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Well that just sucked.

danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member
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Our plumbing just tanked (pun intended) in our upstairs bathroom. Overflowing toilet that dripped through the floor down to the pantry below (soiling a TON of pans/dishes that now need to be sterilized) and into the basement.

I love MH but since we've been married he's lost all practical know-how. For some reason, he didn't think to use the plunger, which would have eliminated 2/3 of the water that overflowed. Stupid old plumbing and stupid old 5 gallon toilet. So much for being able to actually have some of my paycheck left over for savings/rainy days. *sigh* Now we're going to have to buy a new toilet and pay the plumber..

Even worse, however, is that MH now feels totally useless. He keeps walking around saying he's "a screw up" and acting like it's the end of the world. He is really getting nervous about being a quality father and this is not helping. It doesn't help that I swooped in and saved the day with the plunger that was 6 inches away from him. Silly man.

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                           Me:39  MH:39 
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TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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Re: Well that just sucked.

  • steverstever member
    Yuck! And your poor H. I hope he knows that you don't have to have the skills of a plumber to be a good dad.

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member
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    Yikes! I am so sorry. That's awful. 

    It does sound like a good time to start overtly depending on your DH for things though. He needs to be reminded that you need him, want him, and love him. 

    Redemption! I did the happiest dance I know when he announced what he had planned for dinner-- bacon cheeseburgers! Then, in case that wasn't enough (I have a sick love affair with bacon and with melted cheese), he showed me that he had brought mocha chip ice cream home from our favourite local, all-natural ice cream joint! So he got a SECOND happy dance.

    And I made a point of playing up how well he takes care of me now that I'm so persnickety with my m/s, my fatigue, my inability to clean the cat litter, etc. He's such a good husband...

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                               Me:39  MH:39 
    DD born 6/1/2013 after 15 months of TTC with one loss.    
    TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

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  • danuli8danuli8 member

    Well played, Daniele, well played. Yes You are wily.

    ETA: It's actually wily. Oops.

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  • Tigger & poohTigger & pooh member
    We had the same thing happen just the other night! It even ran into our pantry too! My dh screams to from upstairs for towels as he stands next to the linen closet watching the water gush out! Crazy men!
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  • dbadura01dbadura01 member

    I know exactly how you feel!  My husband is not very handy and I feel like I have to do most of the "man's work" around the house in addition to the cooking and mending.  Sometimes I feel bad that I'm making him feel useless when I just take care of things that he hasn't, but I can't stand letting things sit around undone.  So, when he helps clean or when he mows I always comment about how great he is and how much help he is.

     

     

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  • danieleandwaynedanieleandwayne member

    I am very lucky in that MH likes to vacuum-- especially since we got our Miele vacuum after our wedding.

    And he has to do the mowing because of my allergies. He's so helpful around the house-- he is starting to learn how to cook a few meals and he's AWESOME on the grill. He does most of the dishes, though-- with my broken neck, it is hard to stand at that sink and wash the pans (and I use a ton when I bake!). 

    I make a huge deal of whatever he does and I try to be really quick about putting away the dishes that he washes as a way of showing my appreciation. And when my mom asked me what we wanted as a house-warming gift, I asked for a dishwasher so that Wayne didn't have to wash ALL the dishes himself, just the pans. 

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    "You have to do your own growing no matter how tall your grandfather was." 
            -- Abraham Lincoln
     

                               Me:39  MH:39 
    DD born 6/1/2013 after 15 months of TTC with one loss.    
    TTC #2: BFP 4/22 but stalled growth and no HB at 9w3d on 5/30        

    <a href="http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/3a2798" style="font-size:smaller;" >
    <br /> My Ovulation Chart</a>
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