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mommasqueak
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the blame game
mommasqueak
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LO rolled off the bed, face first into a pile of blankets a few days ago, scared the crap out of us, but she was fine, the fall scared her more than anything. some how she rolled over a pillow, and went from head first to feet first on the way down. it was my fault, i literally turned away for a second to grab a bra to put on, and all of a sudden i hear a thud, and before she even started crying, i had scooped her up into my arms. hubby was in the room, but on the phone.
no blame was placed anywhere. it was an accident, and i really feel it was my fault. now that she is rolling everywhere, i should have been more attentive.
well this morning, i came back into the room, hubby on the bed, munching a sandwich. i had to pee, so i laid her down, in front of him, and told him to watch her for a moment, while i used the bathroom. while in there it seemed like i had to do more, so i came back out to let him know, and all i hear is her screaming. and i walk in to see him picking her off the floor. i snatched her out of his hands and cradled my LO.
after she has calmed down, we start to talk about what happened, since i wasn't in the room. and he starts blaming me, that i had put her too close to the edge, and that he heard me telling him to watch her, but where the heck did i go? and that i should have known he was still half asleep, and in no position to watch her.
i am still stunned. i never even tried to blame him last time. and i didn't even try to blame him this time. it was an accident, and both of us should had known better. but somehow it's my fault. even tho he admitted to hearing me ask him to watch her.
now he is in the living room because he needs 'time alone'.
i am not trying to say either of us is in the right, i just don't think anyone is to blame for an accident that both of us could have avoided.
by the way, she is fine, a little cry and a suckle later, and she is a perfect angel again.
EDIT: he has since apologized, but it was just like 'what?' i guess take it as a learning experience. and not let it happen again.
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Re: the blame game
we are normally ok with it, if there is someone within reaching distance, which he was. apparently it isn't ok anymore.
if i were alone, she would have gone into her car seat and with me into the bathroom.
This sucks! Sorry! Our DS isn't rolling yet and I'm scared to death of this happening.
I'm curious why you'd put LO in a car seat? Don't you have a bouncer, jumper, excersauser, activity mat, blanket on the floor to put them in while doing stuff around the house?
she seems to get fussy if i leave her alone, if i am alone, i will put her in her car seat for bathroom breaks, and if i need to shower. that ways she can see mommie, and i know she is safe.
Ah, ok. I just move our bouncer from room to room and put lo in it while i'm showering, using the restroom, etc so he can see me.
her car seat is a bit more mobile than her jumper! LOL she does have her jumper, which she loves, the car seat just fits our tiny bathroom better! :P
First time parents (so are we). You are bound to make mistakes. Thankfully no serious consequences.
Just give each other a hug and agree to come up with a new game plan.
Bouncers work great. I can carry DD with one arm and the bouncer easily in the other. I'm even guilty of not clipping DD in if I'm going to be 30 seconds. At least if she slides out she only goes 6 inches. (But I need to be more diligent now that she is getting older...)
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