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My doctor's office made me cry

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I had to go to my doctor's office today because I thought I might have a UTI (yep, yay me) and they were so incredibly sweet. It was hard enough being there not pregnant but to tell that they felt so bad for me was very touching. 

Next week is my post-partum appointment so hopefully it will not be as bad as today was.  


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Re: My doctor's office made me cry

  • OSUWifey09OSUWifey09 member

    I had the same experience when I went in for my PP a few weeks ago. The whole office knew, so they were extra sweet, and my OB was so upset when he saw me for the first time. The entire loss process happened in my hometown, which is 2.5 hours away from where I live - so I hadn't seen my OB since before my loss. It made me feel better that they were so great, but it also still made me cry.

    I hope your PP goes well [and that your UTI clears up, blah]. *hugs*

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  • starburst0928starburst0928

    My PP visit isn't until Nov 7th but I had to go back yesterday because I was having minor complications. I couldn't actually see my OB because she was full but the other doc knew about me... I ended up seeing my OB in the hall and sort of broke down because all my not so distant memories came flooding back. Ugh. The whole rest of the night I couldn't pull myself together.

    I'm glad you had a good experience. There is a fine line between pity and sincere caring... I wonder what it'll be like for all us to go back when we're pregnant again.

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  • pb127pb127 member
    ((Hugs)) if there is any concern/anxiety about going to the office for the PP visit, I wouldn't hesitate to call ahead and ask them to take you to a room right away. Many of us have done this for our appts. Im glad they were so sweet today and GL next week.
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  • alyson523alyson523

    I've been back to my office several times since I lost Callan.  I actually delivered him there (surprise!!!) and I feel so awful that the reason they all know me is because of that day.  I know that I'm wrong in thinking that I've "scarred" them, but still...

    I brought flowers in 5 days after it happened, as a "thank you for your amazing care" and as I walked into the building, I could feel myself start to crumble.  By the time I got upstairs and to the desk, all I could do was stand there and cry.  The poor girls behind the desk didn't know what to do Sad and I was finally whisked away to see my dr (who I didn't have an appointment with)...

    I know the office staff doesn't generally get to deal with all the happy baby stuff and may not get to deal with all the sad baby stuff, but I have to say, it takes some pretty amazing people to do what they do.  

    I went almost 2 weeks ago for the rest of my testing - it took me almost 6 months to go back, and it was just as hard to go then as it was those 5 days after losing Callan.  Sitting in that office with all those pregnant women, it was like a 20 minute slap in the face...

    I never thought to call and ask them to put me in a room right away, but I would recommend doing that if you think it will be hard to sit in the waiting room.  

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  • buggirl72buggirl72 member
    imagealyson523:

    I've been back to my office several times since I lost Callan.  I actually delivered him there (surprise!!!) and I feel so awful that the reason they all know me is because of that day.  I know that I'm wrong in thinking that I've "scarred" them, but still...

    I brought flowers in 5 days after it happened, as a "thank you for your amazing care" and as I walked into the building, I could feel myself start to crumble.  By the time I got upstairs and to the desk, all I could do was stand there and cry.  The poor girls behind the desk didn't know what to do Sad and I was finally whisked away to see my dr (who I didn't have an appointment with)...

    I know the office staff doesn't generally get to deal with all the happy baby stuff and may not get to deal with all the sad baby stuff, but I have to say, it takes some pretty amazing people to do what they do.  

    I went almost 2 weeks ago for the rest of my testing - it took me almost 6 months to go back, and it was just as hard to go then as it was those 5 days after losing Callan.  Sitting in that office with all those pregnant women, it was like a 20 minute slap in the face...

    I never thought to call and ask them to put me in a room right away, but I would recommend doing that if you think it will be hard to sit in the waiting room.  

    xoxo

    They have been wonderful about bringing straight into the back if i need it. Definitely call your office the next time you have to go if you think it will be an issue. Some other posters have also requested to have the first or last appointment of the day to avoid seeing people.

    The hurt that the staff felt combined with how caring they have been was one of the things that got me (along with memories of the appointments there). I can't imagine what it was like for you ((hugs)). 


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