3 siblings, 2 with the same first letter? Yes or No?

elizhope · October 2012

Sorry, I know I post a lot, but you guys are so helpful with this and my husband thinks Ive gone obsessive over this name thing.

I have a Charlotte and an Ethan. I have always said I couldnt name this new little girl a name that starts with and E because then Charlotte would feel left out. For example: Charlotte, Ethan and Emma.

My DH and family thinks Im crazy. What do you all think? I dont want my oldest daughter to wonder why she didnt get an E name too. Ive always heard either all the kids names start with the same letter, or all have different ones....

This has come to light, because I cant get the name Emma out of my head,no matter how hard I try. Regardless of the crazy over-popularity, i just love it...

526SadieSadie · October 2012

I think you're overthinking it. That's like saying if two of your kids were born in the same month or same season you'd want the third one to be born then too so he or she wouldn't be left out. It's just silly. Name baby #3 the name you love.

kayjay10 · October 2012

I think you're over-thinking this. I promise your DD Charlotte will not be scarred for life because she doesn't have an E name Big Smile

I really only think about style when selecting sib set names, not initails, first letters, length of name, etc.

FWIW I really love Emma even though it's popular too!

WashingtonQueen · October 2012

I agree with your DH. Stick out tongue

WenchHeart · October 2012

It's fine. I doubt anyone (including your daughter) would wonder why her name doesn't start with an E. Now, if your name and your DH's also started with an E, I would wonder why Charlotte's name didn't.

elizhope · October 2012

WenchHeart:
It's fine. I doubt anyone (including your daughter) would wonder why her name doesn't start with an E. Now, if your name and your DH's also started with an E, I would wonder why Charlotte's name didn't.

My name does, its Elizabeth... DH starts with an M

I think I may be crazy LOL

MrsD1 · October 2012

I don't think it matters in this case.

One of my cousins always got teased growing up by her sisters because her name starts with a "K" and her three sisters' names start with "Sh." She always felt left out. Now that I'd rethink but your situation is fine.

elizhope · October 2012

kayjay10:
I think you're over-thinking this. I promise your DD Charlotte will not be scarred for life because she doesn't have an E name

I really only think about style when selecting sib set names, not initails, first letters, length of name, etc.

FWIW I really love Emma even though it's popular too!

Does Charlotte, Ethan and Emma all sound similar in style to you? Ive loved the name Emma for a decade, I cant believe how popular it is though. But that didnt matter to us when we named Ethan... so not sure why Im concerning myself now

Littledeer84 · October 2012

I was a C name while my Dad, brother, and sister were all J names. I did notice it as a kid, but it really did not bother me. Go with what you love!

elizhope · October 2012

MrsD1:
I don't think it matters in this case.
One of my cousins always got teased growing up by her sisters because her name starts with a "K" and her three sisters' names start with "Sh." She always felt left out. Now that I'd rethink but your situation is fine.

But isnt that almost the same thing? Or maybe a little different because I have a boy thrown in there? Funny, Im totally willing to use a C name, but an E name is what makes me nervous

EastCoastBride · October 2012

Overthinking. If she ever actually does say something to the effect of being "left out", I'd just be chill about it and say "Oh, that has nothing to w/ the names we picked. We picked names we loved. We didn't want to name Emma something different SIMPLY because of the first initial. Then SHE would have been "left out" of having a name we loved! (said w/ a wink....)".

WenchHeart · October 2012

elizhope:

WenchHeart:
It's fine. I doubt anyone (including your daughter) would wonder why her name doesn't start with an E. Now, if your name and your DH's also started with an E, I would wonder why Charlotte's name didn't.

My name does, its Elizabeth... DH starts with an M

I think I may be crazy LOL

Lol. I still think it's fine. I know all about over thinking sibling names, go with the name you love.

hmr22 · October 2012

I don't think youare are overthinking it at all, I think most parents just don't think about this kind of thing enough. My bestfriend has a name that starts with a 'C', her two younger sisters both have names that start with 'S', she has always felt slighted or left out. In my honest opinion think you should take Emma off the list.

bumpuser5823822 · October 2012

I think that only really factors in when you have like 5 or 6 with the same letter (like the Duggars). When its 2/3 its just by chance. Especially since the "trend" didn't start with the first child.

If you love Emma, use it.

kayjay10 · October 2012

elizhope:
kayjay10:

I think you're over-thinking this. I promise your DD Charlotte will not be scarred for life because she doesn't have an E name

I really only think about style when selecting sib set names, not initails, first letters, length of name, etc.

FWIW I really love Emma even though it's popular too!

Does Charlotte, Ethan and Emma all sound similar in style to you? Ive loved the name Emma for a decade, I cant believe how popular it is though. But that didnt matter to us when we named Ethan... so not sure why Im concerning myself now

I do think they are similar style. Charlotte is probably the most classic of the three, but still similar style. I would consider it odd if you have Charlotte, Ethan and London or some other trendy name.

StarBe · October 2012

hmr22:
I don't think you're are over thinking it at all, I think most parents just don't think about this kind of thing enough. My best friend has a name that starts with a 'C', her two younger sisters both have names that start with 'S', she has always felt slighted or left out. In my honest opinion think you should take Emma off the list.

I've heard of a similar situation to the above. Silly yes but hurt feelings non-the-less. Emma would make a beautiful MN and then you could call her Emma if you wanted but give her a different first name... just a thought. I'm sure you will figure out what is best for you and your family! GL!

strawberrytree · October 2012

It's NBD to me. If she asks, just tell her you chose names you loved, and wouldn't have wanted to use a name you didn't love just so they could all have different initials.

You could also point out that Ethan and Emma share an E, but Charlotte and Emma share a double letter.

