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Is it the end of your social life

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having 2u2? DH and I want 5 children and I don't want to be stuck in the little years for a full decade or more so I see advantages in ttc soon. Our current plan is start again in March. I'm just wondering do you have a really hard time getting out of the house and socializing with people? I do tend to get stir crazy so I wonder if it helps to space them more or if it doesn't make a difference.
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  • kcisthebombdotcomkcisthebombdotcom member

    No, I don't feel like I have a difficult time getting out. We do have my parents close by for babysitters though.

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  • blueandgrayblueandgray member

    We vowed not to give up our social life because of kids (within reason).  Instead of getting together with friends over dinner or drinks every weekend night, we meet up with them during the day over lunch, or at the park, or a festival pushing the stroller.  We also spend a lot more time with friends that have kids - meet at one of our houses for an early BBQ dinner and leave by 7 to get the kids in bed on time. Outside of working around naptime, I think its still do-able with 2 kids.  Will baby fuss or toddler scream at some point?  Maybe.  But its not the end of the world, and I think exposing them to lots of people and social interactions can't be such a bad thing. 

    And we utilize my in-laws and my sister to babysit at least once a month so we didn't completely give up fun dinners out with friends, or as date night.

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  • laura1laura1 member
    Our social life has definitely quieted down since having our kids, but we still get out and do things.  We meet up with others with kids for barbecues, early dinners out with the kids, or we get a sitter (usually my parents or sister) to go out for dinner, etc with friends.  It is often easier for us to do "girls nights" and "guys nights" because the other of us is around to watch the kids.  I go to a book club once a month and do a girls night out every so often.  Those also work because the kids go to bed by 7, so we both put them to bed and then one of us leaves for our night out.  
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  • silkyhorsesilkyhorse

    Kids have definitely put a damper on our social life as a couple.  I get out in the mornings with the kids, of course, but nights go quickly b/c of bedtime and weekends are tough b/c of naps.

    We're done with two, and I'm glad we had them so close together so that these little years will be done with quickly and we can start having a bit more social life.  Otherwise, we would just be starting to get to do fun things and then we'd have to go back to babies again - no thank you! :)

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  • MammaBear81MammaBear81 member
    It will be the end of your social life if you let it be.  I don't go out and "party every weekend", but I never was that kind of person.  We have friends over, or go out whenever the occasion arises. Our kids go to bed at 8pm and we will invite friends to come over for dinner and a movie, etc.
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  • Monsieur_et_Madame_HaMonsieur_et_Madame_Ha member

    It is not the end of ALL social life, but it is the end of a specific type of social life.

    As PP said, late dinners and drinks aren't really part of our life anymore. Instead we hang out a lot more with our friends who have kids. Also, we go out during the day more, so brunches have replaced dinners a lot.

    So no, it won't kill your social life, but it will most definitely change it :) 

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  • Lahardy96Lahardy96
    It isn't the end if you don't let it be. The key is having babysitters lined up. We are lucky that my inlaws live nearby and love to babysit. But we also have an arrangement with another couple with kids, we alternate months. We watch their kids one month and they watch ours the next month (for one night). And we found a jr. High student at church and just found another one in the neighborhood. Not wild all nighters, but we do get out a couple times a month.
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