Monday Moans

namara5532 · October 2012

Haven't done this thread in a while, but someone requested a thread to complain about DH. Enjoy.

I just got back from a trip with just me and DS 3 1/2 hours away (which took us 4 1/2 hours each way). On top of that, I'm on my period. So I'm pretty tired when I get back. DH had a D&D session scheduled on Sunday, so I just went over to my brother's as soon as I got into town (I often hang out with DH and my brother while they tabletop). While DH is good about holding DS for a while while they game, I had to beg him to take a break to help me with the bedtime routine. Not to mention all of DS's cloth diapers and bedtime routine stuff are in the car, and there's no way I could've gotten all the stuff in and left DS in the carseat in the house without a meltdown. I can tell he was a little put off by me asking him to take a break in the middle of his tabletop game, but he was helpful enough where I resisted the urge to punch him.

Then I got out a cute clock I swiped from my parents' attic on our trip. It lights up and has glowing blue glitter that swirls around for the clock face. Well turns out it got broken in the years its been in storage, and the glitter doesn't swirl around like it should. After DS got into bed (and DH went back to his game), I disected the clock to try to fix it. When I concede that the glitter part is unfixable, I come up with a crafty idea to replace the glitter part with a craft I had done recently (https://pinterest.com/pin/164733298841246150/) with his hand. I mount it on some cardboard and install it, but the hands had gotten bent and made them overlap when they tried to pass each other. I fix that and spend an hour trying to reassemble the clock such that the hands don't get stuck on the outer glass. I was frustrated but too determined to go to bed.

So this morning I'm a little sleep deprived, but the clock didn't catch on itself all night. I mount it, and the second hand got caught and wouldn't move. With some nugding and rearranging, I finally have the stupid clock hanging (and working) in DS's room. I step back... and the clock has been set an hour slow. >.<; At least daylight saving's time is soon, right?

wychets · October 2012

My cycle has returned:( I haven't had one since February (Mirena) and this one is in FULL force...on top of that I woke up this morning to take a shower and we had NO HOT WATER!! Ughhh come to find out the hot water tank has a crack and they will be replacing it today. So now I'm at work and I feel gross!! Even though I washed all my lady parts I still don't feel completely clean. Happy Monday!

bigbear · October 2012

wychets:
My cycle has returned:( I haven't had one since February (Mirena) and this one is in FULL force...on top of that I woke up this morning to take a shower and we had NO HOT WATER!! Ughhh come to find out the hot water tank has a crack and they will be replacing it today. So now I'm at work and I feel gross!! Even though I washed all my lady parts I still don't feel completely clean. Happy Monday!

LOL!!

bigbear · October 2012

I don't need to repeat all the issues I"m having with DH as I'm sure you've all caught on by now.

But the new one is that, he's going on a guy's trip this coming weekend. (leaving Sat am, coming back Sun pm) This is his first trip overnight alone since DD but he's had quite a few all day, guys only outings, that also include taking PTO. PTO he claimed he couldn't get for watching DD when she was sick so I had to go into negative for next year (34hrs so far) and I also had to go unpaid which put us in quite a tight spot. Anywayyyyy (oh oh and I have only gone on two outings so far. One was when DD was 3mos and I was gone for 2 hrs to a baby shower. The second one was just a few weeks ago and I was gone for only an hour)

We have a dog who is a total sweetheart but suffers from fear aggression. So he's really hard to control on the walks (when DH decides to take him - ANOTHER complaint here quick) So I asked DH when he scheduled the trip (in the summer!) to ask his parents if our pup can stay at their house overnight so i don't have to wrestle him and DD. Well he hadn't asked until last night. And guess what: His dad said NO. That is a total BS in itself but I'm so ticked that he's now leaving me to deal with this whole crap!

I'm just so fed up with everything. Oh and he's still deathly sick and couldn't do much of anything all weekend long. But last night, after DD was finally in bed and sound alseep, I had everything else done and at 11pm was finally in bed to get some sleep before having to get up at 5am, he decided it was time to fool around. SERIOUSLY!

