Anxiety about her nursery

littleredfish · October 2012

For me not the baby.

DH and I discussed a few weeks back moving DD into her room this weekend. She had her 4 month shots on Wednesday and we wanted to give her a few days since last time she had a cranky night after her 2 months shots. So we figured wait until after these were out of the way and move her.

Well now I'm panicking. To the point where I had dreams all last night involving SIDS and suffocation and even her falling out of her crib (she can't even roll let alone stand so I'm being irrational at this point, but you see what I'm saying). I'm losing it. Any moms going through this or gone through this? How do I put on my big girl panties and move her. DH wants our room back, and I thought I did too but now I'm scared. Help?

najzomax · October 2012

I'm no help but i feel your pain. I caved and moved her crib into our room now the she outgrew her bassinet. I told hubby I wasn't ready and he understood. I probably will keep her in our room for at least a few more months

tjkdlhb · October 2012

We put her crib in our room too... definitely not ready to move her! She still sometimes wakes up in the night/early morning for feedings, so it's easier to have her with us. The public health nurse recommended not moving her til six months, so we probably won't discuss it until then...

notallisonmarie22 · October 2012

We started with one crib in our bedroom and the plan was to move them to their nursery when they could no longer share a crib. Well, we have mini cribs so that came at 3 months. I freaked out so DH rearranged our entire bedroom so we could fit BOTH mini cribs in there. I agreed at that time to move them at 6 months. Now they're approaching 5 months old and I'm now looking for excuses to keep them in there past 6 months. He is losing patience with the whole thing because they are such noisy sleepers.

I seriously have no idea what the big deal is. We put them to bed around 7:30-8pm and we don't go to bed until midnight or 1am. They're in there alone all that time with just the monitor, so why is it such a big deal to put them in the nursery? It's literally right across the hall.

Honestly, for me I think it has very little to do with their safety (we have Angelcare monitors so I know they're safe) and a whole lot to do with the fact that they're growing up SO very fast. I'm having a hard time letting go of their itty bittiness. Sad

I wish I had some ideas for you. I just wanted to tell you that you're not alone. I can't seem to find my big girl panties either when it comes to this one.

tjkdlhb · October 2012

notallisonmarie22:

We started with one crib in our bedroom and the plan was to move them to their nursery when they could no longer share a crib. Well, we have mini cribs so that came at 3 months. I freaked out so DH rearranged our entire bedroom so we could fit BOTH mini cribs in there. I agreed at that time to move them at 6 months. Now they're approaching 5 months old and I'm now looking for excuses to keep them in there past 6 months. He is losing patience with the whole thing because they are such noisy sleepers.

I seriously have no idea what the big deal is. We put them to bed around 7:30-8pm and we don't go to bed until midnight or 1am. They're in there alone all that time with just the monitor, so why is it such a big deal to put them in the nursery? It's literally right across the hall.

Honestly, for me I think it has very little to do with their safety (we have Angelcare monitors so I know they're safe) and a whole lot to do with the fact that they're growing up SO very fast. I'm having a hard time letting go of their itty bittiness.

I wish I had some ideas for you. I just wanted to tell you that you're not alone. I can't seem to find my big girl panties either when it comes to this one.

This. I can't believe my baby is soon going to be 6 months old!

picklesx · October 2012

I had a lot of anxiety when we decided to move DS to his nursery. I couldn't sleep and would just stare at the monitor and go back and forth to his room just to check on him. I think that a lot of the anxiety was attributed to his apnea issues for the first two months or so. Even now I will wake up and watch the monitor to make sure that he is breathing and check on him in his room once or twice a night.

I think it is a natural anxiety for parents to have.

babyruth88 · October 2012

Ava has been in her nursery since the day we brought her home from the hospital. If we let her sleep with us i would have a problem withher moving.

littleredfish · October 2012

babyruth88:
Ava has been in her nursery since the day we brought her home from the hospital. If we let her sleep with us i would have a problem withher moving.

