Do I tell...

tiffanyandjason2012 · August 2012

Since me and my DH are TTC I have told some of my friends and family but idk if I should let people know until we are actually pregnant? Has anyone else been excited about trying and tell people? I just dont know if its a good or bad thing b/c if it doesnt happen right away! Thoughts?!

Akiesha · August 2012

I'd say it's up to you to decide if you want to tell everyone or not. Me and DH were together for 16+ years before we got married so everyone pretty much new what are plans were. I tell everyone I think it's too exciting too keep to myself. Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

EmersonALK · August 2012

That is ALL up to the two of you.

I will tell you what we did tho. We were I'd say half TTC and we were quite excited about it. We knew that we were both ready and despite the timing being a little off as far as he just started Law School, we just felt it in our hearts that it was the right time for us. I wanted to talk about it with people all the time. I had (and still have) millions of questions about everything baby. But...we decided and agreed that we wouldn't tell anybody about it until we got pregnant. Well, that didn't really work out, you see. I needed someone to talk to that had or was going through the same thing. So, we told my mom, we figured the least judgmental person and who we could trust to actually keep it a secret, she had been pressing for more grandbabies (for our first) for some time (we have been together 6 years now). So, it was nice to have someone to talk to about the excitement, and for me that person being my mom made it even better.

Then there was a small family function and my cousin, who, mind you, had up to this point swore she would never have kids, told me about how she and her husband were going to start trying this fall, OF COURSE I HAD TO TELL HER WE WERE TOO! And it worked out even better because they weren't telling ANYBODY about their efforts TTC either, but we had one another to talk to.

So, in my case, even tho we really didn't want to tell any one about our efforts, the two people that we did end up telling, understood the importance to us to keep it hushed and I had some people, besides my husband, that we were trying and get all "woo-y" and excited with.

You may want to tell someone who understands your situation and maybe is or has been in the same scenario, so that way you can get your venting out for all of your excitement (because only so much can be said between partners) and so that way it doesn't just explode out of you, like I had come close to doing before I had someone to talk to.

Linds886 · August 2012

I've told two of my friends and that's all. No one else I would want to tell would give me the reaction that I want from them. I am finding it hard not to tell anyone else though...that's why I had to join this site!

crystaljoanna · August 2012

I was really excited to begin the process of TTC and told all of our close friends and family. But it hasn't happened as quickly as I had hoped. And it has created a nightmare in having people ask me "Are you pregnant yet?" all the time. Because it hasn't happened as fast, I've grown more concerned and each question I get like that is another reminder. If I had to do it all over again, I don't think I would tell anyone. Maybe one close friend, but that's it.

tiffanyandjason2012 · August 2012

EmersonALK:

That is ALL up to the two of you.

I will tell you what we did tho. We were I'd say half TTC and we were quite excited about it. We knew that we were both ready and despite the timing being a little off as far as he just started Law School, we just felt it in our hearts that it was the right time for us. I wanted to talk about it with people all the time. I had (and still have) millions of questions about everything baby. But...we decided and agreed that we wouldn't tell anybody about it until we got pregnant. Well, that didn't really work out, you see. I needed someone to talk to that had or was going through the same thing. So, we told my mom, we figured the least judgmental person and who we could trust to actually keep it a secret, she had been pressing for more grandbabies (for our first) for some time (we have been together 6 years now). So, it was nice to have someone to talk to about the excitement, and for me that person being my mom made it even better.

Then there was a small family function and my cousin, who, mind you, had up to this point swore she would never have kids, told me about how she and her husband were going to start trying this fall, OF COURSE I HAD TO TELL HER WE WERE TOO! And it worked out even better because they weren't telling ANYBODY about their efforts TTC either, but we had one another to talk to.

So, in my case, even tho we really didn't want to tell any one about our efforts, the two people that we did end up telling, understood the importance to us to keep it hushed and I had some people, besides my husband, that we were trying and get all "woo-y" and excited with.

You may want to tell someone who understands your situation and maybe is or has been in the same scenario, so that way you can get your venting out for all of your excitement (because only so much can be said between partners) and so that way it doesn't just explode out of you, like I had come close to doing before I had someone to talk to.

See thats my issue b/c I would have to explain to everyone that I have to go through medication and bloodwork and all this stuff to even conceive. I want to tell people we are TTC but I am afraid that if it dont happen right away people are going to keep asking. So I have so many mixed emotions about this!!!

Dr.Loretta · August 2012

Why on earth would you share that part of your sex life? Let them know when you're pregnant, not when you're trying.

BallSox · September 2012

Ditto Dr L. Short of your mom, your mil and any sisters or sil's, no one really wants to know about your sex life.

We all have that one over-sharer in our lives....

Plus, any time you don't feel well or don't drink you're going to get lots of looks and questions and any holiday/special event, they are going to be waiting for your "big surprise!".

socialwkrsweetie · October 2012

Because I'm high risk, some of my closest friends (maybe 5 people) and my Mom know but no one on his side. They knew I was getting my IUD out and would try soon after. He wants to tell everyone but because there could be so many complications for us I just want to wait to tell "everyone"! Good luck!

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