OH but he sent me this cute message saying "If I had my life to live over again, next time I would find you sooner so that I could love you longer." Yes that is super cute and he used to do this kind of a thing before which I love. But now he's just trying to suck up to me. Not working!

Brit's Luna154 · October 2012

The MANFLU and baby flu that ravaged our house last week is finally gone...but now I think I'm getting sick. At least mine isn't a deadly flu like H's was.

We had two diaper blowouts before 7 AM. One in the crib and one in the pack 'n play. Naturally H left the house like five minutes before I discovered the first one. I guess the positive part of this is that I will have a load of laundry clean and waiting in the dryer when I get home from work; one less chore to do tonight.

bigbear · October 2012

Brit's Luna154:
The MANFLU and baby flu that ravaged our house last week is finally gone...but now I think I'm getting sick. At least mine isn't a deadly flu like H's was.

We had two diaper blowouts before 7 AM. One in the crib and one in the pack 'n play. Naturally H left the house like five minutes before I discovered the first one. I guess the positive part of this is that I will have a load of laundry clean and waiting in the dryer when I get home from work; one less chore to do tonight.

bigbear · October 2012

Brit's Luna154:

The MANFLU and baby flu that ravaged our house last week is finally gone...but now I think I'm getting sick. At least mine isn't a deadly flu like H's was.

We had two diaper blowouts before 7 AM. One in the crib and one in the pack 'n play. Naturally H left the house like five minutes before I discovered the first one. I guess the positive part of this is that I will have a load of laundry clean and waiting in the dryer when I get home from work; one less chore to do tonight.

I like your positive thinking and attitude!

michaelaskedlauren · October 2012

My parents like to bitchandmoan about not seeing DS enough, and then when I invite them over it turns into a big production about how busy they are yadda yadda yadda. I get how they have had 30+ years of weekends of commitments for their own kids, but you seriously cant spare an afternoon to come and visit your grandchild???!

Didnt realize that helping my brother go look at cars suddenly 'came up' when I invited you over 2 weeks ago. Color me uber annoyed.

mrs.larry · October 2012

DS2 has been sleeping like crap for the last two weeks. Saturday night was the worst yet, so last night I was determined to put him down awake and not get further into bad habits (long story short he is having trouble going to sleep on his own all of a sudden, hasn't ever really been a huge issue for him in the past.) All was going well and he was actually sleeping better... until DS1 peed in his bed (with a pull up on...) and started flipping out.

The night ended with DS1 in the big bed with me (fresh pull up and jammies and fresh sheets on his bed) DS2 in their room by himself so he could CIO if necessary, and DH on a mat in the living room. Tongue Tied

I tell you: If it's not one kid, it's the other. Or a police helicopter.

js13524 · October 2012

Ugh! Where do I begin? I think that I'm married to the only man ever who doesn't appreciate a homemade meal. I make a meal every weekday and we eat left overs on weekends. I've had him ask me before "How come you don't get meals that you can just cook in the microwave?" And this weekend he suggested that I only make 3 meals a week, just make them bigger so there will be more leftovers. What the hell? I would think that he doesn't like my cooking, but he eats so much. So I don't think that's the problem. Maybe he's just trying to be nice and help me find ways not to be so busy. But I actually like to cook! I think it's one of the few things I actually do well. I wish he could just say "Thank-you, honey, for the lovely meal!" Most of the time, I don't think he appreciates anything I do. I used to always try and put aside time to ask him how his day was and what he did at work, but he so rarely ask me how my day is or how I'm feeling. I've never heard a 'thank-you' for taking care of our kids or keeping the house clean. And about 2 months ago, we switched to cloth diapers (a decision he was totally on board with) and he hasn't changed a diaper since. Not one!! AND he keeps buying pop tarts, hot dogs, and chips for DS. I'm not totally agianst junk food, but it's not for all the time. He thinks these are things that should be in the house at all times! No, they are not!! If I never see another pop tart in my life, it'll be too soon. We've only been on two dates since DD was born! 2 in 9 months! Even before she was born, I also had to be the one to plan the dates. I picked when and where we were going to go and I would find a babysitter. If I never asked him to go on a date, we'd never go!...Well, I feel much better now!

