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CFjo2010
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I guess being disappointed makes me the crazy one
CFjo2010
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I had posted previously that BD will be in Vegas in October visiting family and that I was trying to figure out what to do if he asked to see the kids. Well sure enough, he'll be in Vegas in a week according to his niece on FB.
In one week he'll be 3 hours away from the kids as opposed to across the Country. And he hasn't made an effort to contact me about seeing the kids. His wife hasn't asked about seeing the kids. His mother hasn't asked about seeing the kids. He has a CS contempt hearing on October 29th, and we have a hearing in November regarding the temporary orders regarding his stunt this Summer and the supervised visitation. I was really hoping he would pretend to give a damn about the kids just for appearance sake. Looks like I was wrong.
I know I shouldn't be surprised. More than a few of you awesome ladies commented on the post that he more than likely wouldn't try to see the kids. But I was hoping he would. I know that makes me crazy. I accept that. I just feel bad for the kids. My son knows his father is going to be somewhat local and that BD hasn't mentioned anything to any of us. My son hasn't said anything to me about it, but I can tell it hurts him. He's been extra buddy-buddy with DH lately. Almost like he's trying to prove that he doesn't need BD because he has another man to step in and be a father. Thankfully the kids both have really packed schedules the next few weekends so maybe my son won't think about it as much.
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Re: I guess being disappointed makes me the crazy one
Your BD is a piece of sh!t and really annoys me. Sorry for being so honest. It blows my mind that he won't even ASK to see the kids. I am glad your kids have your DH - even if he isn't their father. Keeping them really busy should help your DS. T&Ps your way for him.
I just wanted to throw in my two cents. I understand kinda how you feel. My situation is a little similar, a little different. My stepsons have a BM who is completely AWOL at the moment. She lives in a different state but has left her bf and her other kid who is being raised by bf's parents. She OD'd, got fired, facing jail time (if not there already), stole drugs from new bf and left... Most of this the boys don't know. They only know she is missing and is having problems. They are getting older and more aware of her actions, or rather, her lack of actions. We tell them it's not their fault, we know she loves them but we just don't know where she is or how to contact her. They make comments here and there and have even said they are disappointed in her. It's like you really want them to have a good relationship with her and you want BM to take initiative and be a good parent. You can tell they are hurting. But it's hard when you don't know what to do or say to make them feel better. Nobody can make someone be a good parent. Her actions are out of our control. All we can do is make sure we are doing a good job with them. Sorry your kids' BF is a dbag.
You're not crazy. You're a good mom who wants her kids to feel wanted. I'm glad your H is stepping in for your son and reminding him that SOMEONE wants him. And I'm sure he knows how much you love him. You're doing all you can, Jo.