when to move on? (XP, DC mention)

p_stone · October 2012

HI there, I've been posting to SIF and M/C/Loss, but I thought you ladies might have some wise insights here. For those of you who have had multiple m/cs (I've now had 3) or who have other health challenges, and particularly those of you who are blessed to have a child already, how have you made peace, if you have, with stopping TTC?

Our IF journey started in 2008. We were blessed with one successful IVF. we have gotten pregnant twice on our own, both m/c at 8 weeks, just tried FET, m/c again and was quite sick. am really having a tough time with this last one because I know it was our last real chance and I just need to stop trying. My body has already quit on me, and I'm AMA, but my mind just isn't there yet. We have one frozen embryo left but it's poor quality (day 7) and I know it won't work. I just need to stop, but somehow I am having a hard time letting go of having another child.

I'm sure a lot of it is struggling with long-term IF and still being frustrated with that and somehow wanting to "beat" it, even though we have been lucky enough to have success, I still feel like I'm fighting it. Any advice?

Many thanks, and warm thoughts to all who are on this difficult journey.

jillychris · October 2012

You may get more responses on the SAIF board...more women who beat IF for number 1 and are trying for their second or deciding to not try. Most women here are still struggling for their first.

With that said, I am so sorry for your losses. Loss after IF is just unfair. I wish you luck and peace as you move forward.

Mrs.McIrish · October 2012

This isn't the right forum for your question. 99% of us have no children so most of us have not stopped trying yet or if we have, a life with no children is certainly different than your situation. I'm not discounting that this is hard for you for you but I agree with PP that perhaps SAIF can answer or commiserate with you better than we can.

glueck · October 2012

I am so sorry for your pain. I hear it when I read you post, and sadness overwhelmed me. IF is so cruel and it takes its toll. I wish I knew what to say.

None of us are in the same place in our journey as you are in yours, so we won't be particularly helpful. SAIF is definitely the right place to ask. They will have the experience to guide you in ways we are not equipped.

What we are good for in this situation are hugs and support. I hope that you can find the peace your soul needs.

Good luck.

p_stone · October 2012

thanks ladies, I wasn't sure where to put this kind of question.

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