wychets · October 2012

js13524:
Ugh! Where do I begin? I think that I'm married to the only man ever who doesn't appreciate a homemade meal. I make a meal every weekday and we eat left overs on weekends. I've had him ask me before "How come you don't get meals that you can just cook in the microwave?" And this weekend he suggested that I only make 3 meals a week, just make them bigger so there will be more leftovers. What the hell? I would think that he doesn't like my cooking, but he eats so much. So I don't think that's the problem. Maybe he's just trying to be nice and help me find ways not to be so busy. But I actually like to cook! I think it's one of the few things I actually do well. I wish he could just say "Thank-you, honey, for the lovely meal!" Most of the time, I don't think he appreciates anything I do. I used to always try and put aside time to ask him how his day was and what he did at work, but he so rarely ask me how my day is or how I'm feeling. I've never heard a 'thank-you' for taking care of our kids or keeping the house clean. And about 2 months ago, we switched to cloth diapers (a decision he was totally on board with) and he hasn't changed a diaper since. Not one!! AND he keeps buying pop tarts, hot dogs, and chips for DS. I'm not totally agianst junk food, but it's not for all the time. He thinks these are things that should be in the house at all times! No, they are not!! If I never see another pop tart in my life, it'll be too soon. We've only been on two dates since DD was born! 2 in 9 months! Even before she was born, I also had to be the one to plan the dates. I picked when and where we were going to go and I would find a babysitter. If I never asked him to go on a date, we'd never go!...Well, I feel much better now!

You can come to my house and cook, we would appreciate you lol Stick out tongue

mrs.larry · October 2012

wychets:

js13524:
Ugh! Where do I begin? I think that I'm married to the only man ever who doesn't appreciate a homemade meal. I make a meal every weekday and we eat left overs on weekends. I've had him ask me before "How come you don't get meals that you can just cook in the microwave?" And this weekend he suggested that I only make 3 meals a week, just make them bigger so there will be more leftovers. What the hell? I would think that he doesn't like my cooking, but he eats so much. So I don't think that's the problem. Maybe he's just trying to be nice and help me find ways not to be so busy. But I actually like to cook! I think it's one of the few things I actually do well. I wish he could just say "Thank-you, honey, for the lovely meal!" Most of the time, I don't think he appreciates anything I do. I used to always try and put aside time to ask him how his day was and what he did at work, but he so rarely ask me how my day is or how I'm feeling. I've never heard a 'thank-you' for taking care of our kids or keeping the house clean. And about 2 months ago, we switched to cloth diapers (a decision he was totally on board with) and he hasn't changed a diaper since. Not one!! AND he keeps buying pop tarts, hot dogs, and chips for DS. I'm not totally agianst junk food, but it's not for all the time. He thinks these are things that should be in the house at all times! No, they are not!! If I never see another pop tart in my life, it'll be too soon. We've only been on two dates since DD was born! 2 in 9 months! Even before she was born, I also had to be the one to plan the dates. I picked when and where we were going to go and I would find a babysitter. If I never asked him to go on a date, we'd never go!...Well, I feel much better now!

You can come to my house and cook, we would appreciate you lol

we would too!! Wink

-- seriously though, I read somewhere that people express love in certain ways and I definitely express love through food. I LOVE cooking a delicious meal for my family when I can. And when DH (or whoever) doesn't seem to take it as my *love* but just as another meal that could have come from anywhere, it's like I said, "I love you" and he was all, "oh, huh. yeah." or something. takes me down a peg. Don't they know they're supposed to rave!?!?

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