3rd is 2 months old, and we love having her

For me, I actually think 3 has been the easiest adjustment because my boys (who are 4 and 2) play together really well, and entertain each other, which leaves me plenty of time to tend to the baby, snuggle with her, etc...

I always knew I wanted at least 3. We may have one more, but we won't decide one way or the other for at least 2 years, per my OB because I've had all c/s's.

Good Luck! I would definitely say go for it if it's what you want!

lemon.sarie · October 2012

My third is 3 months old now, and it has been an easy adjustment. I think our plans are to wait a bit longer before having another baby (just to spend some time with the 3, DD3 wasn't planned to be this soon!), but we'll definitely have more. It does seem like they grow up alot faster the more we have!

morgs8384 · October 2012

No third here yet... and even though my youngest is about the same age as yours, I am okay... for now. I DO want a third.. and maybe a fourth... but I need at least two years before having another. I really just want to enjoy these two and learn how to venture out and do things as a mommy of more then one.

Irisheyes1247 · October 2012

We think we'll start trying next summer. I need a little break, I'm still nursing #2 now and I've been pregnant or nursing for the better part of 3 years now. I am one of two, but both my parents are one of 5 and we're a close family, so I have always loved having the big family around and it makes me sad that as we get older, we lose that and my kids may not have that around them. Five was always my idea of "just right" but we're taking it one at a time.

michelle04us · October 2012

My 3rd will be 4 months on Fri. and I'm expecting #4 in May 2013. We did not plan this LO. Was a complete surprise. Now having said that we were going to start trying at 6 month pp. We want our children close in age. Our older 2 are step-siblings and are about 2 1/2 years apart. Now not growing up together has some effect on them not getting along too well and well as the older being a pre-teen girl. We just wanted our 2 youngest to be closer in age than that. After this one we will be stopping just because this will be my 3rd c-section especially only 11 months after my 2nd c-section.

jf198400 · October 2012

DH and I have always wanted 4. He is one of 4 and loves his big family. I only had one sibling and think it would be really nice to have a bigger family. Right now my kids are 2yrs and 7months. I love how close in age they are so they can play together. But it is a handful especially with both of us working FT. So I'd like to wait 2-3 years before we have another. Also kids are expensive haha. And I feel like my body needs a break since I've also been pregnant and/or nursing for 3yrs. If we had another baby sooner, I'm sure it would be fine, but I'd definitely prefer to wait a bit.

MammaBear81 · October 2012

My 3rd actually just turned 4 years old *sniff*, #4 is 2 3/4 and #5 is 16 months old. At 2 months PP I was not thinking about having another, around 6 months I generally was contemplating the idea, by 9 months I was ready to go (if I wasn't already pregnant by then!). We have always wanted a big family, DH is 1 of 4 and loved his family, I was 1 of 2, and feel the same way you do "my family was boring". I always wanted more brothers/sisters and my family has the same unspoken rule of 2 kids as well, just remember, it's your family, not theirs, GL

BrittKav · October 2012

I'm pregnant with my 3rd, we plan on having 4. I come from a family of 6 kids and DH is the youngest of 4, so we're used to big families.

sweetpea2003 · October 2012

I'll be honest, you sound a tad manic in the OP. Settle down a bit... your baby is not even 2 months old. You really haven't even dipped your baby toe into the world of 2 kids yet (and, for me, the newborn phase was not the hardest part). You say your family is "boring", but you barely have even gotten to know the world of two kids yet.

To answer your question - yes - we are considering a 3rd. For us, we weren't ready to do the less than 2 years apart thing again. Now that our youngest is almost 2, we are starting to think about it. My husband is 100% ready. I am not yet. I still have an IUD and am thinking I might be ready to TTC next summer or so.

That being said, our decision has absolutely nothing to do with what the rest of our family does. This decision is between my DH and I only.

MyBeanieBaby · October 2012

sweetpea2003:

I'll be honest, you sound a tad manic in the OP. Settle down a bit... your baby is not even 2 months old. You really haven't even dipped your baby toe into the world of 2 kids yet (and, for me, the newborn phase was not the hardest part). You say your family is "boring", but you barely have even gotten to know the world of two kids yet.

To answer your question - yes - we are considering a 3rd. For us, we weren't ready to do the less than 2 years apart thing again. Now that our youngest is almost 2, we are starting to think about it. My husband is 100% ready. I am not yet. I still have an IUD and am thinking I might be ready to TTC next summer or so.

That being said, our decision has absolutely nothing to do with what the rest of our family does. This decision is between my DH and I only.

I'm not meaning my Family as being boring. Me, OH, and my two. I meant my family as a whole. My family is soo small that the only people I come in contact with. Is my brother, mother, father, and grandmother. Other than that I talk to two cousins on facebook. That's what I meant as boring. It's so small no one really talks to anyone.

And I'm THINKING of a third and getting excited by the idea. Not saying I'm going to jump right in there and have another. It takes planning. And I do want to enjoy my 2nd's babyhood.

Anyone thinking of having 3 or more kids have to be a little Manic anyway.. so I guess I fit in. Lol.

kcisthebombdotcom · October 2012

I may have you mixed up with another poster, but didn't you come on here and tell us you were regretting 2u2 and having a difficult time with it very recently? Your hormones may be really out of whack right now. I would wait another year at least before making a decision about more children. You don't have to decide on a third tomorrow. Adjust and enjoy the two kids you have.

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shopgirl78 · October 2012

Yes, too soon!!! Three kids, each 2 years apart kicked my arse in the beginning. (My second child was a PITA at 2 years--a runner). It was so hard. Also now, sometimes, I wish DD (my ONLY daughter) didn't grow so fast. Sometimes, I think to myself, "Did I miss her at 3-4-5 years old?" I was so busy with her brothers and she just seemed to age so fast. Three is our limit in a lot of ways but sometimes I get pangs for a 4th. We are in a good place now and things are getting so much easier. Once, your oldest starts going to school...life starts getting way busier and dragging LOs around with that is a whole new crazy choas at times....

stop and smell the roses some...

vanessaNOV2 · October 2012

Yeppers, our 3rd is now 1 month. Our two and three year old LOVE him. No jealously issue at all. They try calming him when he cries and want to hold him all the time. It does get stressful when 2 or all of them are crying at same time.

I think going from 2 to 3 kids was much easier then going from one to two kids.

Not going for a fourth, i hate being pregnant and csections scare me. But i do have a friend who is pregnant with her sixth baby and her oldest is just seven years old, i cant imagine, but she LOVES them. Btw they are all boys!

melaniedel · October 2012

I'm starting to think about it now, and still prego with number 2. It's more for family planning purposes. I want to go back for a second degree so figuring out the timing with my age, etc. Also do not want them TOO spread out. I have five brothers and sisters and just can't imagine my DS's just having one so would love to add another to our family. Plus not going to lie, I'd love a DD one day, but if it's another DS... awesome!

We'll probably try again when DS2 is 2 years, 3 months and I'm finishing up my program, I'm a planner! lol

VABride2008 · October 2012

I want a 3rd but my husband doesn't right now. Sad

diana.filipi · October 2012

I'm expecting number 3 (and possibly 4, won't know 'till the u/s) in June. That will give me 3 under 4 (or 4u4). We are very excited about it. We cannot have any more after this unless it's a miracle baby as they've all been IVF babies.

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