I almost half wish we had done this. My mother told me I should because we would "sleep better" since newborns are such noisy sleepers. I got used to the noise and now that she sleeps great there are no issues with me getting sleep, but I wouldn't be dealing with this now.

I think DH is just pushing for it now because I am the type of person who doesn't do so well with change. We both know the longer she stays with us, the harder it will be for me to move her. That's really the only reason he's apprehensive of waiting until 6 months. If I had it my way I'm sure there would be a toddler bed in our room eventually :P

babyruth88 · October 2012

Lol i would be the same way hahaha. Thats why my husband begged me to go straight to the crib. Im like sucha kid when she makes her first sounds in the morning im so anxious to go.pick her up lol ijust miss her so much though. If she slept in our room it would lead to no sleep for me hahh.

bellelamb · October 2012

You'll be glad when you do. It's nice to have your room back and have some alone time with dh.

cltk12 · October 2012

I had MAJOR anxiety. I was so worried (still am) about SIDS and a robber breaking in and stealing ds in the middle of the night and us not hearing (crazy right!).

At 3 months all the other moms in my mommy group had moved their babies to the crib so I felt like we had to. That night I did and DID NOT sleep. I was in and out of his room every 5 mins checking on him and watching the monitor like a hawk. Finally at 2am I brought him back in our room and feel right asleep.

A few weeks later I was really tired and wasn't sleeping well because I kept waking up from every move lo made. I went to bed early and DH stayed up with ds and put him in his crib that might. I slept sooooo well. Ds is still doing 2 feelings a night so DH gets him and takes him back. Since he initiated the crib. We ALL sleep better.

I still freak and get nervous. I am so paranoid someone is going to take him still (too many lifetime movies maybe).

Last week we had guests stay over one night and put ds in our room so we could get to him fast when he cried to not wake up our guests and I ended up not sleeping. Ds moves a lot now and squeaks so it is better he's in his own room.

So it's totally normal.

littleredfish · October 2012

Well DH is taking her crib apart as we speak, so she'll be mvoed tonight. We'll see just how much sleep I get tonight. Fingers crossed!

babyruth88 · October 2012

Good luck... she will be ok. Its really hard im sure but you will love having your room back

littleredfish · October 2012

Update: Worst. Sleep. Ever.

I spent the whole night checking on her, staring at the monitor, and when I was sleeping I had the monitor cradled to my ear. I think I would have slept better on the hard floor next to her crib.

On the plus side, she slept fine. I just need to get over my own issues now.

kkchisholm · October 2012

najzomax:
I'm no help but i feel your pain. I caved and moved her crib into our room now the she outgrew her bassinet. I told hubby I wasn't ready and he understood. I probably will keep her in our room for at least a few more months

Exactly me!

notallisonmarie22 · October 2012

littleredfish:
Update: Worst. Sleep. Ever.

I spent the whole night checking on her, staring at the monitor, and when I was sleeping I had the monitor cradled to my ear. I think I would have slept better on the hard floor next to her crib.

On the plus side, she slept fine. I just need to get over my own issues now.

Bless your heart! That sounds like a horrible night. Sad

Do you think if you had a monitor with a movement sensor like Angelcare or Snuza that it may help to relieve some of your anxiety? I love our Angelcare monitor. I don't think I've ever sleep without it.

I hope tonight goes better!

lyndsey774 · October 2012

Linc will be 5 mo tomorrow. The other day DH painted our bedroom and told me it would be a perfect time to take down the bassinet and have LO sleep in the nursery from now on. LO was already spending half the night in there, but as I was tearing down the bassinet I swear my heart was actually breaking in half. Of course because of all the irrational fears you all have mentioned, but also because I am just not ready for him to grow up. I just pray that God will help me to remember these days.

kcircell · October 2012

Can you try and split the night apart, not sure if you have 2 sleeping areas, but that is what we did. Started out the night asleep in our room after the middle of the night feeding which I did in the nursery she would stay there in her crib. I have a whole lot less energy to be anxious when it is 2 am I am half asleep myself, plus the house is already silent.

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