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Nora DOES NOT want to wean, but I do...

missyisheremissyishere member
in October 2011 Moms

When I went on my little mommy vacation, I had hopes we would be completely weaned shortly after.  Well- it only seemed to go backward since coming home.  We seemed to have added more nursing rather than taking away.  It started when I tried to transition from a bottle to a sippy.  I've finally got her to not take a bottle, but she isn't interesting in taking in enough milk when in a sippy.  On top of that, she started getting the poops from teething, so I decided to nurse more in order to ensure the WCM wasn't affecting her stools.  She also prefers to nurse more when teething.  With all of that, she now begs to nurse from me.  She pulls my shirt down and cries for it if I don't let her nurse.  I will try to give her the sippy cup instead of nursing, and she will scream and throw it.  How do I get her away from wanting mommy?  I don't want to cause her to get so upset, but I know it will only get worse if I continue to give into her. 



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  • karinothingkarinothing member
    I know this is not the advice you probably want to hear, but could you give it a few weeks/a month and try again. From what I have read, it is so much easier when both parties are ready, maybe she just needs a bit more time (she might have regressed a bit since she likely missed you when you went on vacation).
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    imagekarinothing:
    I know this is not the advice you probably want to hear, but could you give it a few weeks/a month and try again. From what I have read, it is so much easier when both parties are ready, maybe she just needs a bit more time she might have regressed a bit since she likely missed you when you went on vacation.
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  • missyisheremissyishere member

    imageHappyAardvark:
    imagekarinothing:
    I know this is not the advice you probably want to hear, but could you give it a few weeks/a month and try again. From what I have read, it is so much easier when both parties are ready, maybe she just needs a bit more time she might have regressed a bit since she likely missed you when you went on vacation.
    kari is wise

     Thank you, ladies. I know you ladies are right. I really feel selfish and terrible about wanting to stop, but I'm just worried it will get harder to wean the longer I keep going.  I guess I'm just anxious by nature and worry about everything not working out.  I am very fortunate I've been able to nurse this long and to be a SAHM.  I may start taking her to daycare here and there for just a couple of hours, so I can get some time to more easily run errands and for her to have some play time without mommy. 



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    imageHappyAardvark:
    imagekarinothing:
    I know this is not the advice you probably want to hear, but could you give it a few weeks/a month and try again. From what I have read, it is so much easier when both parties are ready, maybe she just needs a bit more time she might have regressed a bit since she likely missed you when you went on vacation.
    kari is wise

     Thank you, ladies. I know you ladies are right. I really feel selfish and terrible about wanting to stop, but I'm just worried it will get harder to wean the longer I keep going.  I guess I'm just anxious by nature and worry about everything not working out.  I am very fortunate I've been able to nurse this long and to be a SAHM.  I may start taking her to daycare here and there for just a couple of hours, so I can get some time to more easily run errands and for her to have some play time without mommy. 

    I don't think you should feel bad about wanting to stop. You made it a year, that is amazing! I also don't think it will be harder to wean later on. From what I have heard the worst time to wean is when the child is in the middle of some transition/upheavel (which is why after vacation may be harder). Obviously, the easiest is when the child is ready to do it themselves but a lot of people can't wait until that point for obvious reasons. I heard from a lot of folks that a "good time" is between 13-18 months, but I am pretty sure that is not really based on anything other than luck.

     Regardless, I think most experts suggest weaning very slowly. I read once to think of it as a long goodbye. Remember you aren't only weaning your child from a food source, but from a comfort source as well. When you are ready I would focus on replacing a nusring session with a cup like you have been doing, then work on shortening nursing sessions, and distracting her when she wants to nurse. I would also work on cutting out midday non-sleep related nursing sessions first. I think some daycare time sounds like a good choice! It will be nice for you to get out and it will be a great way for her to develop her social skills.

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