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April 2012 Moms
Dreading November
My horrible ILs are coming. What makes them horrible?
When DD was born my MIL came without her weird husband because let's face it, he's annoying and I didn't want to be uncomfortable whipping out the boob as a FTM. That didn't go over well, but our house, our rules. Not only did MIL not follow our rules, but went behind our backs to break the rules on purpose. Her reasoning was, it's her grandchild and she doesn't get much time with her. They live out of state- thank goodness! While she was here she insisted on waking the baby to Skype with annoying husband, she would hog the baby from me, and the worst...she wanted to take naked pictures of my baby to show her husband what she looked like. Uhh...no way! Are you nuts?!? She thought I was crazy. After that visit we agreed that DD will never be left in their care. If you break our trust, that's it.
fast forward... I Skype with MIL a few times a month in hopes she won't come to visit that often. So far, so good. Well, they are coming next month and instead of talking to me about it, she asks DH if they can babysit while they are here. He told her "we'll see." I think he should have said no. I don't care of I have to throw a fit, they will never have her alone. DH and I have already discussed keeping her in our room for sleeping instead of her room because we can't trust them to leave her alone. We've also talked about changing her in our room instead of the nursery so they can't follow me and take snapshots of naked baby. I just haven't figured out baths because I bathe her in the kitchen sink.
They've done some pretty weird and untrustworthy things before and I don't trust them with DD without me there. Would you allow them to babysit? I'm trying to get DH to tell them since he works too much, he wants to stay home with his baby instead of going out on a date with me. Honestly, if we wanted a date, we'd call my parents who live 20 min away. MIL just wants alone time with the baby. I say no. What do you say?
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Re: Dreading November
she seems creepy. I wouldn't leave them alone.
About the baths, before they get there can you try to give LO a shower with one of you- that's what we do and it's so easy. Then, once they are here just do that for the few days.
Yep, blame it on being "an over-protective mom", they'll talk smack, but sounds like you don't care what they think anyway!
I'm going to shower with her in the bathroom. Currently, I put her in the RNP, give her a few toys, and enjoy my shower. Sometimes I time it so she'll fall asleep while I'm showering and then I have time to put makeup on and blow dry my hair.
How do you shower with a baby? Like logistically? I can't figure it out. : My other idea is to just wash her head everyday in the sink. She wears a helmet so I have to keep it clean. I've mastered the head wash with clothes on. Then I can just wipey bathe her for a few days. I'm also thinking of running her over to my parents and bathing her there. I know it's drastic but I need plans.
Always trust your gut, mama. If something doesn't feel right to you then it probably isn't. You are your lo's first line of defense so if someone...anyone...gets bent about your rules that's too bad. They'll get over it and if they don't, that ok too. So be it.
Micah Leonard