MelissaRae1525 · October 2012

I personally wouldn't do it but I'm OCD like that. My brother has the same initials as my mom and as a kid I thought it was unfair that they had the same initials and I didn't have the same as anyone. It didn't scar me for life or anything but I did notice it without anyone pointing it out to me.

AEN1029 · October 2012

I agree with PPs. You're overthinking just a bit. My DDs are Allyson and Aubrey and my name is Amy. DC3 probably won't have a name starting with A, though. It's no big deal.

Mrs.G123 · October 2012

My two sisters have A names. I don't. I have never worried about this for even a minute. Use Emma!

+lisamarie+ · October 2012

I am in a similar situation...my DH, DS, and DD all have "C" names. Now that 3 is on the way I am struggling with whether or not to do another "C" name. DS was on purpose and DD's was just what we loved....now I'm not sure what to do for 3!!

PepVeroni · October 2012

I agree with the majority of the answers that it would be okay. I have a somewhat similar dilemma (see my thread), but in your case I feel like I'd keep Emma, especially since you love it. In my case, I'm not even sure I love the name anyway, so it may be a moot point.

blu-eyedwife · October 2012

You may be crazy, but I'd feel the same way. I won't name any of our future children a name with the same first letter as me, my husband, or our son.

SLHurst11 · October 2012

elizhope:

MrsD1:

I don't think it matters in this case.

One of my cousins always got teased growing up by her sisters because her name starts with a "K" and her three sisters' names start with "Sh." She always felt left out. Now that I'd rethink but your situation is fine.

But isnt that almost the same thing? Or maybe a little different because I have a boy thrown in there? Funny, Im totally willing to use a C name, but an E name is what makes me nervous

Very different, I think. So, you're Elizabeth. If you had 3 sisters named Shannon, Shirley, and Shelley, that would be weird because they are REALLY similar. Ethan and Emma aren't matchy, the only similarity is the first letter. Plus, the "E" sound isn't even the same in those names.

Angela814 · October 2012

I wouldn't worry about it.

I have an Annalise Marie and a Charlotte Ella. If this baby is a boy, our current name is Alexander Malachi. So not only same first letter, same initials also. I don't think it's a big deal.

columbiamommy · October 2012

I am in the same boat. I have Eleanor and Sam, and my favorite name for DD#2 is Eliza. However, I'm worried that Eleanor will be sad that she has to share the same first initial with her sister. I don't think Sam will care that his name isn't an E name like his sisters'. The other name on our list is Charlotte. It's a beautiful name, and we would be completely committed to it if our last name didn't start with a "sh" sound like Charlotte.

That being said, I think Emma would be completely fine with your other two kids' names. They sound great together, and I never even thought of that the one kid without the E initial would feel left out.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · October 2012

Weren't you asking about Caitlin a few days ago? In that case your daughters would have had "C" names and your son an "E" name, which is the same situation, just switched. I guess I am confused why that didn't bother you but the "E" thing is?

Regardless, I think you are overthining it--unless you and your hsuband both have E names too, and even that is overthinking. So, I wouldn't worry about it.

granolaok · October 2012

I think it's totally fine

kpaivel · October 2012

I see why as a mother you would be worried. I do believe we have the tendency to over-think these types of things though. If you love the name Emma, go for it.

elizhope · October 2012

CherylAnn789:
Weren't you asking about Caitlin a few days ago? In that case your daughters would have had "C" names and your son an "E" name, which is the same situation, just switched. I guess I am confused why that didn't bother you but the "E" thing is?

Regardless, I think you are overthining it--unless you and your hsuband both have E names too, and even that is overthinking. So, I wouldn't worry about it.

Yea, I said in an earlier reply that I dont mind using a C name. If both girls had C names and my only boy had an E name, that is okay with me.

Its the two girls Im concerned about. I think its because Im already scared of the competition the two might have.. jealousy, etc... I dont want to add fuel to the fire. I dont want Charlotte to come to me and be upset that her brother and sister have E names and she doesnt. Whereas I dont think the boy would care if his name isnt the same as his two sisters. I know this makes no sense at all... I think Im overprotective of the girls... they can be so dramatic

elizhope · October 2012

columbiamommy:
I am in the same boat. I have Eleanor and Sam, and my favorite name for DD#2 is Eliza. However, I'm worried that Eleanor will be sad that she has to share the same first initial with her sister. I don't think Sam will care that his name isn't an E name like his sisters'. The other name on our list is Charlotte. It's a beautiful name, and we would be completely committed to it if our last name didn't start with a "sh" sound like Charlotte.
That being said, I think Emma would be completely fine with your other two kids' names. They sound great together, and I never even thought of that the one kid without the E initial would feel left out.

LOVE the name Eleanor. Great choice! I feel the same about my boy. I dont think he would ever care one way or the other. Girls are different... they think about things like that and can get their feelings hurt more easily. Or at least in my opinion and life experiences...

queenbone · October 2012

It's a NO for me. I want each of my children do have a different fist letter. I have adored the name Fiona for years, but when we named our second son Francis, an important family name for DH, I let the ship sail on Fiona.

Can you use Emma in the MN spot?

letman · October 2012

I don't think your daughter will notice or that it will bother her....if you're really worried about it you can start planning on a 4th child and give that child a "C" name!!! Lol! My two older kids and my husband's names all start with the same letter and when this new baby comes along, her name will start with the same letter as my name.

Natesmom05 · October 2012

I have 2 girls with A names & am about to have a 3rd girl and I think we're going with an E name. Everyone expected us to pick another A name but we can't agree on one. I'm hoping my kid won't care.

kim1989 · October 2012

I don't know why so many people make a big deal about kids having or not having the same first letter as their siblings. If you like a name, us the name. If it begins with the same letter as one of your existing children there's nothing wrong with that and I don't think it leaves the other one out that starts with a different letter

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