Unexpected Gift....(kinda long)

Kismet21 · December 2008

Last night we went to dinner at a coworkers house. I LOVE him and his wife and we don't get to hang out with them near enough. When we first met them a few years ago, she had just had their second child. They were very honest with us about their TTC issues. She had 2?miscarriages?before their first daughter. ?She had two more before they had their son. I always?appreciated?how open she was about it. We were not even TTC at the time.?

Last night she asked how things were going with us. This time, I did not lie. Looked at DH for approval, then we told them about our spermie issues. She launched into all of the?fertility?"speak" and it was so nice to talk in real life with someone who knows as much as I do from these boards. She was not a nestie, but did use the FF community boards and said she made some life long friends.?

I told her all of the things we were doing, that we have an RE appointment, that we are charting...

At that point, she said she had something for me and gave me her CBFM! I was shocked! Now I just need to learn how to use the darn thing.

I was pleasantly surprised with a wonderful unexpected gift and a chance to talk openly about this issues of TTC.?

Jillian356 · December 2008

That is sooooo AWESOME. How sweet of her, you have a great friend!

MrsBro6116 · December 2008

What a kind and generous person. You are lucky to have someone like that you can talk to IRL.

Smile

Ms.Fitz · December 2008

How sweet!

candy_mandy85 · December 2008

what a wonderful present, and how great to talk to somebody who knows what you are going through

gina325 · December 2008

WOW, she's awesome!! Very thoughtful of her

$Shoegirl$ · December 2008

That is great Kismet! I know its nice to have someone to talk about ttc IRL, no one knew for us and I found it hard. Our neighbors (and friends) told us they are ttc, so I just give her as much information as I can just because it would have been soooo nice to have that when we were ttc!

vintageblnde · December 2008

That was so sweet of her. Sometimes its the small little gestures that make such a big difference in someone's life.

wow that was very hallmark of me.

Kismet21 · December 2008

The real best part was how her DH talked about it. My DH is having a bit of a hard time knowing the IF issues are "his." I keep telling him they are "ours."?

Her DH (my coworker) was awesome! He talked about how people ask about when they were going to have kids and he just wanted to scream at them..."Um, you don't really want to know. Do you want me to tell you that we lost another baby two months ago and that it is really hard. Um, no, you don't want to know so stop asking." ?Of course, he never said this to anyone, but it was what he was thinking.

I think it made my DH feel better knowing that other "husbands" have a hard time on this journey too.

The whole thing was really great. ?